Kodi ubale uli patali?

Chikondi ndikumverera bwino komwe munthu angakhoze kukumana nako. Aliyense ali ndi chikondi. Palibe munthu mmodzi pa Dziko lapansi yemwe "sakudziwa momwe", ndi izi amabadwa. Maganizo osadziwika bwino ndi omveka bwino omwe amafikira pamutu panu, amawongolera ndi kutuluka panja, maganizo awa, osagwidwa ndi malingaliro, komanso omvera chisoni. Chikondi sichitha, sichikhala ndi malire omwe si afuko, osati a msinkhu, osati a fuko.

Ngakhale ndizotheka kukangana za maubwenzi patali. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, maubwenzi patali amakhalapo kuposa ayi. Ambiri sakhulupirira kuti chikondi choterocho chilipo, ambiri amanena kuti palibe mgwirizano ndipo sungakhale. Kodi munthu amene wakhala kutali ndi chinthu chokonda chikondi, angakhale ngati alibe gawo limodzi ndi wokondedwa wake? Mu moyo, vuto lirilonse liri kotheka. Masiku athu ovuta, nthawi zambiri, amuna amathera nthawi yaitali kutali ndi banja, kuyesera kupeza ndalama. Inde, chikondi ndi maubwenzi amakhalabe, koma kodi banja lilipobe? Pambuyo pake, izi ndi maphunziro oyanjana a ana, zomwe sizingatheke popanda kukhalapo kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi nthawi zonse. Mwanayo ayenera kuwona kuti makolo onse ali pafupi - pokhapokha banjali lingatchedwe mokwanira. Zochitika zimasonyeza kuti mabanja ngati amenewa, omwe kholo limodzi salipo kwa nthawi yayitali, posachedwa adzawonongeka.

Mabanja ena amadziwa kuti amapita ku chiyanjano patali, tsopano ndizozoloŵera kuyitana banja la alendo. Malinga ndi malingaliro awo - kukhala limodzi kwa nthawi yaitali kumangopweteka maganizo, ndipo moyo ndi bata zimadya holide ya moyo. Potero, mtengo ndi ulemu kwa wina ndi mzake zatayika. Kwa anthu ambiri okwatirana, ndi kafukufuku wa dziko lonse, mtundu uwu wa chiyanjano sungamvetseke, choncho sichivomerezeka. Chikondi chimakhala paubwenzi wotere, ngakhale kuti mabanja ambiri sagwirizana.

Ndipo chikondi choterocho patali moyo umatipatsa zitsanzo zambiri. Njira yokha yogwirizanitsa ndi lingaliro lakuti wokondedwa wanu akugona mosiyana ndipo simungakhoze kuzikonda izo, kumuphimba ndi bulangeti lofunda, pamene iye akugona kuti awerenge nyuzipepalayo ndi kugona mwamphamvu, kutchingidwa ngati mwana wamng'ono. Mwinamwake muyenera kungozitenga ndikuzindikira kuti sizowononga. Munthu amene mumamuwona tsiku ndi tsiku yemwe mumamusamalira sadzakhala kumeneko kwa kanthawi. Koma muzonse muyenera kuyang'ana zopindulitsa! Kotero, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yambiri, yomwe mungagwiritse ntchito phindu la maonekedwe anu kapena kupatsa miniti yaulere kwa achibale kapena abwenzi.

Mfundo yakuti simungathe kuwonana sizikutanthauza kuti simungalankhulane. Masiku ano, zaka zamakono zamakono, pali njira zambiri zogwiritsira ntchito. Kukhala wopatukana nokha, monga kale, ukhoza kufotokozera zomwe mwakumana nazo komanso zatsopano zomwe munakumana nazo pamoyo wanu.

Mosiyana, funso lotseguka mu chiyanjano, ndi nkhani yokhulupirira. Pa nthawi yomwe mtunda wa pakati panu umatsimikiziridwa osati miyezi yokha, koma ngakhale ndi zaka, pali ngozi yonyengerera, osati chifukwa chakuti chikondi chadutsa, koma chifukwa chibwenzi chakuthupi ndizochitika zakuthupi. Ichi ndi cholephera chachikulu mu ubale patali.

Choncho, kaya maubwenzi ali patali, n'zotheka kuti awiriwa asankhe. Kugawana nthawi yaitali, msonkhano umasangalatsa kwambiri, womwe umasandulika kukhala tchuthi lenileni kwa awiri ndi mphepo yamkuntho kuchokera m'maganizo. Ndipo mtengo wamtengo wapatali kwa wina ndi mzake ndi wapamwamba kwambiri. Ndipo mwinamwake kupatukana, ichi ndi mayeso amphamvu. Pakapita nthawi yaitali, zingakhale zovuta kuti muyanjanitsane. Kotero ife timalenga chikondi chathu ndi chimwemwe chathu.