Chikondi patali: momwe mungakhalire molondola


Nthawi zambiri timayenera kugawana ndi okondedwa anu. Ife timangokonda iwo, ife tikufuna kuti tigwire chirichonse mu moyo! "Osati kutaya chikondi?" - Nthawi zambiri timadzifunsa. Pambuyo polekana, sikuti kumangowonjezera maubwenzi komanso kumawonjezera misonkhano. Ichi ndi chiopsezo chachikulu - kukonda patali: momwe mungakhalire mofanana? Tiyeni tiyankhule za ubwino ndi kuipa kwa ubale umenewu.

PA MAFUPU AWIRI

Mkhalidwe 1. Mwamuna wanu wakhala akugwira ntchito mumzinda wina kwa chaka chimodzi tsopano. Kusunthira kwanu kwa iye kumasinthidwa nthawi zonse chifukwa cha ntchito ndi amayi, zomwe mukadzasiyidwa nokha. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi mumadziwana ndi munthu wokondweretsa kwambiri. Iye amakukondani nanu ndipo amaumirira pa ubale wapamtima. Ndipo kenako ndikukupatsani mwayi. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi mumadzipeza mu "katatu": iwe, mwamuna wako, yemwe ali kutali, ndi yemwe mumamukonda, ndi mnzanu amene amakukondani. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?

Kuti mumvetsetse katatu iyi ndikupanga chisankho choyenera, choyamba muyenera kusankha pakati pa mayi ndi mwamuna. Kodi mukudziwa chifukwa chake chikondi cha amayi chimatchedwa chikondi chapamwamba kwambiri? Ndi chifukwa chakuti mayi amalola mwana wake kukhala moyo wosiyana naye.

Ndipo, ndithudi, sankhani ngati chikondi chanu chalema ndi mwamuna wanu komanso ndi ndani mwa amuna awiri omwe mumamanga pamoyo wanu, muyenera kukhala (popanda thandizo la amayi anu). Ndipo chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsa zomwe mukufuna.

Mu chiyanjano chatsopano, amai nthawi zonse amakopeka ndi kamphindi kakang'ono, chikondi. Ndipo, kuwonjezera apo, ndizovuta kwambiri kusintha moyo wanu wamba ndikusamukira kumzinda wina kusiyana ndi kukhazikitsa zatsopano "apa ndi pano". Ntchito monga kusuntha ndi kupeza ntchito zatsopano zimafuna khama lalikulu ndi mphamvu. Koma palinso bonasi yayikulu - mu maubwenzi omwe apita kukayezetsa kuyerekezera, nkhope zambiri zowonongeka zimawululidwa. Ndi kukhulupirirana, kudalira wina ndi mzake chikondi, kudzipereka. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, chikondi chimene chagonjetsa vicissitudes ngati chimenechi chimakhala chofunika pamaso pa enieniwo. Amayamba kuthandizana kwambiri.

Muyenera kuyang'ana mwachidwi pa ubale ndi mnzanu watsopano ndipo muwone ngati ndiwothandiza kuti asinthe miyoyo yawo. Kodi mnzanu watsopano angakupatseni chiyani? Kodi mungakondwere naye? Kodi mgwirizanowu ungakhale ndi tsogolo lotani?

MUZIKONDA OTHANDIZA

Mkhalidwe 2. Mumagwira ntchito mumzinda wina. Ndandanda yanu ikuwoneka ngati: sabata yomwe mumakhala pakhomo, sabata limodzi. Ntchito yanu ndi yofunika kwambiri kwa inu, ndipo ilipiridwa bwino. Wokondedwa wanu poyamba anali kutsutsana ndi kuchoka kwanu, koma munatha kumuuza kuti zingakhale zabwino kwa inu nonse. Mumamukonda, koma mukufuna kuti mudziwe nokha ngati katswiri! Komabe, posachedwapa mukuganiza kuti mwapeza ntchitoyi kuti muthake pakhomo. Ndipo kuti muyenera kungogawana ndi amene mumakonda.

