Msungwana aliyense ndi mkazi, mosasamala za msinkhu wawo, akufuna kukwatira. Vuto loyamba ndi kupeza munthu woyenera banja. Kwa omwe akuwopsya kukwatira sikoyenera, ndipo amene akuyimira, ndi kovuta kwambiri kupeza.
Vuto lachiwiri ndilokusunga ukwati. Osati kungopulumutsa, koma kukhala okondwa muukwati. Kodi tingatani kuti tikhalebe aulemu, chikondi komanso chilakolako chokwatirana? Tiyerekeze kuti muli ndi oyenerera kwa amuna, kapena mwangoyamba kumene kukhala limodzi, mutsimikiza kuti muli ndi chiyanjano. Kodi mukuyenera kutsatira malamulo kuti zibwenzi m'banja zikhale zolimba pa nthawi, ndipo banja lanu lakhala losangalala?
Maganizo a "akuluakulu" kumverera - kulamulira ndi kuzindikira
Ndipotu, zonse ndi zophweka. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mkazi adziŵe kuyendetsa mtima wake, kotero kuti mawu alionse a mwamuna wake wa chikhalidwe chonse sadziwika mofanana ndi munthuyo. Ngati simunaphunzire izi, muyenera kumangodandaula nthawi zonse, ndipo izi sizikuwonjezera ku chimwemwe chanu. Musanayankhe yankho la funso la momwe mungakhalire ulemu, chikondi ndi chilakolako muukwati, dziwone nokha ndipo mudziwe kumene - "maphwando" anu, ndikuti.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti munthuyo amve yekha mwini wake wa mkhalidwewo, mutu wa banja, choncho munthu sayenera kupanga zosankha zayekha, ngakhale mutakhala ndi ndondomeko yoyenera. Perekani ufulu wopanga chisankho kwa mwamuna wanu, ndipo ngati ndinu mkazi wanzeru, mumutsogolere ku chisankho cholondola, koma kuti mwamunayo amve ngati ali ndi mwayi wotsogolera banja. Izi sizidzakuthandizani kuti mukhalebe olemekezeka pa chikondi komanso chilakolako chaukwati, komanso kumuthandiza kuti apitirize kupanga zosankha zofunika pa banja. Muyenera kumutsogolera ku zisankho zanzeru izi, ndipo iyi ndi yankho lokhalo la funso la momwe mungakhalire ulemu, chikondi ndi chilakolako chaukwati.
Ngati mutengapo nokha chisankho cha mavuto onse a m'banja, posachedwapa mutha kuona kuti mwamuna wanu wasiya chidwi ndi zochitika za m'banja - ndipo popanda iye zonse zophikidwa, komanso adasowa chidwi ndi mwini wake m'banja. Ndikofunika kuti muthe kulera mwamuna kuchokera kwa mwamuna, kuti asamachite kutenga ndi kutenga udindo wa banja.
Ulemu
Funso lofunika kwambiri - pamene mwakwatirana, kodi mumalemekeza mwamuna wanu? Ndikuganiza kuti yankho lidzakhala lokha. Kodi ndi mkazi wotani amene angakwatire ndi mwamuna yemwe samamulemekeza? Ndiye bwanji mu nthawi ya banja la banja nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mwamunayo sakulephereka kuonedwa kuti ndi wofunika kwambiri m'banja, kumupangitsa iye kumunyozetsa, kusokoneza, kumuletsa iye kugonana, chomwe chiri chizindikiro choti munthuyo sakulemekezedwa? Kodi mkazi angasangalale, akhale ndi ulemu, chikondi ndi chilakolako chaukwati, ngati salemekeza mwamuna wake monga munthu, wopeza, mnzake? Ayi ndithu. Kunyada kwa mwamuna wake, iwe umadzichepetsa wekha poyamba. Ndi ndani yemwe anganene, kuti simungapereke mwamuna wanu zinthu zopanda pake? Kumbukirani, zonse zimene mumapatsa mwamuna wanu, mumapatsa banja lanu, izi ndizo zopereka zanu ku chuma chanu chachisangalalo. Phunzirani kupatsa mwamuna wanu chikondi ndi chisamaliro, ndipo adzakuyankhani chimodzimodzi.
Mwamuna ndiye woteteza!
