Ngati mkazi ndi wokwatira amadziwika kale, izi sizingatheke kukakamizidwa. Komabe, mkhalidwe umenewu umayesedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana, mwachitsanzo, amatanthauzidwa kuti ngati mkazi atalankhula ndi mwamuna kwa nthawi yaitali, ndiye kuti akhoza kukambirana naye momasuka. Amuna ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ngati atamuitana mayi wina kukadyera ndikukapatsidwa mankhwala, ndiye kuti anavomera kuti azigwirizana.
Ozunzidwa kapena kuzunzidwa, monga lamulo, amatha kuvutika maganizo kwa nthawi yaitali. Chiopsezo chomwe chimayamba kutsogolera chiwawa, palokha, chimayambitsa kupanikizika. Ngati mkazi sakuloledwa kubwezera, zotsatira zake zoipa pa umoyo wake zawonjezeka.
NKHANI ZOCHITIKA: KUWERENGA KWA VUTO
Madokotala-azamisala amadziwa zisonyezo zambiri za mavuto omwe anthu omwe amachitira nkhanza amakhala nawo. Ali ndi chilakolako champhamvu komanso maloto, zina zosokonekera pa khalidwe zimazindikirika, kungoiwalika kanthawi kochepa, n'kovuta kuti iwo aziganizira. Pafupi nthawizonse mkazi amafunafuna thandizo kuchokera kwa ena. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, amayamba kudziimba mlandu yekha chifukwa chosagonjera mkwatulo ... Yandikirani anthu sayenera kumuthandiza pa lingaliro limeneli, chifukwa panthawi yovuta sizingatheke kulingalira zotsatira zake zonse, koma amphamvu ndi amphamvu kwambiri mkazi akadali wofooka kuposa munthu.
Komabe, nthawi zambiri timapeza kuti chilichonse chiri chosiyana. Nthawi zina amadandaula za anthu omwe amazunzidwa, "amafunika kuti azikhala" osangalala komanso osangalala. " Pamene wamkulu wachikazi wosakwatira amachitiridwa nkhanza, ambiri amafunsa khalidwe lake ndipo amatsutsidwa mwachindunji pa zomwe zinachitika. Ngati uyu ndi mkazi wokwatira, ndiye apongozi ake ndi mwamuna wake nthawi zambiri samadziŵa "amilandu" a wakuba. Poyamba, zikuwoneka kuti amachitira chifundo munthu wozunzidwa, amayamba kuyang'ana zifukwa zomubweretsera mlandu ndikumukwatira.
KODI NDIPO AMAKHALA OTHANDIZA?
Ziwerengero zimanena kuti pafupifupi theka la anthu ogwiriridwa ali ndi zaka 16. Kwa ana ndi achinyamata, zomwe zimakhudza zachiwawa zimakhala zofanana ndi za akuluakulu, koma zizindikiro zowonjezereka zimatchulidwanso - zoopsya usiku, kusokoneza ubweya, etc. Ambiri ambiri ali ndi manyazi; iwo akudera nkhaŵa ndi maganizo a anzako kwa iwo okha, ena amachititsa mantha pakuwombera kapena malo ogwirira.
M'mabanja omwe ozunzidwa amakhala (atsikana ndi anyamata), maganizo omwe makolo amakhala nawo kwa iwo nthawi zambiri amakhala opanda chilungamo. Choncho pali mikangano yambiri. Mayi akhoza kulanga mwana wake wamkazi - iwo amati, "ali ndi mlandu pa chirichonse". Makolo ambiri amakana kapena sangathe kupereka chithandizo cha maganizo kwa mwana wawo, amaopa kulengeza ndipo kotero saona kuti n'kofunika kutembenukira kwa akatswiri kuti awathandize.
Kawirikawiri, amayi osakwatiwa omwe ali ndi zaka 17 mpaka 24 amachitiridwa nkhanza za kugonana. Pa nthawi ino, ambiri a iwo sakudziwa bwino moyo, sali oyenera mokwanira mu zovuta za ubale pakati pa anthu ndipo akhoza kukakamizika kuti azilankhulana bwino.
MOYO UCHITIRIZA ...
