Khalani ndi moyo
Chikondi chimadziwika kukhala khungu, choncho nthawi zambiri sitimagwera anthu omwe ayenera. Inu simukumwetulira kuti mukhale kapolo wake, ndipo inu mumasankha njira yozungulira ufumu wamatsenga uwu wa mitima yosweka. Katya anati: "M'masukulu akuluakulu ndinasunga zolemba - pinki yokhala ndi chokopa chomwe chinatsekedwa pa fungulo lagolidi," adatero Katya, "sanasunge zinsinsi zilizonse zapadera: ine ndinalibe iwo pano, ndinali kukonzekera kukomana ndi chikondi cha moyo wanga - mofanana ndi momwe amadzikonzera okha yankho pamayeso: Iye adalongosola malingaliro abwino mu nkhaniyi.Disankhulo inatha pomwepo, koma ndemangazo zidakali pamutu panga. Ndimakumbukira kuti Kierkegaard ananena kuti chinthu chokha chomwe mungaganizire ndikumverera kwa munthu amene akukupangitsani Koma sindikufuna kuvutika konse. Ndinasankha malangizo omwe wolemba ndakatulo Wachichewa Samuel Johnson anapatsa mwana wake wamkazi zaka mazana atatu zapitazo: "Ngati mukufuna kukonda nthawi yaitali, kondani nzeru osati mtima, osati chifukwa cha zimenezo, koma kuti mudzipindule nokha." Kuti muthamangire kudzikonda kwanu - izi ndizo ntchito, koma mukhoza kusankha bwino, motsogoleredwa ndi nzeru. "Choncho ndinakwatirana ndi Antonio, ine ndinali chaka choyamba pamene adadza kuntchito, ndikuyembekeza kukhala kwa miyezi iwiri, ndikukhala zaka zisanu. Chifukwa cha ine. Pa tchuthi, ndinakhala naye ku Rome, nthawi yonse imene ankakhala ku Moscow. Chisonkhezero chogwira mtima kwambiri cha chidwi chake sichinali kusunthira kudziko lina osati maluwa ndi mphatso zomwe anandipatsa, koma njira yomwe anandiperekeza ku sukulu m'mawa uliwonse, ngakhale adadzuka m'ma 7 koloko. Ndipo ngati chimfine, ndi kutentha kwakukulu, adakhala nane pamaphunziro, ngakhale kuti ankatha kuthamanga mofulumira kunyumba. Antonio atandiuza, ndinachita zomwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomereza kuti: Ndinatenga mapepala m'mizere iwiri - kumanzere kuphatikizapo, komanso kumanja - zochepetsera moyo wathu pamodzi. Makolo anga osankhidwa ndi makolo omwe anandilandira ine monga mbadwa, nyumba yaikulu, rock rock ndi kujambula studio, ndimakhala naye limodzi, iye ndi woimba nyimbo komanso wolemba nyimbo, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - amandikonda kwambiri. Zigawozo zinangokhala zinayi zokha: monga onse a ku Italy, Antonio sankagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti asokoneze, iye ali pansi pa ine ndi masentimita angapo, mmalo mwa makina osindikizira, ali ndi gulu, ndipo ... sindimkonda iye. Koma kodi ndikofunikiradi? Kwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe takhala pamodzi, abwenzi anga ambiri omwe adalumphira kukwatirana ndi chikondi chachikulu, adatha kuthetsa banja, ena ngakhale kamodzi. Iwo ankalota za tsogolo lina, ndipo ndapeza ndendende zomwe ndinkafuna, ndipo sindikumva chisoni. Koma nthawi zina zofanana ndimadzifunsa ndekha: mwadzidzidzi ndinasowa chinachake mwaziwerengero zanga? Zonse ziri zosavuta komanso zodziwika ... "
Inu mukuwopa kuti mukhale chidole, kupyozedwa ndi muvi wa Cupid, zomwe zimatsutsana ndi zofuna zanu. Kotero simukulolera kutaya mutu pamene mukukumana ndi amuna omwe angathe kutembenuzira, ndi kumanga ubale ndi anthu omwe sangakwanitse. Ndipotu, kokha popanda kukhala ndi malingaliro aakulu chifukwa cha chifundo chanu, mutha kusunga mutu wopepuka. Inu mwadzikonzekera mwadzidzidzi mwa kuika maganizo pa chikondi, ndipo sizinalepheretseni panobe. Sikunatchulidwe kuti sikungakugwetseni pansi, kupatula ngati, inu nokha mukufuna kukweza chiyanjano ndi machitidwe oipa, malingaliro anu, anyamata, omwe amakonda kukopeka atsikana abwino.
