Chizindikiro choyamba chachisanu cha chikondi ndicho kukopa, m'lingaliro lake lonse. Chiwonetsero ndi pamene simungokhala ngati munthu ndi maonekedwe ake, simangomva ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndi wokongola komanso wokongola. Apa sikokwanira kuzifuna izo. Chizindikiro cha kukopa chimatanthauzanso chidwi cha moyo wa munthu, khalidwe lake. Chikondi ndichokha pamene miyoyo iwiri imagwirizananso, munthu mmodzi amasangalatsidwa ndi wina ndipo amakumana ndi chilakolako chake kwa iye. Ndizotheka kupenta zinthu zambiri zochepa, koma lingaliro lalikulu limakhalabe kuti mumamva chisoni ndi kukopa kwa munthu wina. Chikondi chimaphatikizapo mfundo zitatu zokopa kapena chidwi. Pamene mumakonda munthu, mumakonda momwe amawonekera, moyo wake ndi kumene amapita, zomwe akukonzekera komanso zomwe akulota. Ngati chimodzi mwa zinthu izi chikusoweka - si mwamuna wanu osati chikondi chenicheni.
Chizindikiro chachiwiri ndi njira ina yoganizira. Ngati mukuganiza kuti simunayamba kuganiza nokha, koma za inu awiri palimodzi, ngati munthuyu amakhala ndi maganizo anu nthawi zonse. Mukufuna kumudalira, kuyandikira, mumayamba kuganiza mosiyana ndi kusintha komwe kukuchitikirani, kugwirani munthu wokondedwayo. Ngati ndi choncho, mukhoza kuganiza kuti chinthu chachiwirichi chikuchitidwa. Zimatanthauzanso kuti mumasintha nokha, monga maganizo anu, mumayamba kukhala osiyana, mukufuna kusintha, chinachake choti muchite, kuti muchite, muli ndi chikhumbo. Mukudzimva nokha ndi zonse, mumakhala munthu wosiyana naye.
Chigawo chachitatu cha zizindikiro za chikondi chenicheni ndicho chitonthozo cha uzimu. Wokondedwa sadzakuchititsani kudzimva osadziŵa, chifukwa cha iye simungayambe kudzidalira. Chikondi chenicheni sichingakupangitseni kuvutika, kuyesetsa nthawi zonse ndi kuthetsa mavuto, yesetsani kukhala wina chifukwa cha munthu amene mumamukonda. Ngati muli ndi wokondedwa wanu simukumva kuti muli ndi chitonthozo chauzimu, simukhutira nokha, kapena simakuzindikira monga momwe muliri, si munthu amene mumamufuna. Ndi munthu aliyense, mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo, kuphuka, mumayamba kudzikonda nokha komanso moyo wanu wonse, ndipo amakupusitsani. Ngati mumamverera mosiyana kapena simukufunikira kwa iye, mumakhala mwamantha nthawi zonse kuti simukumudziwa kapena simukumvetsa ndipo ngakhale kuti sakufuna kumvetsa - ichi si chikondi chenicheni. Iye sadzakupangitsani inu kuti muvutike.
Chizindikiro chachitatu ndi mgwirizano. Chiyanjano, pamwamba pa moyo wonse, mgwirizano wa anthu. Mfundo yakuti zotsutsana zimakopeka kwenikweni kumayambiriro kwa bukuli, pamene chikondi, chikondi, chidwi chimabwera pakati pa inu. Inde, nthawi zina kutsutsana kumakopeka ndi chidwi cha munthu amene samawoneka ngati inu. Koma pakubwera nthawi yokhala limodzi, konzekerani, podziwa wina ndi mzake bwino, zida zonsezi zotsutsana ndi ndondomeko zimayamba kudziwonetsera okha, ndipo kutsutsana komweko kumayambanso kukanganitsa kawiri mphamvu yomwe inakopeka. Chikondi chenicheni chimatanthauza kuti anthu ayenera kugwirizanitsa chinthu chimodzi, ayenera kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino, zolinga zomwe sizidzasokonezana. Chiyanjano chiyenera kukhala pachiyanjano, mutu ndi mtima, mwinamwake ubale ulephera.
Chizindikiro chachinai ndi chidaliro. Kwenikweni, ichi si chimodzi mwazoletsedwa, mawu odziwonekera omwe timamva nthawi zonse. Chikhulupiliro ndi chofunika kwambiri mu maubwenzi, ndipo nthawi zambiri timachiyang'ana kapena sitikuwulula. Munthu amene mumamukonda ndi munthu woyamba amene mumamuyembekezera, yemwe mungam'patse. Musamabise kapena kubisa kalikonse, kuwopa kunena kapena kudalira. Ngati simukuzifuna, ndikukhulupirirani pano palibe - si chikondi chenicheni. Ndipotu, popanda kukhulupirira chirichonse chimayamba, wosankhidwa wanu ayenera kukhala munthu amene adzatsagana nanu m'moyo wanu wonse, akuthandizani ndikuthandizani, kukupatsani malangizo ndi kukukondani kuti ndinu ndani. Pambuyo pake, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazofunikira zake, ndipo izi ndi zomwe zikuwonetsa maganizo ake kwa inu. Ngati simumukhulupirira, ndiye kuti zonsezi zikuchitika bwanji?
Ndipo chachisanu, chizindikiro chomalizira ndicho kusautsika. Pano, moyo wanu ndi malingaliro anu adzakuthandizani, momwe mumamverera wosankhidwa wanu, ngakhale popanda kudalira pazizindikiro zisanu za chikondi chenicheni. Ngati simukudziwa kuti izi ndizo zomwe mumafunikira pamoyo wanu wonse, ngati mukuyang'ana amuna ena, kapena kukonzekera ndi kulota za wina, maganizo anu sangatchedwe chikondi chenicheni. Ngati simukudziwa kuti ichi ndi chikondi komanso kuti ndi munthu wanu - ndiye, muyenera kutero, muyenera kufufuza mpaka mutatsimikizire kuti: "Inde, uyu ndi ameneyu , zomwe ndakhala ndikuyang'anira moyo wanga wonse. Ndikufuna iye kuti akhale atate wa ana anga ndikubwera nane kupyolera mu moyo. Ndimamulandira ndi mtima wonse monga momwe aliri ndi kufotokoza maganizo ake. Ndine wotsimikiza, ndipo ndicho chinthu chachikulu. "