Kodi munthu amachita chiyani pamene akufuna kubweza mkazi? Ndipotu, mwamuna aliyense, monga, komabe, munthu aliyense, ali ndi njira zake komanso njira zake. Koma, ngati munthu ali ndi mulandu weniweni, poyamba ndiye akuyesera kupempha chikhululuko. Mwa njira, ziyenera kukumbukira kuti achinyamata ndi onyada kwambiri ndi anthu odzikonda. Choncho, pempho la chikhululuko ndilofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo. Ngati, ndithudi, munthu uyu ndi woona mtima ndipo sali wachinyengo pa chifukwa chilichonse. Anthu oterowo adzapepesa - amangopopera. Iwo samagwirizanitsa kufunikira kwa mawu awo alionse, ndipo zonse zomwe iwo akumverera ndi zabodza.
Ngati mukudziwa kuti munthuyo akulapadi, kumbukirani kuti kupempha chikhululuko, amanyazitsa pamaso panu ndikugwada. Ndipo, amuna ena, kawirikawiri sangathe kuchita izi ngakhale panthawi ya imfa. Uku ndi kunyada kwawo ndi maganizo awo. Choncho, ngati mukumva kuti kunyoza ndi kunyoza kwa munthuyo sikokwanira, yesetsani kumukhululukira. Koma musakhale wofewa kwambiri ndi wokhululuka. Muzinthu zonse muyenera kudziwa chiyeso. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mukupwetekedwa, kapena mukufuna kuti aphunzirepo, amuthandizeni kuti apitirize. Ndipotu, amadziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito njira zowononga amayi awo. Mwachidule, pambuyo pa chiyanjanocho chikhala chautali ndi chowopsa, iwo amayamba kuiwala za izo, kumasuka ndi kulakwitsa. Ngati mwamunayo wakukhumudwitsani kwambiri, mwakhumudwa kwambiri kotero kuti munaganiza kuti mutuluke, ndiye chiwombolo cha mlandu chiyenera kukhala chomwe chingathe kuchepetsa ululu ndi mkwiyo. Aliyense wa ife amadziwa za maloto ndi malingaliro a anthu apamtima. Kuti abwerere mkazi wokondedwa, mwamuna amayesera kuzindikira zina mwa zofuna zake m'moyo. Ndiyeno sadzapulumutsa nthawi kapena ndalama. Mukatayika chofunikira kwambiri, sizikuchitika kwa inu kuganiza za zovuta. Inde, ngati wokondedwa wake ndi wofunika kwambiri kwa iye. Ndipo ngati ayi - musabwerere. Zikatero, mwasankha kuti mumusiye ndipo musaganize za chikhululuko.
Kuti apambane mkazi wokondedwa kachiwiri, amuna amachita zamkhutu zenizeni. Sindikulankhula za kudumpha kuchokera pa milatho ndi kudula mitsempha, chifukwa zamatsenga zotere zimayankhula za kusokonekera maganizo kwa anthu. Pano tikukamba za ntchito zomwe amayi amachitira nkhanza amuna awo, atakhudzidwa ndi chikondi chawo. Mukhoza kuganizira njira zikwi zokondweretsa wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo maluwa a roses apa ndiwowoneka kuti alibe malire. Azimayi amalota zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Wina akufuna kupita ku London, wina akufunika kupita ku kondomu ya gulu lawo lokondedwa ndi lodziwika bwino, ndipo mtima wa wina umatenthedwa ndi malotowo kuti pulogalamu yake kapena ndakatulo zikadali zofalitsidwa. Ngati munthu ali ndi mlandu, ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chowonadi, adzasunga ndalama zake zonse kuti apemphere chikhululukiro chake ndikuchita zomwe akufuna. Zikatero, anyamata amadziona ngati openga. Iwo amatsogoleredwa ndi mantha omwe amwenyewo amachoka, kuchoka kwamuyaya ndikusintha chinthu chomwe sichitha. Ndi chifukwa chake, anyamata amapita ku mitundu yonse ya adventures, kugwirizanitsa anzanu onse ndi anzawo, kuyesera kuthetsa vutolo. Inde, simungadumphire pamwamba pa mutu wanu ndipo aliyense ali ndi mphamvu zake zachuma. Koma, amai amvetsetsa izi, ndikuyesa, poganizira momwe munthuyo aliri ndi zomwe akufuna kukhululukira. Mwamwayi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kubwereranso chikhulupiliro ndi mawu ndi malingaliro okha. Ndipo si za zamalonda. Mwachidule, kudzera muzochita zotere, zomwe nthawi zambiri sizili zosavuta, anyamata amasonyeza maganizo awo komanso amafuna kuchita chirichonse, ngati mtsikanayo angakhulupirire ndi kumukhululukira. Ngati mzimayi wake wamaphunziro apereka galimotoyo posachedwapa, sangasamalire. Koma ngati pafupifupi, msinkhu wachinyamata, chibwenzi chake amene akupempherera chikhululukiro, amatenga ngongole ya galimoto, ndithudi amayamikira chinthu choterocho. Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti nkhaniyi siyi ndalama osati ndalama, monga gulu losiyana. Apa chirichonse chikuphatikizana ndikuwonetsa kuchuluka kwa momwe munthu akufunira kutembenuzira mapiri kuti abwerere munthu wokondedwa wake. Mu ichi, ndipo mu ichi chokha, chikondi chenicheni chafotokozedwa.
Akazi nthawi zonse amamvanso bodza, ngakhale atayesa kudzipusitsa okha ndi kumuyika bwino pamaso pa abwenzi, abwenzi ndi iyemwini. Ndicho chifukwa chake atsikana nthawi zonse amadziwa kuti zochita za amuna ake ndi zoona komanso zomwe zili zoyenera. Nthawi zina, kuti abweretse mkazi ndikwanira komanso sabata, ndipo nthawi zina-izi zimatenga mwezi. Ululu ndi ukali zikhoza kukhala zosasimbika. Koma, nthawi zonse mkazi amamukhululukira, akaona kuti munthuyo akulapa, akusintha ndipo ali wokonzeka kuchita zonse zomwe zingatheke komanso zosatheka.
Kodi munthu amachita chiyani pamene akufuna kubweza mkazi? Iye salinso chete ponena za kumverera kwake ndi kuiwala za kunyada. Mnyamatayo samaganizira za fano lake, ndi maganizo ati omwe angakhale nawo pakati pa abwenzi ake komanso ngati angagwe. Nthawi zina, mwamuna amafunika kutaya, kumvetsa momwe amamukondera komanso momwe amalemekeza munthu. Ndicho chifukwa chake amamasula chilango chake mwa njira zonse ndikufotokozera malingaliro omwe adabisa mpaka lero. Amuna ena amafunikiradi kukonzekera maphunziro a moyo kotero kuti potsiriza ayambe kumvetsa chomwe chiyenera kukhala chofunika kwambiri m'moyo uno. Ndiyeno, mnyamatayo adzachita zonse kwa mtsikanayo kachiwiri kuti akhulupirire chikondi chake.