Chikondi chosakondwera nthawi zonse chimagwira ntchito ndi kusamalira. Ndipo ngati mufunsa funso lakuti "chikondi ndi chiyani?", Mukhoza kumva mayankho osiyanasiyana: "kufunika kwa munthu wina," "kutonthoza mwauzimu," "tanthauzo la moyo," ngakhale - "chizoloŵezi." Choncho, munthu aliyense amaika zochitika zake ndi malingaliro ake mu lingaliro ili.
Anthu ambiri amadziwa mwachikondi tanthauzo lalikulu la moyo ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndi opanda thandizo pamaso pake. Munthu wina wochenjera anati: "Chikondi chimayang'ana chilichonse, koma pochipeza, anthu ochepa okha sadziwa zoyenera kuchita." Inde, momwe mungataya chuma choterocho? Pezani yankho la funso ili ndi lofunika kwambiri. Chifukwa chikondi, monga mukudziwira, dona yemwe alibe chidziwitso - akhoza kuthawa.
Chikondi ndicho chikhumbo chokhala ndi munthu wa konkire masiku onse, maola komanso ngakhale mphindi zotulutsidwa ndi chiwonongeko. Koma chikhumbo chimodzi sichikwanira. Rumor akuti: kukonda ndi koyamba kupereka. Kodi ndife okonzekera izi? Osati onse. Kupatsa ndiko kutaya chinachake, kupereka chinachake. Ndipo ngati tiri okonzekera izi, ndiye, monga lamulo, ndi kusungirako: ndondomekoyo iyenera kukhala yogwirizana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, kupereka, tikufuna kulandira chinachake pobwezera. Ndipo apa ife timagwidwa ndi msampha. Ngati chilakolako chopereka chimaphatikizapo kuyembekezera kulandira kalikonse kubwezera, ndiye kupereka mopanda kulandira chilichonse chomwe chingapusitsidwe. Palibe amene akufuna kuti asanyengedwe. Ndipo, komabe, njirayi ndi yolondola, ingoyenera kusuntha kutsindika. Kupatsa ndiko kupereka, kukhala wowolowa manja. Ndipo kupatsa sikumasokoneza munthu. M'malo mwake, zimapangitsa kuti mukhale okhutira, zimakupangitsani kuti mumve bwino chimwemwe cha moyo. Izi ndi zomwe chikondi chiri pafupi.
Timamuyesa munthu woipa pamene tiwona kuti amateteza chuma chake mwachangu chilichonse. Udindo wotero sukumusangalatsa. Ndipo kuchokera ku lingaliro la maganizo, tidzamuona ngati wopemphapempha, ngakhale kuti chikhalidwe chake chingakhale chachikulu. Kotero zimakhala kuti yekhayo amene angathe kupereka ndi wolemera.
Koma kodi mungapereke chiyani kwa wokondedwa wanu? Chirichonse! Chimwemwe ndi chisoni, zochitika zawo, zopezeka, malingaliro, chidziwitso. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, moyo wanu mu mawonetseredwe ake onse. Chimwemwe, ngati mumawakonda kuti muwakonde mofanana. Ndiye inu mowolowa manja mudzapindulitsana wina ndi mzake. Osati ndiye, kuti mutenge chinachake pobwezera, koma kuti mumve chimwemwe chogwirizana. Pamene awiri amapereka, chinachake chauzimu chimabadwa, chotchedwa "chikondi." Ngati izi sizinachitike, ndiye kuti mwachidziwitso, awiriwa amamvetsa chikondi cha njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwachiwonekere, winawake anali adakali pazowonjezereka "kupereka, ndikofunikira kupeza chinthu chobwezera." Chikondi nthawi zonse chimagwira ntchito ndi chisamaliro. Kodi n'zotheka kukhulupirira kuti wina amakonda maluwa ngati amaiwala kuti amwe? Koma palinso vuto linalake: kusamalira munthu wina kumatha kupondereza umunthu wake, poyerekeza ndi malo ake. Kupewa izi kumathandiza mbali ina ya chikondi - kulemekeza.
Kulemekeza ndiko kulandira munthu wina monga momwe aliri. Kuti mumvetse bwino za umunthu wake ndi makhalidwe ake, kuti mukhale ndi chidwi kuti umakhala ngati umunthu wapaderadera. Kulemekeza kumaphatikizapo kusagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa munthu mmodzi ndi wina chifukwa china chilichonse, ngakhale cholemekezeka kwambiri. Ndipo tikhoza kulemekeza munthu wina pokhapokha ngati tili odziimira, tingathe kupyolera mu moyo popanda kuthandizidwa kotero kuti sitifunikira kugwiritsa ntchito wina pazinthu zathu. Kudziwa umunthu wa munthu kumapangitsa kudzikweza payekha komanso kuona munthu wina payekha. Ndi chidziwitso ichi nthawi zina sitingakwanitse kugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi m'maloto athu.
Wokondedwa, timayesetsa kuphunzira chinsinsi cha moyo wa wokondedwa, ngakhale kuti timamvetsa chiyero cha kuyesayesa kwathu. Kuti mudziwe zambiri za chinsinsi ichi, chidziwitso chomwe mwapeza kusukulu komanso ngakhale pasukuluyi ndi chochepa kwambiri. Izi zimafuna kugwirizana kwakukulu ndi moyo wa munthu wina. Ndipo mu umodzi wa miyoyo, wotchedwa chikondi, kodi tikhoza kukhutiritsa chikhumbo chathu chopasuka mwa munthu uyu, monga mwa ife eni.
Kotero, mphamvu yowona ya chikondi imamangidwa pa kukhoza kupereka, chisamaliro, ulemu ndi chidziwitso. Izi ndi zovuta zosiyana, zomwe anthu okhwima angathe kutsatira. Iwo omwe anasiya ziphunzitso zotsutsana ndi zaumwini komanso mphamvu zawo zonse. Kwa yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe cholemekezeka chomwe chimapangidwa ndi mphamvu yamkati. Mphamvu zoterezi zimamangidwa kuti athe kuwonetsa malingaliro awo momveka bwino, pokhoza kuwona zosowa za munthu wina ndikukumva zopempha zake zosadziwika. Komanso pakumenyana ndi ulesi wamkati, zomwe zimadziwonetsera mu mtima wosadzikonda ndikudzikonda kwa ena. Zonsezi pang'onopang'ono koma pang'onopang'ono zakhazikitsidwa luso ndikugonjetsa luso la chikondi.