Choyamba, yambani kuzindikira anthu onse kuti angakhale anzanu ndipo osakhalanso. Musaiwale kuti anthu nthawi zonse azigawidwa m'magulu awiri. Mfundo yoyamba ndi yakuti anyamata amadziwa kukhala mabwenzi ndi mtsikanayo, kupanga zibwenzi pazomwe zimayendera bwino. Iwo ndi abwenzi achikazi enieni. Tsoka ilo, amuna oterewa amadziwika kuti ndi zamoyo zowonongeka ndipo zalembedwa mubuku "lofiira" la kulankhulana kwaumunthu. Mtundu wachiwiri ndi wathunthu wotsutsana ndi woyamba. Awa ndiwo amuna omwe amawona msungwana chabe ngati chinthu chogonana, kutayira kutali zonse zomwe zingatheke kukhala bwenzi basi. Pakati pa magulu awa a anyamata simukuzunguliridwa, mukulankhulana kwanu mzerewu uyenera kumveka bwino, kuti simukugonana, koma ndinu ofanana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti abwenzi anu apamtima ayenera kuwonetsedwa pamtundu wanu wachikumbumtima, monga abwenzi anu abwenzi. Ngati pakati pa abwenzi a anthu apo pali omwe akufanana ndi inu ndipo sakufuna kuti musayanjane nawo, yesetsani kufotokoza kuti kupatula pa ubwenzi simungawapatse kanthu. Ndikhulupirire, kwa yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri, iye adzakumvetsa. Ndipo kukhalabe ndi chilankhulo chanu kumapangitsa kuti musamangokhalira kukambirana. Ngati munthu amakhulupirira mwakachetechete zikhulupiriro zake, yesetsani kuchepetsa kulankhulana kwake ndi iye momwe angathere. Musaiwale kuti mmodzi mwa anu opangidwa kale (ndi achikulire), omwe amatchedwa ma-guy, angathe pa nthawi iliyonse, atadzuka ndi chidwi chofuna kupambana mtima wanu. Choncho, mu gulu la amuna, ngati mulibe wokondedwa pafupi, lankhulani momveka bwino za iye, muuzeni nthawi yabwino, momwe mumakhalira pamodzi, momwe mumamukondera komanso mmene akumvera, pokhudzana ndi inu. Mwa njira, makamaka kwa amuna ena, kuchokera ku chikhalidwe chanu cha tsiku ndi tsiku, nthawi zonse kuchotsa mawu osautsa ngati "kutengeka." Momwemo, prank wosalakwa uyu, akhoza kuthyola phiri lonse la nkhuni, ndi zotsatira zovuta kwambiri kwa inu. Ndikumva kuti ndivuta. Ndipotu, tonsefe timasewera mwachibadwa, makamaka ngati zimakhudzanso theka lachimuna. Mwa ichi nthawi zonse timayesa kudziwonetsera tokha kukhala angwiro, chiyambi, kukongola. Zophimba zathu ndi oimira za kugonana kolimba zinabadwa patsogolo pathu. Ndipo kuphonya mwayi wakuyesa spell wanu muchitetezo kwa ife ndizofanana ndi kuti muli nawo pakhomo lanu, mwachitsanzo, nsapato kuchokera ku "Calvin Klein" yotsiriza, ndipo simungathe kuwasamba. Ndipo kodi mungatani? Zovuta - koma zofunikira. Kukopana, kapena kuti kusakhala naye kumbali yanu, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zowonjezera, poyankha funso la momwe mungayankhulire ndi amuna, mukakumana ndi mnyamata.
