Izi ndi zomwe amai ambiri amachitira. Koma kodi mungasankhe chiyani, mukuwonetsa, kutalika kwa tsitsi kapena tsitsi? Tiyeni timvetse pamodzi zomwe zingakhale zabwino kwa mtsikana - tsitsi lalifupi kapena tsitsi lalifupi. Koma zonse mwadongosolo.
Atsikana ambiri amakono amavala tsitsi. Yokongola, yabwino, yosavuta komanso yatsopano! Kuwombera pang'ono kumapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi ufulu komanso ufulu. Komabe, ziyenera kuzindikila kuti kachitidwe ka kavalidwe kakang'ono kazimayi kakang'ono kalekale katha. Ndipo lero atsikana ambiri okondwa amavala tsitsi lalitali, lomwe limatsindika za chikhalidwe chawo chachikazi ndi fano lapadera. Ndiye ndi bwino kuti atsikana akhale ndi tsitsi lalitali kapena tsitsi lalifupi? Ndipo, ndithudi, sipadzakhala yankho losavomerezeka ku funso ili.
N'zochititsa chidwi kuti ambiri ogonana mosangalala mu moyo akadali otsimikiza kuti amuna amakonda tsitsi lalitali pamutu wokondedwa wawo. Monga lamulo, ndi tsitsi lalitali limene timayanjana ndi chikazi, chithumwa, chinsinsi chachinsinsi komanso ngakhale chinyengo. Pachifukwa ichi, tsitsilo likhale lalitali, bwino. Pa nthawi yomweyi, tsitsi lalifupi, amuna ambiri amazindikira kuti ndi tsitsi la munthu ndipo ndi oyenerera kwa mnzake wokongola.
Ambiri amatsutsa msungwana wawo kupanga tsitsi lalifupi. Makamaka, ngati msungwanayo asanakhale ndi tsitsi lalitali, ndipo iwo anapita kwa iye kwambiri. Palinso amuna omwe ali okonzeka kuthetsa ubale wawo ndi okondedwa awo, ngati akumuumirizabe ndikupita kumsika kuti amule tsitsi lake. Izi zikuwonetsedwa ndi kufufuza kwa amuna pa nkhani izi, zomwe zimachitidwa ndi magazini a amayi.
Komabe, pali amuna ambiri amene amadziwa kuti mkazi ali wokhulupirika. Sakonda tsitsi (osati ngati liri lalitali kapena lalifupi, ziribe kanthu), koma msungwana wonse: mawonekedwe ake, nkhope nkhope, kumwetulira, chiwerengero. Ndipo, ndithudi, chithumwa cha msungwana wina, chikhalidwe chake chachikazi, komanso khalidwe lake (chiyanjano, chidziwitso ndi kudzichepetsa, kukoma mtima ndi chifundo) ndizofunikira kwambiri (ndipo, mwina, zovuta).
Tidzakumbukira kuti nthawi zambiri abambo amamvetsetsa zomwe atsikana akusoĊµa - chikondi, chifatso, chikhalidwe. Zomwezo zingagwiritsidwe ntchito pazokongoletsa. Mwina, sitidzalakwitsa tikanena kuti tsitsi lalitali la munthu aliyense lifika pamtima. Koma tsitsi lalifupi lidzakondweretsa mnyamata, kokha ngati zidzakhala bwino kwambiri pa nkhope yanu. Mwachitsanzo, tsitsi lalifupi limakupangitsani kukhala laling'ono komanso losangalatsa, ndipo tsitsi lalitali silikukhudzani kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, ndithudi, zomwe mumakonda zimakukondani tsitsi. Ndipo chinthu china chofunika kwambiri. Tsitsi lalitali pokhapokha silingasangalatse mwamuna, ngati sakukonzedwa bwino. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kuyatsa tsitsi lanu lopangidwa ndi tsitsi lalitali pamaso pa wokondedwa wanu, muyenera kulisunga bwino, kuti tsitsi lanu likhale loyera, likhazikitsidwe ndipo kwa nthawi yaitali likuyang'ana bwino.