Pali njira zina zomwe mkazi amachitira kuti agwirire. Gawo loyamba limakhala ndi zizindikiro za kusokonezeka maganizo (mantha, kusakhulupirika, khalidwe losadziwika). Wozunzidwa sakufuna kulankhula za zomwe zinachitika, sangathe kusankha achibale ake, madokotala, apolisi. Cholinga chake chiri pa kudziimba mlandu ndi mafunso ambiri: Kodi adzayandikira bwanji kufalitsa, kaya ali ndi pakati, kaya watenga kachilombo ka HIV, ndi zina zotero.
Gawo lachiwiri - kusintha kwa kunja - kumayambira pakapita kanthawi. Kuyamba koyamba kwa nkhawa kumadutsa. Poyesera kuthana ndi zochitika zakumbupi zakale ndikuyambiranso kudziletsa, mkazi akhoza kubwerera ku moyo wake wachizolowezi ndikukhala ngati kuti vutoli latha.
Komabe, siteji yachitatu ikuzindikiranso - kuzindikira ndi chilolezo, chomwe sichidziŵika kwa wozunzidwayo ndi achibale ake. Panthawi imeneyi, kufalikira kwa kuvutika maganizo ndi kufunika kokambirana zomwe zinachitika. Mzimayi yemwe wavutika ndi chiwawa amadziwa kuti munthu ayenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito pazochitikazo ndikutsutsa maganizo otsutsana ndi wakuba. Ambiri mwa amayi oterewa ndi okonzeka kuwathandiza ena omwe amazunzidwa.
Mkazi wokwatira akhoza kukhala ndi zovuta zedi zovuta. Chifukwa chakuti sangathe kudziteteza, amayamba kuopa kuti sangathe kuteteza ana ake. Kuphatikiza apo, mkaziyo akuopa kuti mwamuna wake amusiya.
KODI KUGWIRITSA NTCHITO KUTI NDANI?
Kubwezera kumabweretsa mavuto aakulu a maganizo. Kuphatikizanso, ubale ndi mwamuna wake nthawi zambiri umasintha, si zachilendo kuti mabanja asokonezeke pambuyo pazochitikazo. Zimakhala zovuta kufotokoza zolakwika zonse zomwe wodwalayo angakumane nazo.
Pambuyo pa lipoti lokhudza kugwiriridwa, mayi amachotsedwa m'manja mwa ogwira ntchito zachipatala ndi apolisi. Chokhumba chake choyamba ndikumverera wotetezeka, wotetezedwa ndi munthu aliyense. Kumuthandiza iye, anthu apadera osiyana ndi maubwenzi ogwirizana - woweruza, dokotala, wachibale wapamtima, bwenzi kapena bwenzi. Ku polisi kapena ku ofesi, wogwidwayo ayenera kulandira chidziwitso cha zochita zake zina. Izi zimamuthandiza kuti apite - kusankha zofunikira payekha kapena kuyankhulana ndi akuluakulu a boma.
M'kati mwa munthu aliyense amene apulumuka chiwawa, nyanja ya mikangano imakwiyitsa - amayi omwe amavutika ndi chiwawa amakhala nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Iye, monga lamulo, amafunikira kuthandizidwa mwamsanga m'maganizo, nthawi zina sangathe kuchita popanda ntchito yayitali ndi psychologist. Ntchito yake yaikulu ndi kubwezeretsa mwamsanga mwamsanga moyo wamba. Ziyenera kuganiziridwa kuti zotsatira zotsutsana za kugwiriridwa zimayambika pazochitika zonse za moyo wa wodwalayo - thupi, maganizo, chikhalidwe, kugonana.
Pambuyo pachisokonezo, mkazi akhoza kukhala ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa umunthu komwe kumakhudza kwambiri ntchito yake, phunziro, ubale wa banja. Ozunzidwa akhoza kuyesedwa kudzipha, kukula kwa uchidakwa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, psychosis, ndi matenda oopsa. Chithandizo choyamba cha maganizo kwa wogwidwa ndi chiwawa chingaperekedwe ndi matepi a telefoni, omwe amagwira ntchito mozungulira m'mawa akuluakulu.