Mukutsimikiza kuti kulowa mu chibwenzi cholimba, komanso makamaka muukwati, ndi kofunika kokha pa chikondi osati ayi. Chabwino, ndiye kuti mukufunikira kudziwa chomwe mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu angayendetsere - chikondi kapena kupindula. Pafupifupi chiwerengero cha chidwi chikuphatikizapo malingaliro enieni, ngati izo ziripo konse.
Kuti mwamsanga muwerengere chikondi cha chiwerengero, m'pofunika kumvetsera maganizo a munthu kwa anthu omwe alibe ndalama. Ngati munthu amachitira nkhanza anthu osauka, mwinamwake ali ndi inu kokha chifukwa muli ndi nyumba, nyumba ya dziko, galimoto, ndalama zambiri, ndi zina zotero. Onerani nkhani zomwe zimakhudza zokambirana zanu, mnzanuyo. Mwa njira, ngati (iye) ali ndi ndalama zopanda malire, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amakonda kuponyera fumbi m'maso mwake - izi, zingasonyeze kuti chikondi chowerengera chimakhala chogwirizana ndi inu.
Njira inanso yofulumira kukonzekera chikondi mwa kuwerengera, kupeza mgwirizano ndi ukwati wa makolo ake (a). Mwinamwake iwo ndi omwe amaumirira kuti mupitirize kukhala ndi chikhulupiliro kuti tsiku lina mudzakwatirana ndipo mwana wawo wokondedwa adzapatsidwa chirichonse. Pali njira zina zowonetsera chikondi mwa kuwerengera.
Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti mwa kuwerengera nthawi zonse sikofunika. Kawirikawiri, atsikana samakwatirana chifukwa cha chikondi chachikulu, koma chifukwa onse amakwatira. Ndipo ichi ndi chikondi ndi mawerengedwe. Msungwanayo akuti: "Ndimakonda", koma kwenikweni, ndizotheka kuti, ndipo mwatembenuza dzanja lanu. Ndipo musati mufunse mtundu wina wa chikondi, ngati inu munapita ku ntchitoyo kuyambira pachiyambi pomwe: "Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti ndimakukondani, ndipo zina zonse ziribe kanthu." Apa kwa inu ndi chikondi mwa kuwerengera.
Mwa njira, chikondi ndi kuwerengera nthawi zina zimasokonezeka mosavuta ndi chikhalidwe cha chikondi chokhwima, chimakhalanso chosakwaniritsa kukwaniritsa cholinga chake. Ndipo cholinga cha yemwe amamukonda mwa kuwerengera ndi chimodzi: kukwaniritsa chuma, kukhazikika pakati pa anthu, maudindo ena, ndi zachilendo monga momwe zingawonekere, kukhala ndi ana, pofuna kutsimikizira okha chitsime cha moyo wawo.
Komabe, chikondi mwa kuwerengera si chinthu choipa chotero. Anthu ambiri sakanati akwatire kapena osakwatirana, komanso sanakhalebe okwatirana ngati chiyanjano chonse pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi chinayesedwa ndi chikondi choyera komanso chosakhudzidwa. Chikondi chiri, chabwino, chabwino, koma mawu akuti "Ndingakhale wokondeka, amakhala mnyumbamo" mwachidule.
Ndipo chinthu chokha chimene chingakhale chodandaula kwambiri, ndicho chikondi ndi kuwerengera kungakhalepo mu chiyanjano cha mwamuna ndi mkazi, motero, mwa mawonekedwe oyera. Izi ndizo, mumvetsetsa kuti popanda ndalama zanu, kugwirizana, mphamvu, simukuimira chidwi chanu kwa mnzanuyo. Munthu uyu sakonda inu, koma zomwe zikukuzungulirani. Ngati mutaya zonsezi ndipo nthawi yomweyo amasiya moyo wanu. Choncho, mayeso ogwira mtima kwambiri, poyankha funso la momwe mungathere mwamsanga kuwerengera chikondi ndi kuyerekezera, ndikumasewera ndi mnzanu chifukwa cha kusowa mwadzidzidzi kwa malo ndi boma. Adziwitse mnzanuyo kuti wataya chilichonse, ndipo, kenaka, wadwala. Muyenera kugulitsa mofulumira katundu wosasunthika kuti muthe kulipira. Ndipo, pafupipafupi, pakakhala koopsa kukhala pafupi ndi inu, chirichonse chikhoza kuchitika. Ngati wokonda (wokonda) akusonkhanitsa zinthu ndikuchoka panjira - simuyenera kukhala achisoni. Ndipo ngati akunena kuti: "Tidzagonjetsa zonse pamodzi," ndiye mukhoza kupuma mokondwera - mumakonda kwambiri, osati mwa kuwerengera.