Zabwino Zokwaniritsa Ukwati
Inu munayesera kutsimikizira kwa aliyense kuti ndinu wamkulu kale, simunafune kuti muzisiyidwe kumbuyo kwa mnzanu yemwe posachedwapa adzakwatirane. Kapena, mwinamwake, ndili mwana, ndinkangoganizira kwambiri maloto operekedwa ndi Hollywood - ngati ndikuyenda mofulumira, kusambira ku guwa la mulu wa milandu yoyera yopanda kanthu ... Pa nthawi yoyamba, munazindikira chochitika ichi, ndipo chikwati chaukwati chinatsekeka. Karina anati: "Igor anandiimbira kuti ndikadzakwatirane naye, ndipo nthaŵi yomweyo ndinaganiza kuti ndikhale ndi ukwati, monga momwe amaonera filimu." Ndipo moyo, monga wa kanema, umakhala m'nyumba imene makolo amapereka, kumene m'chipinda chogona chili ndi mawu akuti " Ndimakumbukira nthawi zonse kuti, ngati ndikukhala moyo, ndinachotsa gulugufe wakuda ku shati yake yoyera, ndipo nthawi yaitali ndikusuntha bwino ndodo zonse khumi ndi ziwiri za zovala zanga kuchokera ku chiberekero chachisanu ndi chiwiri Vertebrae kumbuyo kwa kumbuyo. "Pa gawo la Igor, zonse zinali zenizeni, koma ine. Ndimawerenga kwinakwake kuti chikondi choyamba sichikugwirizana ndi malingaliro enieni-chimangofuna chabe zachabechabe ndi chidwi chochepa. "Chidwi chinakhutitsidwa, chikondi sichinayambe chachitika, kokha sitimayi mu pasipoti chipinda chogona ndi lonjezo lachikunja kuti likhale pamodzi kwamuyaya .. Ndili ndi zaka 18, sizinachitike kwa ine masiku angapo a chaka ndi momwe onse amawoneka mofanana mukakhala ndi osakondedwa.Koma pamene muli ndi zaka 28, mumayang'ana zinthu zambiri mosiyana. "Bwanji osamusiya?" - mtsikanayo adadabwa. Inde, chifukwa sindikufuna kumupweteka iye ndi ine ndekha. Tidziwa kalasi yoyamba - kale zaka 21! Iye ndi gawo la moyo wanga, umene simungathe kuwachotsa mosavuta. Zili ngati Tolstoy: Nikolai Rostov sanali kukondana ndi Marita Marya, koma, komabe, anamva yekha. Iye anafanizira mkazi wake ndi ... chala: simumverera chikondi chapadera kwa iye, koma mutatayika, mumakhalabe olumala kwa moyo wanu wonse. Kotero ine ndikumverera komweko kwa mwamuna wanga. Sindikukondana, komabe ... "Kumverera kumakhala kozizira, ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya mumakonda kwambiri Romeo wanu kapena ayi: ubale wanu mulimonsemo nthawi zonse umafuna kubwezeretsanso." Yesetsani kukondana ndi mwamuna wanu mu sayansi-akatswiri apanga Pali maphunziro ambirimbiri, yerekezerani kuti mukuyenera kulengeza kuti ndi chizindikiro cha kugonana ndikugwira nawo gawo la chithunzi, ndikusankha zolimbitsa bwino kwambiri ndikuzipatsa ulemu. chiwombankhanza, kugonana mu malo osadziwika ... Maganizo olingalira angakhale enieni: sizomwe zilizonse zomwe akatswiri a maganizo amachitcha chikondi kukondwera kwa malingaliro pa malingaliro, mwa njira, kuti inu pamodzi mumanena zambiri. Mwinamwake mukuganiza kuti simuli Mayi anga apongozi amakhulupirira kuti wakhala zaka 40 ndi osakondedwa, koma aliyense amene adawona awiriwa akuwonekera momveka bwino. Mwamunayo amagwirizana. Amati iye anakwatira chifukwa mkwati adamuopseza kuti adzataya mgodi ngati akana ... Koma iye adzakhala akupulumutsa munthu amene sakusamala?
