Pali amayi owerengeka omwe kamodzi kamodzi kokha m'mmoyo wawo sanamvepo mawu oti mibadwo yonse ikugonjera chikondi. Ena amavomereza kwathunthu, ena mosiyana. Koma sizomwezo, koma kuti pazigawo zosiyana za moyo chikondi chimamveka mwa ife m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ngati mumaganizira za izi, maganizo athu pa zinthu zambiri amasintha ndi msinkhu, monga momwe timasinthira tokha.
Pakati pa zaka 16 mpaka 20
Zimaganizidwa kuti wosankhidwayo adzaphatikiza makhalidwe monga kusadziwiratu, chinsinsi ndi chilakolako. Poyamba, chidwi chimakopeka ndi "anthu oipa" omwe samakhala ndi zotsatira zowawa za anyamata ovutitsa monga mimba ya mowa, nkhope yotupa, ndi mazembera osadziwika. Choncho, masamba omwe ali pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ali ndi ziganizo zowonongeka za moyo ndi kunyalanyaza kwa malingaliro a "zotayika zowoneka".
Kuyanjana bwino ndi kuvomereza kwakukulu ndi kukhudzana ndi kukondana kwamtendere, kusagwirizana ndi kukangana kwa misonzi, misozi ndi kulira kumene kumathera ndi chiyanjanitso chofanana. M'mabwinja mulibe malo ozoloŵera ndi kudzipweteka, amatsatana ndi mawu akuti "sitidzakhala ngati makolo athu"!
Panthawiyi, kugonana ndikumangokhalira zokometsera zokhazokha. Palibenso chidaliro ndi kubwezeretsa kugonana, komwe kumakhala kofala kwa anthu okhwima, omwe angathe kuthetsa zosowa zawo ndikupanga zilakolako zawo. Mu izi palinso nthawi zabwino, chifukwa nthawi ino anthu amaphunzira zambiri, kuphatikizapo maubwenzi omanga.
Pakati pa zaka 20 mpaka 30
Osankhidwa ayenera kukhala anzeru, okongola komanso odalirika kwambiri. Kuchokera kwa "anyamata oipa" pa zabwino, pali zochitika zokha, zovuta kwambiri sizovuta kwambiri. Mu ubale, kuwonjezera pa chikondi, pali gawo la pragmatism. Maganizo, koma ndi nthawi yoganizira zam'tsogolo. Ziribe kanthu momwe mapulaniwo apitira kutali, payenera kukhala kale kumvetsetsa ndi kukhazikika mu ubalewu.
Pa nthawi imeneyi, kugonana kumathandiza kwambiri. Zomwe sizinachitike pazochitika zenizeni, mahomoni a msinkhu uno sakhala ogwirizana malinga ndi zomwe zosowa za kugonana zikuchulukira. Mzimayi amadziwa zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wake, ndipo amamvetsa zomwe akuyembekeza kwa iye, kuthekera kufotokozera ndi kukonza zilakolako zake zogonana.
Pakati pa zaka 30 mpaka 40
Tsopano, kuwonjezera pa zonse zomwe tafotokozazi, wosankhidwayo sayenera kukhala wokongola, wodalirika ndi wopambana, kuwonjezera apo, sayenera kulemedwa ndi sitampu pasipoti. Kuyanjana, kusiyana kwakukulu kwa nthawi yayitali, yowona ndi yochepa, yaifupi yawonetsedwa. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala kalonga wosadalirika pa kavalo woyera, ndipo makamaka munthu amene samangokhala kuti azikhala mnyumba imodzi, koma ndani angathandizire nyumbayi bwino.
Kugonana kuli pachimake. Mzimayi samangokhalira kukondwa ndi kugonana, amadziwa kuti kupeza zotsatira zabwino n'kofunika kupanga wokondedwa, ndi momwe angaperekere chisangalalo chokhazikika kwa iye.
Kuyambira zaka 40 mpaka 45
Pafupi akhoza kukhala zana limodzi peresenti "mwamuna wanu", ena onse sali ofunika kwambiri. Kawirikawiri m'zaka zamasiku ano, akazi amakhalanso ndi chidwi ndi achinyamata "oipa", monga iwo samanena za sexaradi, koma kuti asaiwale. Nchifukwa chiyani mkazi wodzikhutira ayenera kuti adzikane yekha zosangalatsa zopanda pake?
Kugonana sikuli koyenera kuiwala konse, kupita patsogolo kwa kutha kwa thupi kumayambitsa kupanga mahomoni ndi thupi, kotero chilakolako cha kugonana chimalimbikitsidwanso.
Kuyambira ali ndi zaka 45
Wosankhidwayo ndi amene amakhala pafupi ndi momwe mkaziyo amadzimverera yekha osati wokondedwa, komanso aang'ono. Ziribe kanthu kuti ali kale ndi ana akuluakulu omwe samvetsa choonadi cha chikondi, unyamata ndi wolimba. Zizindikilo za maonekedwe a maluwa, kuyenda ndi kuyendayenda m'malesitilanti, museums, zisudzo, ndi zina, tsopano ali ndi tanthauzo losiyana, lozama. Chinthu chinanso chopindulitsa kwa wosankhidwa ndikumatha kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi ana ndi zidzukulu.
Maubwenzi ogonana amachitanso kusintha, mahomoni akupangidwa mochepa, ndipo khalidwe la kugonana limakhala losafunikira. Ngakhale pano chinthu chachikulu ndikumverera kuti mkazi amafunidwa ndi wokondedwa!