Momwe mizere iyi iliri, si zoona: "Ah, Romeo, wokondedwa Romeo"? Sadziwika chifukwa chake msilikali wa Shakespeare amasonyeza malingaliro ake mochititsa mantha, mwina chifukwa chakuti akadakali wamng'ono, kapena ngati kukhudzika kwakumverera kwake kumamupangitsa iye kuwonjezeka tsiku ndi tsiku.
Mkazi aliyense padziko lapansi amafuna kuti wokondedwa wake amuuze mau ake okondedwa nthawi zambiri. Ndi bwino kuti munthu adziwe mawu akuti "okongola, okondedwa, okondedwa ndi okondedwa", monga momwe mayi amasungunuka ngati madzi achisanu kumapeto, m'manja mwake. Koma amayi ali ndi chidwi chochuluka chifukwa chake sakunena izi "ndimakonda".
Poyankha funso lakuti: "Kodi mumandikonda," adalankhula chinthu china mwachindunji ndikupitiriza kuchita bizinesi yake. Tiyeni tiyesere kumvetsa nkhaniyi. Kapena mwinamwake amuna okha ali ndi chinenero chawo, amachitcha "amuna"?
Yankhani yankho: Kodi mumakonda kapena ayi?
Othandizidwa athu ali ngati zigawenga: zindikirani, sadzalankhula za mavuto ake kufikira atakafika pamoto. Ndipo mawu achikondi? Iwo ali a amuna ngati misampha - ingozinena izo, ndipo zakhala ziri_zinalonjezedwa chinachake, panali kutayika - chirichonse chinalephera, ndipo iwe sukufuna kuwoneka ngati wolankhula. Apa iwo ali chete.
Amakonda, koma ali chete?
Mdziko lathu lamakono, mkazi amakhalabe mkazi, ngakhale kuti wakhala wosunga nyumba, komanso wothandizira. Koma nthawi zina gawo lofooka la umunthu limaiwalika ponena kuti likupita koyamba ndipo motero mavuto amayamba. Kuti inu muzikondedwa, ndipo inde ngakhale kuyankhula za izi, kamodzi kamodzi pa masabata atatu muyenera kudzikonda nokha. Chabwino, mum'kondeni, mumusamalire, ndipo mumangopezeka mosavuta pa foni ndipo simukutentha, ndi chiyani?
Mfundo yakuti munthu amaganiza kuti ndimakonda mawu amodzi okha, amangoti: "Ndikulonjeza kuti ndikuthandizani pa chilichonse, ndidzakusamalirani, ndikulekerera achibale anu." Tisaiwale kuti kwa anthu otchuka masiku ano, n'zovuta kuzindikira kumverera kulikonse. Ndipotu, amaika maganizo awo mwa iwo: "Sindidzakuperekani, osasintha." Iwo okha amadziwa kuti ngati sakusunga mawu awo, iwo adzawapweteka iwo amene amawasamalira. Koma chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti amuna okhawo sangakhale abwino kwa iwo monga momwe akuwonekera, chifukwa iwo adzataya mbiri yawo, iwo amangogwa pamaso pa mkazi. Ndiye ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Khalani chete, ndiye tidzakhala popanda osautsidwa kumbali zonse ziwiri.
Ndipo ndani amene akusangalala kwambiri? Ndibwino kuti mukuwerenga Pupa kapena mkazi?
Nthaŵi zambiri timakumana ndi mafilimu achikondi achimerika ndikuwona momwe wokonda wake amakonda kupereka mphatso yamtengo wapatali, motero amasonyeza chikondi chake. Zotsutsanazi zikukula m'maganizo a amayi: ngati akufuna, ndiye adzandipatsa mphatso zamtengo wapatali. Koma kodi zili choncho?
Tangoganizani izi, poyankhula mwachidule, tidzasunga: akazi awiri, mmodzi amakomana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi ndalama zambiri, komanso ena oposa. Woyamba ndikumufunsa kuti akondedwa chirichonse, chirichonse, kuyamba ndi thumba la Prada ndikumaliza ndi mkanda wa diamond wa Tiffany, koma amavutika kwambiri, ngati mphatso iliyonse imamuuza kuti: "Ndili ndi ngongole." Chimodzi chimabweretsa maluwa kwa tsiku ndi kukonza chakudya chamakono, koma amachitira mkazi womvetsa zinthu, osamufunsanso kanthu. Ndipo ndani amene akusangalala kwambiri? Ndibwino kuti mukuwerenga Pupa kapena mkazi?
Ndikufuna ndikufunitseni mkazi aliyense padziko lapansi kuti apeze munthu wanzeru, wokongola, wosamala, ndi wopambana. Koma moyo ndi chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri. Tiyeni tipeze yankho: Ziribe kanthu kuti mphatsoyo idzapindula bwanji, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti adzapereka chidwi, ndipo iyi ndi mawu ena omwe ndimakonda, koma ndi "chinenero" chamwamuna. Kumbukirani, ngati munthu wokondedwa wanu akufulumira kuchoka kuntchito kupita kwa inu, konzani msonkhano wofunikira chifukwa chakuti galu wanu amene mukumukonda akudwala, ndipo pamene ali paulendo, amalankhula kasanu patsiku - mumadabwa chifukwa chake. Mwinamwake mawuwo sadzakhala ofunika kwambiri?
Lero iwe unamuwonanso iye, ndipo sanakusiye kwa mphindi, adagwira dzanja lake, anakhudza iwe, ndipo unamva kuti watetezedwa ndi kulakalaka, chifukwa anali pafupi. Choncho, akuuzanso kuti akusowa. Kugwirana kwake, kukhumudwitsa, kusamala zonsezi kukukumbutseni zomwe amakonda. Sizomwe zimakhudza munthu yemwe alibe chidwi ndi inu, komanso kugwira dzanja lanu lonse madzulo onse, monga momwe anapangidwira ndi golidi.
Ziribe kanthu kaya mphatsoyo idzapindula bwanji, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti iye amapereka chizindikiro, ndipo izi ndi mawu ena omwe ndimakonda, kokha "m'chinenero chamwamuna".
Koma zonsezi zingawoneke ngati zazing'ono poyerekezera ndi gawo lomwe mumakhala nalo. Ngati akulowetsani kwa anthu apamtima, abwenzi, amapereka makiyi a nyumbayo amatanthauza kuti amakonda. Akukuuzani za ntchito, mumachezera mawonetsero pamodzi, musachoke kwa inu - mbali zambiri za moyo zomwe wokondedwa amavomereza kwa inu, akamakukondani kwambiri. Sewero losavuta, sichoncho? Ngati iye sakanakhala wovuta kwambiri.