Nchifukwa chiyani chinachitika bwino? Ndi momwe mungatanthauzire mkhalidwewo mwachidziwikire? Kodi zikutanthawuza kuti ubalewu uli pazeng'onong'ono, kapena ndi kanthawi kochepa chabe? Ndi zonsezi zimachitika, kapena kodi izi ndizoipa kwambiri? Mmene mungabwezerere msungwana wamwamuna chifukwa cha mnyamata - werengani m'nkhani yathu yokha.
Musakhale wamanjenje. Izi zimachitika kwa aliyense. Chabwino, pafupifupi ndi aliyense. Ndipo iwe umamupusitsa iye - pa chinthu chirichonse chaching'ono. Iye, mwachitsanzo, amaponyera zinthu, ndipo nthawi zonse mumalankhula naye, kapena pafoni ndi abwenzi ambiri. Ali ndi mavoti ofanana omwe ali ndi mphamvu ya dzanja lanu, ndipo simukupita kumalo ozungulira mankhwala. Iye nthawi zonse amalemba mawu a Nietzsche (osakayikira ngakhale kuti ndi Rozanov), ndipo inu simunadziwe kuti mungathamangire nyama ... Chomwe chiri chikhalidwe, pafupi chaka ndi theka lapitalo, iye anangosokoneza akatswiri afilosofi ndikuponya mathalauza ake ku chandelier , ndipo mumalankhula momveka bwino komanso mophika, koma aliyense anali wokondwa komanso wosangalala. Kuwakwiyitsa msanga kapena mtsogolo kumachitika pawiri iliyonse. Izi ndizochitika zachibadwa, pamene utsi wa chikondi umatha, oxytocin anasiya kutsanulira ubongo ndikubwezeretsa kulingalira mozama. Matenda a mahomoni ndi ofunika kwambiri komanso a maganizo abwino. Ndipotu, siteji yachisangalalo mu moyo wokhudzana ndi gawo la ziyembekezo zolemala. Inde, inu mukudziwa kuti iye ankalankhula, kufalitsa, ndipo mwinanso amamvetsera. Koma inu mumamufuna iye nthawi zonse. Ndipo pa nthawi yomweyi iye amakhulupirira kuti zolephera zing'onozing'ono zingakonzedwe pa nthawi. Iye anali ndi chiyembekezo chofanana cha maluso anu ophikira ndi olemba ... Ndipo tsopano nthawi yadutsa, ndipo inu simunakonzekere. Momwemonso pano musapite nkhanza! Malinga ndi chikhalidwe cha khalidwe, kulera ndi zochitika zam'mbuyomu, mudzawonetsa mkwiyo wanu mozama kwambiri.
Tingawathandize bwanji?
Yesani kusintha kapena kuchepetsa chinthu chomwe wokondedwa wanu amachitira mwamphamvu. Pomaliza, bwanji osalankhulana kwenikweni ndikuphunzira kuphika mbale imodzi yomwe amakonda kwambiri? Kumvetsetsa, potsiriza, ndi chani chomwe chimakukwiyitsani kwambiri-kodi iye mwini kapena zinthu zomwe zimayandikana naye? Zinthu zingathe kutsukidwa kwambiri. Ndipo kodi mwakonzeka kumuchotsa? Ponena za kusakhutira ndi zizoloŵezi zina - kulankhula za chifilosofi ku Germany pa phwando la papepala, kusuta fodya m'chipinda ndi kupewa masewera olimbitsa thupi - munganene moyenera kuti: "Ndimakukondani, koma mundimvetse bwino, ndicho chimene chimandikwiyitsa." Pamapeto pake, amakukondani, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti adzayesa kufanana ndi zomwe mukufuna (ngati, mumaphunzira kuphika ndikusiya kuchita zamagetsi mumasitolo). Ngakhale zitakhala kuti mumakhala ndi makhalidwe enaake, omwe sungapeŵeke: makulidwe a milomo kapena mawonekedwe a maso. Kapena fungo. Kapena mzere wa mawu. Kukula, mtundu ndi kuuma kwa tsitsi, zolemba zonse ndi chiwerengero cha moles. Komanso kukhala wololera, ulesi komanso wosasankhidwa mu kugwirizana (kutopetsa, kugwedezeka, kusokonezeka ndi kusowa chitetezo) ... Mwa kuyankhula kwina, chikhalidwe cha umunthu wake sichigwirizana kwenikweni ndi malingaliro anu okhudza munthu woyenera - pamene chisangalalo choyambitsa chiwerewere chinayamba kuchepa, chinaonekera. Inde, zabwino sizingatheke. Koma kwenikweni, mudakali ndi nthawi yopeza chinthu china chokhala kutali kwambiri.
