Mawiri okongola amakhalabepo, chifukwa mu maubwenzi awiri omwe amadziimira okha, amakumana ndi wina ndi mzake, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti osagwirizana kwambiri ndi anthu, malingaliro ndi zinthu zina zimachitika mwamsanga pakapita nthawi. Chifukwa chake, anthu amafunika kuchita zinthu zotsutsana, kudzipangira okhaokha. Kawirikawiri, mmodzi wa abwenzi amachita izi mobwerezabwereza kuposa wina. Ngakhale amakhulupirira kuti mkaziyo ndi wofooka, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zambiri amavomereza, izi siziri zoona. Khalani ndikuwonetsa kuti amuna amatha kunyengerera, chifukwa amafuna kupeĊµa mikangano, misonzi, kufotokozera maubwenzi, etc. Azimayi amakhala okonzeka kuchita zachiwawa komanso kukonza zochitika. Payenera kukhala kulingalira kokwanira mu chirichonse. Kodi ndi malamulo ati omwe akuyenera kuwonedwa pokhudzana ndi mwamuna?
Nthawi yaumwini. Ngati mwamuna wanu akufuna kuyang'ana mpira, kutumiza, etc., mpatseni mwayi wakuchita. Musiye malo oti azisangalala, zosangalatsa, zomwe amakonda. Kapena mwinamwake mwamuna wanu anabwera kuchokera kuntchito akuda, atatopa, anapeza bwana wake ndi zida zake, ali ndi mavuto azachuma kapena china chake? Mupatse nthawi yoti abwerere yekha ndi kukhala yekha ndi maganizo ake, ngati akufuna. Musadandaule kufunsa ngati mukuona kuti sakupezeka. Adzakhala yekha ndiyekha, ndipo m'kupita kwanthawi adzakonzeka kukambirana ndi mavuto.
Ndi chiyani chinanso chimene chimakwiyitsa abambo? Iwo sakonda izo pamene akazi ali ovuta kwambiri. Iwe uyenera kukhala uli wekha, chifukwa iye amakukonda iwe, monga iwe uliri. Ngati simukukhala bwino ndi maonekedwe anu, musinthe nokha, koma musapite patali. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muli ndi kulemera kwakukulu, musadzipangitse nokha pa chidutswa chilichonse chodyedwa, mubweretse kufooka. Pewani kulemera ndi njira zabwino. Ngati sichikugwira ntchito, kumbukirani kuti mkazi akhoza kuwoneka wokongola komanso wokongola komanso ali ndi maonekedwe abwino. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, dzikondeni nokha, ndiye ena adzakuyang'anani mosiyana. Amuna ngati akazi, amadzidalira mwa iwo wokha komanso m'kukongola kwawo.
Amuna akukhumudwa kwambiri ndi nsanje yowawa yomwe ili pambali pa paranoia, kwa onse omwe ali pamzere ndi kunja. Kukayikira koteroko kumatha kupha kumverera kulikonse kapena kukakamiza mwamuna kuti asakonde kumbali. Zomwe zilipodi, ngati zonsezi zikunenedwa mosasamala za machimo onse? Amuna amanjenjemera ndi kutengeka kwambiri, pamene mkazi aliyense amatha kuwonetsa malingaliro ake: kumpsompsona, kukumbatirana, mawu ofatsa, amafuna kuti azikhala ndi mtima wokhazikika. Amuna sazikonda pamene mayi ali ndi ludzu lothandizidwa ndi mphindi iliyonse, amayamba kudandaula za chinthu chimodzi, "kulira," amakwiya chifukwa cha zinthu zing'onozing'ono monga misomali yosweka, kulira kapena kukwiyitsidwa ndi zina ndi zina zotero.
