Ndili mwana, timakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi makolo, kusukulu timakhudzidwa ndi anzathu akusukulu ndi aphunzitsi. Ndipo pali malonda, boma. Mndandanda umapitirirabe. Pambuyo pa zonse, moyo ndizomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Chikoka cha mwamuna pa mkazi ndi chachikulu kwambiri m'moyo wathu komanso mosiyana - chikoka cha mkazi pa mwamuna. Funso lomwe chikoka chake ndi chachikulu, chifukwa nthawi zonse chimatsogolera ku imfa. Ndipo mwamuna amamukhudza bwanji mkazi?
Kwa nthawi yaitali anthu akhala akukhalira pamodzi mokondwera pamodzi kwa nthawi yaitali. Okwatirana amakhala ndi zizolowezi zofanana, zokonda, iwo ali ngakhale zofanana kunja mwa njira zina. Monga m'bale ndi mlongo. Ndi ndani amene adakhudza anthu omwe akhala ndi moyo wautali pamodzi? Mkaziyo? Mwamuna uja? Panali kusokonezeka kwakukulu kwa munthu m'modzi. Anthu amanena izi: "pezani munthu wokwatirana naye." Komabe, maanja okondwerera maukwati awo a golidi ndi ocheperapo kusiyana ndi amuna ndi akazi omwe akhala palimodzi kwa kanthaŵi ndipo akutha msanga, kuthawa wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo chifukwa cha ndege yotereyi nthawizonse ndi yofanana, ziribe kanthu chomwe zovala izi zimagwiritsidwira ntchito) - osati magawo osiyanasiyana.
Wolemba ndakatulo wochititsa chidwi David Samoilov ali ndi mizere yanzeru: "Aliyense amasankha mkazi, chipembedzo, ufulu ..." Mwamuna nthawi zonse, pa msinkhu wosadziwika, akuyang'ana mkazi yemwe amafanana ndi amayi ake. Kwa iye amazoloŵera ndipo mosadziwa amayesa "kuphunzitsa" mkazi wake, kuti "amuyenere" iye ku fano la amayi ake. Izi sizikukhudzana ndi magawo akunja, koma za zotsatira pa khalidwe, zizoloŵezi, maonekedwe a dziko.
Mkaziyo amakhalanso nthawi zonse, komanso pamsinkhu wosamvetsetseka, kufunafuna munthu yemwe amafanana ndi bambo ake. Ndiponso amayesetsa kumukakamiza munthuyo, kuti asinthe pansi pa chifanizo chake. Apa nthawi zina amawerengedwa chomwe chimatchedwa "scythe pa mwala." Mkaziyo, kuteteza ufulu wake, amantha mantha otere, amaopa kupasuka ndipo, atataya nkhope yake, amakhala chidole m'manja mwa munthu wamphamvu. Mwamunayo, kuteteza "kudzikonda" kwake, akuwopa kuti azitha kuchitidwa manyazi. Ngati awiri alibe nzeru za dziko lapansi kuti amvetsetse zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake molingana ndi msinkhu wosadziwika, ndiko kuti, palibe chilakolako choti "alowe mu khungu la wina", pomwepo nkhondo ya amuna ndi akazi imayamba. M'nkhondo iyi ya kugonana chifukwa cha mphamvu, palibe opambana.
Katswiri wina wamaganizo anafotokoza kuti lingaliro la "chikondi" limabisa kufunafuna bwino ndi kuzindikira. Kwa ichi, mukhoza kuwonjezera kutsata chitonthozo cha uzimu. Kodi mwamuna amakhudza bwanji mkazi kuti akwaniritse zomwe akufuna? Mchitidwe wamwamuna pa mkazi ndi wotseguka, wosayeretsedwa ndi wochenjera kuposa mkazi. Mwa njira, kudutsamo mabuku ogulitsa mabuku. Kumeneku mudzawona mabuku ambiri akufunsa mafunso abwino "Kodi mungamunyengere bwanji munthu? 2, Mungagonjetse bwanji mdani?", "Mungakwatirane bwanji?" ndi apotheosis ya mafunso onse "Kodi mungakhale bwanji chidontho?". Chinachake sichinakumane ndi bukhu la amuna "Momwe mungakhalire wodabwitsa?". Zothandizira zonsezi zimaphunzitsa mkazi kuti amuthandize munthu: mwachinyengo, kukhumudwitsa, kuchitira chifundo, kukondweretsa, kukonda ena, misonzi, amatsenga, nthawi zambiri - kufooka ndi kuwopseza kwamuyaya. Mwa mawu, zonse mwakamodzi simungathe kukumbukira.
Chikoka cha amuna pa akazi ndi cholunjika kwambiri: maluwa, mphatso, mayamiko, zikhumbo zovuta, malamulo, kuchoka panyumba. Ndipo kwenikweni, bwanji kulunjika koteroko? Kudzinyenga, kunyengerera, chifundo ndizobadwa mwa akazi okha. Ayi! Mfundo yonse ndi yakuti kuyambira pachiyambi munthuyo amatsogoleredwa ndi kutsogoleredwa ndi mkazi. Kuyambira masiku oyambirira a moyo wake, mnyamata wamng'ono amakakamizika kuchita momwe amayi ake, nanny amamukondera. Ndipotu, kupulumuka kwake kumadalira akazi. Koma zaka zimapita, ndipo mnyamata amadziwa kuti ndi wosiyana, kuti si msungwana, koma mwamuna. Ndipo kuchokera apa-kutsutsa kotseguka motsutsana ndi "mauta ndi nsalu" mu chiyanjano. Mikhalidwe yonse yaumunthu ya munthu si yachilendo, koma kuti iigwiritse ntchito pokhudzana ndi akazi? Zikomo! Sili ngati munthu. Chomwechonso anabadwa nthano za khalidwe lachimuna ndi lachimuna. Ndipo chikoka cha mwamuna pa mkazi chinawonekera.
Zonsezi "zida zankhondo ndi zolemetsa" mu nkhondo ya kugonana pofuna kukopa, chifukwa malo ake pansi pa dzuwa amagwiritsidwa ntchito chifukwa cha mantha kuti mlingo wawo womwewo udzagwa.