Palibe chimene chimandivutitsa ine
Kuti tikwaniritse izi ndizofanana ndi chimwemwe. Iye, monga kale, akubwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, akuponya jekete lake ndi kumangirira pa bedi. Ndipo inu simukukakamiza. Mumapachika zovala zake mu chipinda ndipo mumamverera nthawi yomweyo. Koma adaphunzira mwangwiro kuti adzichepetse yekha nyama (ngakhale nsomba) - osati atsikana onse kudziwa kuphika. Mulimonsemo, mumadziŵa bwino kuti zinthu zazing'onozi sizingabweretse mikangano yanu. Ndi chiyani - chikondi chachikhululukiro kapena pofigizm yonse? Zonse ziwiri zingatheke. Ndipo, kawirikawiri, matenda opatsirana kwambiri ndi ofunika kwambiri kuti athe kusiyanitsa wina ndi mzake: pamene mumakonda munthu limodzi ndi zofooka zake zonse (zomwe simukuziona kuti ndi zofooka), mumamva. Ndipo pamene simukumva, simusamala. Ngati chiyanjano chanu chimasokoneza mkwiyo, ichi ndi chizindikiro chowopsya. Zoonadi, moyo ndi inertia ndizothekera kuti mutengere. Palibe amene amalepheretsa aliyense. Pa gawo limodzi ndi anthu awiri, aliyense ali ndi moyo wake, ndi dziko lake. Koma banja siliyenera kutchulidwa. Inu, m'malo momasuka oyandikana nawo. Zosokoneza: ngati mumamukonda, pewani kukhululukira. Zoonadi, Mulungu ali nawo, ali ndi timitengo tomwe timayendetsa pambali pakhomo. Ndi kusowa kwathunthu kwa makutu a makutu ndi anthu a maphunziro. Ndipo ngakhale ndi kuchedwa kwamuyaya. Komabe, ngati mumalimbikitsa kapena kukhululukira zizoloŵezi ndi zochita zomwe zimamupweteka kwambiri mnzanuyo, ndiye kuti mwinamwake maganizo amalephera. Sitikudziwa kuti mungavomereze, mwachitsanzo, chikhumbo cha munthu wokondedwa kwambiri kuti muthetse nkhawa ndi zakumwa zoledzeretsa. Monga msungwana wachikondi, mukhoza kukhudzidwa ndi kuzungulira kwina ndi zofewa zomwe adapeza pamene akukhala nanu. Koma monga mkazi woona mtima muyenera kuvomereza popanda kutonthozedwa kosafunikira kuti mapaundi owonjezera kwa mwamuna si abwino. Kodi iye anasiya ntchito tsiku lina atakangana ndi mkuluyo? Ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri amalumbira ndipo nthawi zonse amakhalabe ntchito? Ngati muli ndi bajeti yofanana, simungayang'ane. Pali zinthu zomwe zimamukhudza yekha, koma pali zomwe zimakhudza banja. Tsopano, ngati sakusokonezani, ndiye kuti simukuli a m'banja lino. Izi siziri zovuta, koma kuvomereza nokha sizothandiza.
Iwo ankakonda kunena ndi kuyankhula, koma tsopano palibe kenanso choti anene kwa wina ndi mzake. Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti takhala alendo? Kapena kodi zikutanthauza kuti takhala pafupi kwambiri kuti mawu sakufunika? Pa nthawi yoyamba ya chiyanjano, zolankhulana zonse sizongowonjezereka: Pambuyo pake, njira yomveka yofalitsira uthenga ndi imodzi mwa mtundu wa homo sapiens. Tikufuna kuuza wina ndi mzake za maloto ndi malingaliro athu, kugawana nawo malingaliro a ubwana, kupeza anthu omwe amadziwana nawo ndi zinthu zomwe amagwirizanitsa ... Patapita nthawi, njira yolankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku ingachepetsere. Chofunika chachikulu cha chidziwitso chakhutira. Mukudziwana kale bwino ndikuganiza zambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri mumamvetsa popanda mawu. Kuvomereza kwamphamvu kwachitika kale, kugwirizana kwathunthu kwafotokozedwa. Kenaka kulankhulana mawu kumatha kumbuyo. Iyi ndi njira yachizolowezi yothetsera maubwenzi apamtima. Zambiri zimadalira mtundu wa munthu, momwe dziko lapansi limaganizira. Alipo omwe angathe kumathera maola ambiri akukambirana za nyengo kapena zam'tsogolo, kuti athetse kufunikira kwawo kulankhulana. Awa ndi omveka bwino. Ndipo alipo ena amene amakonda kumpsompsona, atakhala pampando (kinestetiki). Ndipo mwinamwake muli ndi mitundu yosiyana ya malingaliro: mumalankhulana mosalekeza, ndipo akuyang'ana mwachidwi, monga Winnie the Pooh pa mphika wa uchi, mumamva, iye ndiwoneka, koma muli ndi chikondi. Ndipotu, pambuyo pa zaka 2-3 za mgwirizano, pafupifupi banja lirilonse limachepetsa kulankhulana kwa mawu, pokhapokha atachita bizinesi yogwirizana kapena kulemba limodzi. Komabe, kungakhale chete chifukwa cha kusasamala (mgwirizano kapena kumbali imodzi): mwathedwa ndi kupereka ndemanga nthawi zonse, ndipo saona kuti n'kofunika kukambirana nkhani yaikulu ndi inu.