Sindidzakhala mayi
Amayi anu amavutika ndi chikondi, ndipo simukufuna kubwereza zolakwa zake. Muli nawo pomwe akuyang'ana chisangalalo chake, ndipo mudakali wamng'ono ndikudandaula za iye komanso nokha.
Olya anati: "Bambo ankakonda kwambiri moyo wanga, ndipo mayi anga ankagwira ntchito monga woyang'anira antchito ku kampani yaikulu. Anandilera ine ndi mchimwene wake, ndipo tinamuyang'anira agogo ake olumala." Ngati TV inatha, inatengedwa kukonzanso, ngati galimotoyo itatha. M'chipinda cha chisamaliro cha galimoto ndinayendetsa matumba a chakudya ku dacha pa sitima. Bamboyo sanaganize kuti adzamuchingamira madzulo pa siteshoni kapena kumuponyera Mitka ku sukulu yam'mawa m'mawa. Papa anali kukonzanso zigawo za firiji, ndipo malamulo atayimirira (zomwe zinachitika nthawi zonse), anapezeka pa dacha Anayendetsedwa nawo. Tinasonkhana ku Mallorca (ndipo amayi ankagwira ntchitoyi, ndipo adachita mapepala onse), ndipo adakopeka masiku atatu asanatenge nsomba, ngakhale kuti tinamukakamiza kukhala kunyumba. ndiye kuti sindinakwatirane ndipo mwanjira ina ndinamwalira nthawi yomweyo ... Ndikudziwa chinthu chimodzi: chikondi ichi si cha ine! Ndikufuna kuti ndizivutika zochepa kuposa zonse zomwe zili padziko lapansi zomwe sizikundiyamikira konse. Ndili ndi zaka 25, ndimagwira ntchito ngati mwa yemwe sindimamukonda. Vomerezani kuti mukuwopa ubale wapamtima. Koma sikuti anthu onse ali ngati abambo anu, ndipo simukuyenera kubwereza zolakwitsa za amayi anu - mudzadzipangira nokha ngati mutakhala ndi mwayi umenewu. Mwa njira, kukhumudwa ndi munthu yemwe kale munthu anachokapo, kaŵirikaŵiri amamuwona mwa zotchedwa symbiotics - ana, omwe ali otetezedwa ndi makolo ovomerezeka. Muukwati, iwo amamangidwa kwambiri ndi mnzawo, zomwe zimatenga malo a mayi kapena abambo. Ngati mwakhala mukudziimira nokha kuyambira ubwana, ndiye kuti simungalekerere ubale umene umakupweteketsani. Zoonadi, palinso banja lomwe limakhudza zomwe timasankha: ambiri amanga banja pogwiritsa ntchito chitsanzo cha kholo la makolo - ngati atalingalira kuti ndi chitsanzo. Ndipo ngati sizingatheke, amachita mosemphana. Chitani chimodzimodzi, musalole mantha kukhala olamulira moyo wanu. Chifukwa kukonda ndizofunikira kwambiri, kuikidwa mwa umunthu wa munthu.