Amuna samakonda akazi ofooka kwambiri komanso osatetezeka. Amafulumira kukwiya nazo. Kugonana kwakukulu kumakhumudwitsidwa ndi kuyesayesa nthawi zonse kuti afunse maganizo awo, malingaliro awo, ndi zina zotero. Mwachitsanzo, "Mukuganiza bwanji pakali pano? Mukuganiza bwanji za izo? "Ndipo zinthu. Mwamuna amanjenjemera pamene mkazi ayesa kutenga malo ake ndi nthawi zonse. Amafuna kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake yonse yaulere, kufufuza zinthu zake, matumba, mabokosi, kutumiza munthu ku malo ake. Amuna amakhumudwa ndi kugula nthawi zonse, makamaka pamene amapita ku kampani ndi amayi awo. Izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa milandu pamene ulendo wopita ku sitolo sichimangidwe pa chinachake, koma mopanda cholinga, ndi kulingalira kwa mawindo ogulitsa ndi kuyenda kuchokera ku sitolo kupita ku sitolo.
Azimayi ocheperako kwambiri amayamba kunjenjemera ndi amuna. Kukambirana popanda kuimitsa, makamaka ntchito ya tsiku itatha kukoka munthu. Osati kuti mwamunayo sanakonde kukumverani, malingaliro ake, zinthu zambiri zofunikira sizikanatha. Amuna amadana akamadetsedwa ndi kugonana. Izi ndi zopanda chilungamo ndipo ndizovuta ku mfundo yofooka. Palibe amene amakonda izi. Sindimakonda amuna, pamene mkazi amanga kukhala wosalakwa, amamuneneza za machimo onse, pomwe ndi "manyazi".
Kuyankhula ndi zilembo kumapwetekanso theka lolimba la umunthu. Pa nthawi yomwe amai amakonda kufunsa mwamuna za malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo, nthawi zina amanena zithunzithunzi ndi malingaliro, kuyembekezera kuti munthuyo mwiniwakeyo adzaganiza zonse. Koma amuna alibe luso la telepathic, choncho iwo amakhumudwa chifukwa chosagwirizana kapena kusewera chete. Ngati munthu sakudziwa yekha, mkazi akhoza kukhumudwa, kukwiya kapena kunena momveka bwino kuti sakondedwa. Musamunyozetse munthu, muyambe kukayikira za umunthu wake, maluso ake. Izi zimapangitsa kudzikuza ndi ulemu wake. Mulimonsemo simunganene kuti mukukangana ndi mpikisano yomwe mwakhala mukukangana nayo nthawi yanu, kuti wanu wakale mukhale bwino. Khalani osamala m'mawu ndi m'mawu ngakhale panthawi yachisokonezo, chifukwa mungadzanong'oneze bondo pambuyo pake, ndipo pambuyo pake "mawu sali mpheta ..." Azimayi ena atakhala ndi moyo wa banja amayamba kukana mwamuna nthawi zambiri. Simukuyenera kukhala okonzekera kumenyana ndi maola 24 pa tsiku ndikugonana paulendo woyamba, koma kulingalira moyenerera kuyenera kukhala. Ngati mwamunayo waiwala kale, atagonana naye nthawi yotsiriza, izi zingatheke ndi zotsatira zake.
Musaiwale za maonekedwe anu. Dziyang'anire wekha, khala woyera. Mwamunayu wakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi iwe wokondeka ndi wokonzeka bwino. Palibe amene amapempha kuti apite kunyumba ndi kavalidwe komanso madzulo, koma mumangofunika kudziyang'ana nokha, kusunga thupi ndi tsitsi ndizoyera, kukhala okonzeka bwino ndi ovala bwino, kuvala zovala zatsopano za mawonekedwe abwino, ndi zina zotero. Simukusowa kukakamiza munthu ndi chikondi chanu, ndikuwonetsani momwe mukuwopera kum'taya. Kumbukirani kuti amuna ndi osaka mwanjira ina.
Koma komabe dzidzilemekezeni nokha! Khalani ndi malingaliro anu, mudziwe momwe mungatetezere, musalole kuti mukhale pa khosi lanu, kukuchititsani manyazi, kukuchititsani inu ndi zina zotero. Ndiye mwamuna wanu adzakulemekezani, inunso. Kodi mwamuna angatope ndi mkazi yemwe amamukonda? Ubale uyenera kugwira ntchito kwa onse awiri. Ndibwino kuti mukhalebe ndi moto wa nyumba, kuyesera kumvetsetsana wina ndi mzake, kukonda, kudandaula, nthawi zina kudziyika nokha pamalo a wina. Kondanani wina ndi mzake ndipo kondwerani!