Chikondi chimakhudza kwambiri malingaliro athu. Monga momwe zinawululidwira ndi madokotala akale, chikondi ndi matenda a maganizo ndi zopusa. Mwina mungadabwe, koma ngakhale panopo, zokondana ndi zofanana ndi madokotala ndi matenda.
Zaka zingapo zapitazo, mnyamata wa Chingerezi, adamva zowawa ndipo adamva zowawa chifukwa cha chikondi chosasangalatsa kuti sakanatha kupita kuntchito. Atathamangitsidwa kuchoka kuntchito kuti apite kwawo, adatsutsa ndipo adaligonjetsa. M'bwalo lamilandu, chikondi choipa chinadziwika ngati chifukwa chachikulu chosowapo kwake.
Ku Russia, izi sizingatheke kuti apititse, ndipo palibe khoti limodzi lomwe lingadziwe ngati chifukwa chabwino cha kusowa kwake, chikondi chosasangalatsa. Ziribe kanthu momwe ife tikumverera molakwika ndi kuchuluka kwake komwe sitikumva kuwawa ndi kuvutika chifukwa cha chikondi chosasangalatsa, timapitabe kuntchito, kuchita bizinesi ndi kukhala ndi moyo momwe tingathere. Izi zimachitika kuti chikondi chosasangalatsa chimatibweretsera ululu wosatha.
Amati chikondi sichifulumira, ndipo tingathe kuvutika nacho kuposa chaka chimodzi. Kaya ndi zoona kapena ayi, tidzatha kupeza ngati titafufuza mmene timamvera. Mwina, chirichonse sichili choipa monga ife tikuganizira. Mwinamwake, ife enieni timayambitsa malingaliro awa.
Chinthu choyamba chomwe tifunikira kumvetsetsa tokha ndi chiyani chomwe timamva chifukwa cha chikondi chosasangalatsa kapena kusungulumwa? Ndipotu, timangopeka kukhala ndekha, monga momwe timachitira nthawi zonse kukhalapo, monga momwe timaganizira, ndi wokondedwa. Choyamba, sitiyenera kukhala okhaokha komanso chisoni chathu. Ngati muli ndi chikondi chosadandaula m'moyo, choyamba muyenera kulankhula ndi wina. Ndikuganiza kuti malo anu adzakhalapo anthu omwe adakhalapo kamodzi m'miyoyo yawo. Ndiwo okha omwe adzatha kukupatsani uphungu momwe angadzichiritse okha chikondi chosasangalatsa.
Koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti timatsekera mkati mwathu ndipo sitikufuna kulankhula ndi wina aliyense. Ngakhale mu nthawi ino ya moyo, timafunikira thandizo la anthu apafupi. Pazifukwa zina, sikuti aliyense ali wokhoza kunena za zomwe anakumana nazo. Nanga n'chifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika?
Monga akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena pa nthawi yopuma ndi wokondedwa, timakhala ndi manyazi. Pamene tiphunzira kuti sitidayikidwanso, pa nthawi ino kunyada kwathu kumakhudza. Pamene ubale uli wosweka, kudzidalira kwathu kumagwera. Zikuwoneka kuti palibe amene angatikonde, ndipo kuchokera apa, tikuvutika kwambiri.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti chikondi sichiyesa makhalidwe anu ndipo sichisonyeza kuti ndife oyenera. Ndipo ngati mutapeza kuti simukukondedwa, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu wopusa kapena woipa, palibe kugwirizana. Mu moyo, munthu aliyense amakumana kamodzi ndi chikondi chosasangalatsa ndipo kumverera koteroko kungawonongeke ngati chitsanzo komanso ngati woyang'anira nyumba. Aliyense angathe kuthana ndi vuto ili.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti chilichonse chimene mulibe zoyenera ndi makhalidwe, simungathe kusunga chikondi. Tikatayika okondedwa athu, timakwiya, kukwiya, ndipo timayamba kuganiza zobwezera. Koma izi ndizolakwika ndipo tiyenera kumenyana ndikumverera.
Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti anthu athyola ubale, wina ndi mnzake, akupitirizabe kumamatira chikondi chawo chosasangalatsa. Ndipo pa nthawi ino sitikumvetsa konse kuti sitigwirana ndi chikondi, koma chifukwa cha zomwe takumana nazo.
Nthawi zoterezi musaganizire za zochitika zanu. Kumbukirani munthu amene mudali naye pachibwenzi, ganizirani kuti muli ndi zabwino komanso zovuta. Ganizirani, ngati mukufuna chiyanjano ichi ndipo mukufunadi kupitilira kumva ululu ndi manyazi. Mwinamwake inu simungakhale woyenera kwa mwamuna wanu, ndipo inu simunakumane nawo. Moyo sumaima ndipo muyenera kupitabe patsogolo ndipo musamaope kulowetsa mtima wanu chikondi chatsopano.
Ndikuganiza kuti chifukwa cha malangizo athu, mukhoza kudzichiritsa nokha chikondi chosasangalatsa.