Choncho, ndiyetu kuyambira, ndiye kukoma mtima ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zabwino kwambiri za umunthu. Kwenikweni, sikophweka kukhala wachifundo koma osati munthu aliyense wokoma mtima. Mwatsoka, kukoma mtima m'dziko lamakono kumabweretsa mavuto. Anthu omwe ali okoma mtima, yesetsani kulamulira ambiri ndi ambiri. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake kukoma mtima kumawoneka ngati chizindikiro cha munthu wofooka, osadziwa kuti munthu wabwino amachita izi osati chifukwa chakuti ali wofooka, koma chifukwa ali ndi chisoni kwa aliyense. Ndipotu, kukoma mtima kwaumunthu ndi chizindikiro chakuti mnyamata akhoza kumverera kwenikweni. Iye sangakhoze kukonda yekha, koma ena. Komanso, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti kukoma ndi chizindikiro cha kulimba mtima. Chowonadi ndi chakuti anthu abwino samalekerera kupanda chilungamo, choncho, nthawi zonse yesetsani kuteteza ofooka ndikuchita chirichonse kuti mupambane wolondola. Pokhala wofooka msinkhu, munthu sangathamangire kuteteza ofooka ndi okhumudwa. Adzayesa kubisala kumbuyo kwa anthu ena, ngati sangathe kuvutika. Kotero, mu chikhalidwe chofooka, munthu sayenera kuwona chifundo. Komanso, munthu wofooka nthawi zina ndi munthu wonyenga komanso woipa yemwe amayesa kupulumuka mwa njira iliyonse ndipo ali wokonzeka kupita kwina kulikonse popanda wina kumkhudza. Ngati munthu ali ndi mtima wabwino, izi sizikutanthauza kuti iye ndi chigoba chomwe sichikweza mutu wake ndikuchita zonse zomwe iye akulamula. M'malo mwake, anthu abwino samakhala chete nthawi zonse. Kukoma mtima sikuwalepheretsa kufulumira, kupeza ubale wawo, kukwiya komanso kukwiya. Munthu wabwino sadzapweteka munthu pachabe. Koma, izi sizikutanthauza kuti iye adzakhala chete ngati atawona chisalungama kapena ngati wina sakhala wopanda tsankho polankhula naye kapena kwa achibale ake. Ambiri mwa zifukwa zina zimawoneka kuti mnyamata wabwino sangathe kusintha. Kulingalira za munthu wotero, aliyense pa chifukwa china amaimira mnyamata woonda, wotsika kwambiri amene amamveka kuchokera ku mphepo yofiira ngati mtengo wamtengo wapatali. Ndipotu, maganizo awa ndi olakwika. Zimapangitsa kuti thupi likhale lopangidwa ndi thupi. Ndipo, ngati sichiwoneka ndi maonekedwe awo, sizikutanthauza kuti anthu otere amadana ndi dziko lonse lapansi ndipo nthawi zonse amayesera kulumala munthu, kapena kupha. M'malo mwake, nthawi zonse amatsata chilungamo ndikuwonetsa nkhanza pokhapokha ngati n'kofunikira. Mwa njira, anthu abwino akhoza kukhala nkhanza. Izi siziri zamkhutu nkomwe. Chiwawa ndi kukoma mtima zimagwirizana mofanana ndi khalidwe la munthu mmodzi. Anthu oterewa amasonyeza kuti nkhanza zawo sizinali nthawi zonse. Amadziwa kudziletsa okha, kuti asakhumudwitse omwe alibe mlandu uliwonse. Koma, pamene wolakwa adzalangidwa nthawi zonse. Munthu yemwe ali ndi mlandu pamaso pa munthu woteroyo sangaganize kuti iye ali wabwino.
Ndipotu, atsikana omwe ali ndi anyamata abwino amakhala ndi mwayi kwambiri pamoyo wawo. Zoona zake n'zakuti anthu abwino amakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi okondedwa awo, kuyesa kuwasangalatsa, kumvetsera zokhumba zawo ndi malingaliro awo. Kwa munthu wabwino, okondedwa ndi achibale nthawi zambiri amakhala ofunika kuposa iye mwini. Kotero, iye ali wokonzeka kutembenuzira mapiri ndi kusintha dziko, ngati iwo okha omwe ali nawo, zinali zosangalatsa, zabwino ndi zomasuka. Kwa anthu abwino, chisangalalo cha ena ndi chofunikira kwambiri. Ndi amuna awa omwe amateteza alendo kuchokera kwa achifwamba ndikusamutsa agogo aakazi kudutsa msewu. Amachita izi kuti asadzipangire okha ndi kuti atsimikizire wina, koma chifukwa chakuti amamvera chisoni anthu. Iwo amachita zokha pa kukoma mtima kwa moyo ndipo konse, musapemphe kalikonse. Izi ndizosiyana kwa anthu abwino - kuchita zinthu mopanda dyera komanso osakwiya pamene simungapezenso chimodzimodzi. Komanso, mnyamata wabwino sangakweze dzanja lake kwa mtsikana ndipo samukhumudwitsa, pokhapokha atamufikitsa kutentha. Amuna amenewa ndi amuna abwino komanso mabwenzi abwino. Nthawi zonse amamvetsera, yesetsani kupereka uphungu. Thandizo ndi chithandizo. Anthu otero samaloweza m'malo mwawo ndipo sasiya zinthu zovuta. Iwo samakhulupirira kuti akunena miseche ndipo samakhulupirira zabodza. Inde, ngati iwo ali abwino, ndipo musabise pansi pa maskiki. Pali amuna omwe amadziyesa kukhala okoma mtima kuti atenge chidwi cha atsikana. Achinyamata oterowo amakomera chikhalidwe, finyani makanda ndi ana, amamatira ana ndipo nthawi zonse amayesera kuchita zabwino. Koma, zonsezi zimachitika pawonetsero. Ndipotu, amanama modzikweza, kuti akwaniritse cholinga chawo. Choncho, musasokoneze munthu wabwino komanso wina amene amayesa kukhala choncho, kuti akope chidwi cha mtsikana.
Amuna abwino amafunika kuwayamikira komanso osagwiritsa ntchito kukoma mtima kwawo, chifukwa chakuti maganizo amenewa amawakhumudwitsa pamoyo wawo ndi kuwasokoneza. Zitha kuchitika kuti munthu wabwino atha kukhala woipa ndikukana mwatsatanetsatane khalidwe limeneli. Inde, palibe amene angatsutse kwathunthu, koma anthu ambiri akhoza kubisa chifundo chawo. Ndipo zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri kuyang'ana, ngati munthu akudzizunza yekha ndi kuwononga maganizo a ena payekha.
Ndipo ngati munthu yemwe ali pafupi ndi inu sangathe kuchita kanthu, ndi wamanyazi ndi woopa chirichonse, musamamuyese "wokoma mtima." Iye sakuyenerera izo. Iye amangokhala wosapota ndipo ndi kosavuta kumuyika munthu pansi pa zipolopolo kusiyana ndi kuyesa kukonza vutolo. Anthu otero, nthawi zambiri, sali okoma mtima. Iwo alibe mphamvu zokwanira, zomwe siziziteteza okha. Ndipo anthu abwino, mobwerezabwereza, ndi anzeru komanso ngakhale atakhala chete, izi sizili chifukwa cha mantha, koma chifukwa safuna kuwononga mphamvu za moyo kwa osayenera.