Mwachidziwikire, kuti chisangalalo cha mkazi wamakono, chikondi chimodzi sichikwanira, iye akufuna kudzizindikira yekha mu ntchito kapena ntchito. Apa, pakuyang'ana, pali ubwino wokha. Koma mu mkhalidwe wofanana, pali chododometsa: kufuna kwambiri chikondi ndi ubwenzi, mukufuna kukhala omasuka. Inu mukuwopa kudzipatula nokha mwa kukhala gawo la mnzanu. Ndipo muzimva mantha kuti wokondedwa adzataya mphamvu ndi nthawi yanu.

Tiyeni tiwone izo. Chilankhulo cha chikondi chenicheni ndi luso lochita molondola, ndiko kuti, kukhala ndi ubale wabwino kwa maulendo onsewa. Ngati mukufuna ufulu mu ubale, ndiye mwinamwake pulogalamuyi ikukuthandizani kuti musunge chikondi? Ndipo musaganize malingaliro oipa? Komanso, wokondedwa wanga anagwirizana ndi zomwe munasankha.

Palibe chochititsa manyazi, mwachitsanzo, kupumula mosiyana. Pambuyo pake, pokhala ndi kukhutiritsa mtima wanu ndi dziko lanu lamkati, ndiye kuti mungapatsane wina ndi mzake mochulukirapo kuposa ngati mukuphika nthawi zonse. Choncho, nthawi zambiri maanja omwe onse awiri amakhala okhutira ndi kudzidalira okha, kukonda patali kumalimbikitsa chiyanjano. Ophatikizana ali ndi mwayi osati kungolota za moyo waulere, komanso kupeza mtengo wake weniweni. Choncho, ndibwino kuika patsogolo.

MISONKHANO YOSUNGA

Mkhalidwe 3. Ntchito zomwe mumazikonda mumzinda wina masiku asanu ndi awiri ndikubwera kwa inu kumapeto kwa sabata ndi maholide. Pamsonkhano wanu, mumayesetsa kupereka nthawi kwa wina ndi mzake. Koma mukufuna kuti mukhale naye nthawi zonse. Ubale wanu ukuwoneka wolimba, koma nthawi zonse umalimbikitsidwa ndi mphutsi ya kukayikira komwe chikondi ichi patali ndi misonkhano yayifupi pamapeto a sabata kudzatha nthawi yopuma.

Mantha anu, mwinamwake, ndi opanda pake. Ndipotu, pamsonkhano wachidule pamapeto a sabata, mumadzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake. Kupumula kwenikweni si msonkhano wawufupi, koma kusowa kwa mtima. Inde, mwachibadwa kuti mukamakonda, mukufuna kukhala nthawi yochuluka ndi wokondedwa wanu. Koma osati nthawi zonse omwe amawonana wina ndi mnzake tsiku ndi tsiku, osangalala kuposa omwe amakhala nthawi zonse akulekanitsa.

Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndi ife okha omwe timapanga ubale wathu ndi anthu apamtima ndikusankha momwe tingakhalire bwino. Palibe wina kupatula ife yemwe atipangitsa ife kukhala osangalala. Malangizo othandiza pa nkhaniyi ndi kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa panthawi yomwe wokondedwa wanu sali pafupi. Mwachitsanzo, kuphunzira zinenero, yoga, kujambula, kuimba - chirichonse! Ndiye zidzakhala zosangalatsa kuti mukhale nokha ndi inu nokha. Mudzakhala ndi mwayi wopambana komanso kudzikuza. Ndipo misonkhano yanu ndi okondedwa anu idzakhala yolimba kwambiri kuposa kale, chifukwa mudzakhala ndi chinachake chogawana!

Ndipo chinthu chachikulu: pamene inu ndi okondedwa anu muli ndi chikhumbo choyankhula, kumverani, kumvetsetsana, palibe chomwe chingakulepheretseni chikondi ndi kukhala pamodzi, ngakhale patali.