Osayankhulana ndi abambo samaphonya ndodo, makamaka ngati muli pamsonkhano uno ndi mnyamata yemwe ali wokondedwa kwambiri kwa inu. Musalole ziyembekezero ndi malonjezano ngati mawonekedwe a "mwina", "tsiku lina", amuna, osadabwitsa, okhulupirira ife, ndi mawu aliwonse ochokera m'milomo yathu amawona ngati chithunzi kapena chiyembekezo cha tsogolo losangalatsa ndi kutenga nawo gawo - choncho Yesetsani kulankhula momasuka. Ngati muli okondwa kwambiri ndi chibwenzi chanu ndipo mukufuna kukhala naye "gawo la mkango" pa moyo wanu, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, mumakhulupirira mwa iye ndipo muli ndi zambiri kuposa momwe mumamvera. Musagwire aliyense pafupi (monga ngati za "katundu") - bwino kuti mupite kumbali zonse zinayi, musazunze munthu. Pambuyo pake, kwinakwake chimwemwe chake chimapita, chimene adzakumane nacho. Chabwino, ndipo ngati, simukuwona tsogolo liri lonse ndi mnyamata wanu wamakono, ndiye kuti muli ndi makadi omwe ali nawo.
Zimakhala zosavuta kucheza ndi anyamata omwe mwakhala mukudziwa kwa nthawi yayitali, mungathe kuwauza kuyambira ali ana (anzanu a m'kalasi, ophunzira anzanga, anyamata ochokera ku bwalo, otchedwa oyandikana nawo). Ubwenzi wotere unadutsa "moto ndi madzi". Anthu awa akuwonani inu muchisoni ndi mu chisangalalo. Choncho, pamaganizo osokonezeka maganizo, mumadziwana ngati alongo. Pangakhalebe mavuto, zida, "zazikulu" zachifundo. Apa ubale wa uzimu ukulamulira. Inu ndinu a iwo ndipo iwo ali anu, monga mukuwerengedwera, kuchokera ku kutumphuka mpaka kutsika, bukhu. Mukudziwa zofooka ndi makhalidwe abwino a wina ndi mzake ndipo motero palibe kanthu katsopano kupatula kumvetsetsa kwaubwenzi kwa anthuwa sikuyenera kuyembekezera. Komanso pano tikhoza kutchula anyamata athu akale. Ngakhale ziri zosavuta kwambiri kusunga ubale wina ndi chibwenzi chanu chakale. Chabwino, ngati mutachita izo, ndikutha kutero (ndikupatsani uta wochepa kuchokera kwa ine) kumbukirani, anthu awa kwa inu adzakhalabe mabwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali osati kuti inu, mudzakhala mndandanda wa omwe akuitanidwa ku ukwati wawo, ndipo ali anu.
Koma dzikoli ndi lovuta, ndipo mwatsoka, osati ndi anthu onse omwe mudathamangitsira mpira pabwalo ngati mwana, analemba zolemba pamakalata kapena amayesa kumanga maubwenzi. Choncho, pangani anzanu, koma penyani-muzichita bwino kwambiri. Ngakhale, pali chisonyezero china chokhala ndi ubwenzi wabwino. Pezani anzanu, omwe mumatsimikiza kuti simunakondwere ngati inu, komanso simukukonda inu ngati anthu, komanso funso la momwe mungapangire anzanu lidzatha pokhapokha poyambira. Kapena, pambuyo pa zonse, pangani mabwenzi ndi anyamata monga iye mwini, ndiko kuti, omwe ali ndi ubale weniweni, chikondi ndi kuyamikira theka lawo lachiwiri. Pokhapokha mutha kuganizira ubale wanu ngati ubwenzi weniweni. Ndipo inu simungatero, panthawi ya kukambirana kwanu, funsani pamutu pazinthu zina, muthamangire mutu wanu: "Kodi amatanthauzanji, ndipo akutanthauzanji ndi zimenezo, ndipo kodi sakunena za ine? chinachake chomwe ... ยป.
Kumbukiraninso kuti ngati chibwenzi chanu chiri ndi nsanje yochuluka ndipo kuyankhulana ndi amuna ena sikumupatsa mtendere, ganizirani, komanso ngati kuli koyenera kuyang'ananso kuleza mtima kwa wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo potsirizira pake, dziwani kuti: "za ubale, pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, mungathe kunena zambiri, ndipo mukudandaula ...". Nthawi zina zikhumbo zathu zonyansa zimakhala zolimba kwambiri kuposa zamtengo wapatali monga ubwenzi ndi kukhulupirika.