Ndikofunika kuti munthu amve ngati akutetezedwa ndi banja lake. Musamukakamize munthu kuti achite chinachake, ndi kumunyoza iye chifukwa chosagwirizana. Muyenera kumusonyeza kuti ndinu wofooka, zomwe mukufunikiradi mwa iye, ziri mwa iye, osati mwa kuthandizira kwake. Munthu ali ndi maganizo amenewa amamulimbikitsa! Mulimonsemo mungathe kusonyeza mphamvu zanu kwa mwamuna, makamaka popeza muli amphamvu kuposa iye. Mwamuna sangakhoze kulimbana ndi mpikisano wotere ndikusiya banja. Mwachibadwa iye ndi woteteza, ndipo iwe, mkazi wake, uyenera kukhala wotetezedwa, chifukwa ndife ofooka ndipo timafunikira izo.
Izi zikukulolani kuti mupitirize kudzilemekeza yekha, ndi chikondi, chilakolako chaukwati. Zidzakhala zabwino ngati mukudziwa za zofuna za mwamuna wanu, zosangalatsa zake ndi zokondweretsa. Osati kungodziwa, koma kukhala ndi chidwi mbali iyi ya moyo wake. Apo ayi, iye adzakumbukira kuti simukumukonda, chifukwa zofuna zake ndizo kupitiriza kwake. Iwe, mkazi wake, ndiyenso kupitiriza kwake.
Chifukwa cha ichi, ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti palibe munthu amene akusowa kupitilira yekha, choncho mkazi wochititsa manyazi ayesa kuchotsa mkazi wonyansa.
Kusokonezeka kwauve - chakudya ndi kugonana
Mwamuna wake sakusowa kokha kukonda, koma komanso kukonda, zimakhudza ntchito ya panyumba. Pankhani ya kugonana, ndiye kuti simungathe kuletsa mwamuna wanu kugonana pazochitika zilizonse. Iyi ndi njira yokhayo yosungira ulemu, mgwirizano, chikondi ndi chilakolako chaukwati - popanda kuwagwiritsa ntchito!
Mwamuna sayenera kudzimva yekha akudziletsa pankhaniyi. Kwa iye, kugonana ndikofunika kwambiri! Ndipo ngati mutsogolera zochita zake pogonana, m'malo momasunga chikondi ndi ulemu, mudzawaika pangozi. Mundikhulupirire ine, mwamuna wodumpha mwakhumudwa, mwamsanga mwamsanga kupeza chilakolako kumbali, kuti akhale wodziimira pa nkhaniyi. Ndi bwino kumamatira kumalo omwe amaletsa mwamuna wanu kugonana, mumadziletsa nokha, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mukuchita zoipa kwambiri m'banja lanu lonse.
Kodi tingachite popanda malangizo?
Posakhalitsa, banja lanu lidzakhala ndi ana. Mtolo wa inu ndi mwamuna wanu udzawonjezeka kangapo. Muloleni amve kuti mukuwona ndikuyamikira nkhawa yake, mwamuna ayenera kudzipangitsa kuti apambane, koma izi zimamupatsa mphamvu. Mwamuna ayenera kutenga nawo mbali polera ana, ndipo sayenera kusokoneza. Mwamuna sayenera kupereka uphungu, akhoza kumuchititsa manyazi.
Kupereka uphungu ukhale woyenera kwa mwamuna, monga mutu wa banja ndi woimira wanu. Ndikofunika kuti muthe kukambirana ndi mwamuna wanu, kukambirana ndi injini ya banja lanu kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Musawope kukangana, musazengereze kupempha chikhululukiro ndipo musawope kukhululukira - zonsezi zimathandiza kuti pakhale chiyanjano. Musasokoneze mkangano ndi chinyengo. Kukangana ndikulankhulana bwino pakati pa anthu awiri oyenerera ndi cholinga chopanga chisankho chodziwika, kulola kukhala ndi ulemu, chikondi ndi chilakolako muukwati uliwonse.
Timasankha, ndipo sikutisankha ife!
Payekha, ndikukhulupirira, ndipo si maganizo anga okha omwe samatisankha ife, koma ife akazi timasankha amuna athu ndikusankha mwamuna wathu. Mkazi ayenera kukhala wanzeru, nzosadabwitsa kuti mkazi wakhala akuyang'aniranso kuti ndiye woyang'anira nyumba. Mayi yekha ndi amene amatha kulenga mu banja ndendende momwe akufunira kuti amve mwamuna wake ngati khoma lamwala ndikukhala wokondwa m'banja.