KULEMBEDWA KU CHIKUMBUTSO

Mkhalidwe 4. Wakhala m'banja kwa zaka zoposa zitatu. Chaka chatha mumakumana ndi mwamuna wanu miyezi ingapo, chifukwa adachoka kukagwira ntchito, mwachitsanzo, ku Holland. Inu mumasunga ndalama za nyumba, ndipo chisankho kwa kanthawi chinagawanika. Mwamuna wanga nthawi zambiri ankati nthawi idzauluka mofulumira, ndipo posachedwa udzakhalapo. Koma posakhalitsa adakuuzani kuti: "Ndikupita ku Atlanta kwa chaka, chifukwa tikusowa ndalama kuti tigone nyumba." Inu muli otayika ndi ododometsedwa: "Iye sakonda ine nkomwe! Ndipo kufunika kopeza ndalama kwa nyumba ndizofukwa chabe. "

Pa mbali imodzi, alipo ambiri mwa ife omwe amachoka pakhomo kwa nthawi yaitali kuti athetse tsogolo lawo. Ndipo ngati mukuganiziranso za "paradaiso m'nyumba" sizowonjezereka kuyanjana kusiyana ndi kudzipatula chifukwa cha tsogolo labwino, funso lidzathetsedwa paokha.

Kumbali inayi, izi ndizosakanikirana. Palibe chitsimikizo kuti mwamuna wanu sangayambitsenso mgwirizano wake. Pomaliza, zambiri zingasinthe chaka. Nthawi zina munthu wina wapafupi, yemwe amamuthandiza pa zovuta komanso amapereka chithandizo chamakhalidwe abwino, amakhala okwera mtengo komanso wodziwa bwino kuposa mkazi wake kunja. Chinthu chachikulu kwa inu sikuti muthamangire kumaganizo "chikondi, sakonda". Koma siyeneranso kuti zinthu ziziyenda okha. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalimbikitsa m'madera oterewa kupereka mwamuna wake ndondomeko, momwe angakonzekere chirichonse, kuti asawononge banja chifukwa cha ndalama. Mwachitsanzo, kambiranani naye mwayi wokhala limodzi mu Atlanta. Kapena, ngati kuchoka kwa Chikhulupiliro cha America sikutheka pazifukwa zina, konzani mosamala misonkhano yotsatira. Ndiyeno nthawi idzauza ngati ndinu okondana wina ndi mzake. Pambuyo pa zonse, chifukwa cha chikondi chenicheni mulibe zopinga ndi kutalika kwake!

PA ZIKIMODZI

Mkhalidwe 5. Kuchokera ubwana munalota kugwirizanitsa tsoka ndi munthu wamba - woyimba kapena woimba. Koma pamene maloto anu anakwaniritsidwa, zinafika kuti nthawi yanu yomwe mumakonda kwambiri paulendo kapena oyendayenda. Koma chikondi chanu nthawi zonse chimapirira kulekana. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi mudzapeza kuti anakana ntchito yomwe angagwire ntchito kunyumba. Nkhanza zinayambira, mumamva kuti simunamudalire. Iye akuti: "Chonde, mvetserani, ndiyenera kupita ndi kubweranso kwa inu, kuti ndikhale ndi inu nthawi zonse!" Kodi ndi zoona, ndipo kuti mukhale pamodzi mutanthawuza kuti mukhale nawo nthawi zonse?

Kodi mukuwopa kukhulupirira mawu a wokondedwa wanu? Ndiye bwanji osakhulupirira zomwe amachita. Ndipotu, zoona si zomwe munthuyo akunena, koma chifukwa chake akunena. Wokondedwa wanu anati: "Ndiyenera kubwerera." Ananena izi chifukwa akufuna kukhala ndi inu ndikuyembekeza kuti mumvetse. Ichi ndi Choonadi.

Inde, sipangakhale chizolowezi chodziwika cha chikondi patali - momwe mungakhalire bwino aliyense amadzipangira yekha. Koma choyenera kuchita, ngati gawo lanu lokondedwa la ufulu ndi malo aakulu? Apa munthu ayenera kuganizira nuance imodzi yofunika: kwa amuna ambiri a ntchito zaluso, kubwezeretsa nthawi zonse kuchokera kunja kumafunika - kusintha kwa zojambula, zooneka bwino, anthu. Choncho, musaganize kuti izi ndi zomwe simumazipereka kwa okondedwa anu. Ziri chabe kuti dziko lake ndi lalikulu kwambiri. Kuti mukhale ogwirizana, iye ayenera kuti azichita nawo nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo! Funso lokha ndilo ngati muli ndi chipiriro ndi kumvetsetsa. Koma mumamukonda, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mudzaphunzira kumvetsa ndi kuvomereza zomwe ali.