Tsitsi lalitali labwino nthawi zonse limakopa maonekedwe a anthu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kugonana, ndi chinthu chodziwika bwino chachikazi. Mwazinthu zina, tsitsi lalitali limalola mwini wawo kuti aziyendetsa tsitsi. Inu muli ndi mwayi uliwonse woti mukhale mfumukazi ya chikondwerero chilichonse, mutakhala ndi tsitsi lapamwamba komanso lachikazi lachikazi. Kupanga kwake kukuthandizani kusankha munthu wodziwa tsitsi tsitsi. Ndikhulupirire, pano kuyang'ana kwaukulu kwa inu kudzakhala kofunikira chabe!
Mosiyana ndi tsitsi lalifupi, tsitsi lalifupi limapatsa mpata mwayi wokhala ndi chithunzi. Pogwiritsa ntchito tsitsili, mungathe kukonza tsitsi lokhazika mtima pansi ndi njira zowonetsera tsitsi, kusinthasintha pang'ono magulu a tsitsi, ndikuzipereka madzulo. Koma kusamalidwa tsitsi mosavuta komanso kumasulira kwa tsiku ndi tsiku kumapangitsa asungwana ambiri kusankha tsitsi.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti msungwana (mosasamala kanthu za tsitsi lomwe amvala) samapachikanso tsitsi lake. Ndipotu palibe munthu amene angafune, ngati ali pabedi kapena m'chilimwe pa udzu msungwanayo akukonza tsitsi lake - mmalo mokondwera ndi kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wake. Ndipo, anthu samakonda kwambiri kuti mkaziyo amadandaula mwadala (makamaka, ndi mnyamata) zokhudza momwe akuonekera. Sitidzipaka tokha ndipo sitidzipaka tokha pamaso pa chibwenzi chathu! Kotero ndi tsitsi. Ndi bwino kuchita zonse zisanachitike, kuti mutenge zothandizira ubwino wa tsitsi, kusiyana ndi kuti musasinthe tsitsi lanu pamaso pa munthuyo, mukumukakamiza kuti akudikire mofulumira.
Chofunika kwambiri: nthawi zonse ndibwino kuti msungwanayo azikongoletsa tsitsi, zomwe ziri pamaso pake! Ngati muli ndi tsitsi lalitali, ngati nthawi zonse amadzikongoletsa bwino ndi okongola, ngati simuli ovuta kuti muwasamalire, ndikhulupirire, izi ndizo zabwino kwambiri. Ndipo ngakhale nthawi zina mumafuna kuponyera chilichonse ndikudula tsitsi, kotero kuti "zokhazikika komanso zopita" - musachedwe! Sizitali kwambiri kuti mukwiyire ndikudula tsitsi lanu. Chinthu chokhacho chimasonyeza kuti ndi zophweka kupanga tsitsi lalifupi, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kubwereranso tsitsi lalitali kachiwiri. Zidzakhala zodikira, pamene tsitsi lidzakula ndikubwezeretsanso kutalika kwake. Chinthu choyipa kwambiri kwa msungwana aliyense ndikumadutsa nthawi imeneyo pamene tsitsi lake lakula kale, ndipo tsitsi la tsitsi silikuwoneka, koma tsitsi lalitali liri patali kwambiri. Panthawiyi atsikana ambiri amatha kupita kwa wovala tsitsi kuti adye tsitsi. Pambuyo pa zonse, n'zosatheka kuyenda ndi mutu wosadziwika ndi wosasunthika! Komabe, ngati mutatha kupulumuka nthawi yosautsayi, ndiye kuti mukhoza kubwerera ku tsitsi lalitali.
Komabe, ngati tsitsi lanu liri lochepa ndi lofooka, ndizotheka kuti ndibwino kuti musankhe tsitsi loyenerera nkhope ndi ubwino wa tsitsi. Mutha kuyang'ana mafashoni ndi zamakono ndikusunga nthawi ndi mphamvu pa tsitsi lojambula. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti zotsatira zake zilizonse zimakhala zomveka. Ndipo ngati tsitsi lanu (mosasamala kanthu kuti liri la tsitsi lalitali kapena lakudula tsitsi) lidzakuthandizani kuti muwoneke ngati wamng'ono, wokongola komanso wapadera, ndithudi musangalatse chibwenzi chanu. Ndondomeko yanu idzasungiranso zokhazokha, ndipo chithunzi chanu chidzakuthandizani kukhalabe nokha. Kukhala moyo woona ndi wodalirika - ndi chiyani chinanso chofunikira kuti chikoka chikhale pamaso pa anthu?