Zambiri komanso palibe
Onse ndi osiyana kwambiri. Koma inu simuli limodzi. Mukuyamba kugwirizana ndi wina, koma mumakumana ndi wina - apamwamba, wanzeru, opambana ... Ndingasankhe bwanji? Simukudziwa yankho la funso ili, kotero muzingoyang'ana kumenyana. Lolani gulu ili la knights kumenyana ndi malupanga kuti likhale ndi ufulu kuti ampsompsone mphutsi ya mayi wawo, yemwe amasunga maganizo ake oyenera kwambiri ... Koma sangathe kusankha kuti ali ndani. "Ine sindingakhoze kukondana, sindidzafotokozedwa mwa yemwe," akudandaula Christina, "aliyense amandikonda mwa njira yake." Mmodzi ndi wokongola, ndipo wina ali ndi mphamvu zopambana, lachitatu ndi lolemera ndi labwino ... Nthawi iliyonse ndikaganiza: Chabwino, potsiriza, ine koma chotsatira chikuwonekera, ndipo ndimapeza mwa iye makhalidwe omwe ndinalibe mnzanga wapamtima. Ndiyenera kuyambanso ndi munthu wina, ngakhale ndikulakalaka kukhala ndi maganizo amphamvu ndi ubale wokhalitsa.Akhala akukumana ndi mnyamata wamng'ono kuposa ine mwezi Iye ndi wokongola komanso wochenjera, koma amanyazitsa msinkhu wake ndi nkhuku Ine kuzilingalira: achikulire ndipo mukufuna ponakachannee Komabe ngati idzagwa kotero mulimonse chifukwa ine ipeze kudandaula ... Mwina chikondi kulibe ndipo ine kuwononga nthawi yanga akuyembekezera kuti izo ".? Kukayikira "iye / osati" akuzunzidwa, pomwe chikondi chenicheni sichiri. Pamene abwera, mafunso amatha. Koma kuti izi zichitike, muyenera kuganizira pa chinthu china, ndipo musayese kukondana ndi asanu nthawi yomweyo ndipo musakhale ngati mkwatibwi wa Gogol. Musakhudze anyamatawa, ngati mulu wa madiresi atsopano pazowonjezera. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wa akatswiri a maganizo a ku America, atsikana a zaka zapakati pa 16 mpaka 30 analota maloto ndi chingwe cha Keanu Reeves, milomo ya Brad Pitt, maso a Tom Cruise, nsagwada za Harrison Ford ndi biceps Sylvester Stallone. Pogwirizanitsa zochitika za nyenyezi pa pulogalamu ya makompyuta, olemba kafukufuku adalandira nkhope yamphongo yoipa - iwo ankalamulira! Musati mupite kutali ndi malingaliro ndi kumakhudza anyamata, ngati mulu wa madiresi atsopano pa opachika. Lembani mndandanda wa makhalidwe khumi omwe osankhidwa anu ali nawo ndipo ngati mumapeza wina osachepera asanu, khalani pa iye ndipo musasinthe kwa anzake omwe akufunira chibwenzi panthawi yomwe lawi la chikondi likukonzekera kuzimvera chisoni.
Simukusowa theka!
Simukukhulupirira kuti palibe chikondi chokhalira ndi munthu wina wokhazikika, ndipo simukuyambitsa chibwenzi choyipa, pofuna kukonda chikondi, ndizosavuta. "Amakhulupirira kuti anthu onse amapewa ukwati, ndipo atsikana onse amafunitsitsa," Lena akugawana zomwe akumana nazo. "Mwinamwake wina akufuna kukwatiwa, koma osati ine, ndili ndi zaka 27, ndipo ndapanga zonse ndekha. Sindikukonzekera, ndinali ndi amuna ambiri, koma palibe buku limodzi lokha, chifukwa chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri chimakhalapo pachiyambi: mumamupatsa chizindikiro - mumayang'anitsitsa maso anu, ponyani tsitsi lanu pamapewa anu, nsalu ya kugwedeza, kuponyera phazi lanu, Amamanga tayi yake, amaika manja ake pamapazi ake. "Kwa iwe kapena kwa ine?" - ndipo zonse zimachitika ngati nthawi yoyamba, koma ukudziwa kuti chodziwika bwino ichi ndibwino kuti musabwereze kawiri ndi munthu yemweyo. malingaliro amathetsedwa - palibe kale galimoto, chinthu monga kusungunuka kwa mphamvu kumachitika, kotero ndi nthawi yoti mupite kukasaka kwambiri. " Muyeso ya zikhulupiliro zanu, kudzizindikira nokha, osati banja, kumatenga malo oyamba, ndipo malingaliro okonda ndi kugonana ndi achimuna. Simukudikira kuti wina akhale naye nthawi yaitali, mokondwera ndikufera tsiku limodzi, koma akuyang'anitsitsa wokondedwa yemwe angakhale naye bwino pano ndi tsopano. N'zotheka kuti tsiku lina mudzafuna zambiri kuposa kungopeka, koma tsopano mukukonda popanda zofuna zanu. Mukhoza kukhala osangalala popanda amuna, koma sizikutanthauza kuti mudzakhala nokha moyo wanu wonse. Mwachidziwikire, sikofunikira kwambiri, mudzakwaniritsa zomwe zidzachitike ndi Peter, Antony, Hippolytus kapena ayi. Kwenikweni kwa inu ndipo kotero ndi zabwino. Ndipo izo zimachitika!