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Ngati chifukwa chokhalira chete pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo ndi kusowa kwa nkhani zofala (izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri), ndiye kuti aerobatics ndi njira yopambana-kupambana ndikumvetsetsa zofuna za wina ndi mzake. Ngati amakonda masewera, mahatchi ndi nsomba, ndipo ndiwe masewero owonetsera masewero, muyenera kukonzekera kusakaniza. Choyamba palimodzi ku bwalo la masewera, ndiye_kupita ku zisudzo. Ndiye nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi mitu yoyankhulana bwino. Mukhoza kupanga zofanana zomwe mukuzifuna poyamba. Kapena ngakhale mavuto ambiri. Ngati muli ndi mwana kapena mukufuna kukonza dacha - zomwe zingakhale zokwanira kukambirana kwa nthawi yaitali. Ngati mnzako, makamaka, sakuyankhula - musayesere kulankhulana naye - ndikutopa. Ndiko kuti, inu, ndithudi, mungathe kufotokoza malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu, popeza pali chosowa, koma musayembekezere yankho lomveka bwino, lachindunji kuzinthu zonse. Perekani mwayi kwa wina kuti akhale chete kufikira mapeto. Mwina iye watopa kwambiri kuntchito, kukhumudwa kapena chinachake chimapweteka. Ngati yankho la funsoli liri loipa, palibe chifukwa chokwezera ndi mafunso ena. Posakhalitsa zonse zidzawonekera bwino. Ngati simukupeza kuti mukukambirana, ndipo kufunika kokambirana ndi-kulankhula za chikondi. Sikofunika kuti tichite ndi tizilombo toyambitsa matenda. Nthabwala, zizindikiro, zojambula zachikhalidwe ... Osatchula zizindikiro zosagwirizana - mphamvu, luso, kufunika kwa munthu m'moyo wanu.
Pamene malingaliro, ovutika ndi kachilombo ka chikondi, atonthozeka, inu nonse mukuyamba kubwerera ku zizolowezi zakale za ndevu. Pambuyo pa chaka chokhala limodzi, kufunika kokhala m'manja mwa wina ndi kochepa kuti aliyense azikumbukira za malo awoawo. Tsekani anthu nthawi zina azipumula wina ndi mnzake, patula nthawi yosiyana. Zomwe nthawi zonse ndizochita pamodzi ndizoopsa pachiyanjano. Munthu aliyense amafunika malo ake, kuti diso lisakhale sopo. Ndibwino kuti tichepetsane wina ndi mnzake. Zili ngati mayesero: mumatopa - zikutanthauza kuti mumakonda. Kupatukana kumathandiza kuti muyanjane. Muyenera kuzipanga mosavuta. Komabe, ngati chikhumbo chofuna kukhala nthawi zina popanda wina ndi mzake chimakhala ngati kusakondana kukhala ndi wina ndi mnzake - ichi ndi chifukwa chachikulu choganizira ndi kuyang'ana chifukwa chake.
Chinachake chiyenera kuchitidwa ngati zosowa zanu zopatukana sizigwirizana. Mukufuna kukhala nokha, koma sangakulole kuti mupite. Kapena, mosiyana, mukuyembekeza kukhala naye, ndipo nthawi zonse amapulumuka. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri (ndi chachikulu) chomwe mungachite pa nkhaniyi ndi kubweretsa vuto ku zokambiranazo. Kapena: "Wokondedwa, ndikukusowa." Kapena: "Wokondedwa, ndimvetse bwino, ndikufuna nthawi zina kucheza ndi atsikana popanda iwe." Ngati vuto silinakambidwe, ndiye si vuto lanu lalikulu. Mwinamwake inunso munasiya kulankhula kale? Kapena mukukhumudwitsana? Kapena kodi ndi zofanana kwa inu? Werenganinso nkhaniyo kachiwiri - mwadzidzidzi chimodzi mwa ziwembu zidzakhala zanu.