Kotero, kodi nkofunikira kupereka mphatso yamtengo wapatali kwa wokondedwa? Funso limeneli limafunsidwa ndi amayi ambiri pa zifukwa zingapo. Choyamba chazo ndi mphatso zamtengo wapatali zomwe zimaperekedwa kwa anthu omwe samva zomwe timamva. Inde, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mkazi amamuwona mwamuna mwa wokondedwa, ndipo iye ndi bwenzi basi. Pachifukwa ichi, anthu ambiri amaganiza ngati kuli koyenera kumupatsa chinthu chapadera kapena mungathe kuchita ndi kuwonetsera kovomerezeka. Ndipotu, mphatso ziyenera kuperekedwa nthawi zonse ndi mtima wangwiro. Ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe iwo aliri okwera mtengo. Chinthu chachikulu ndi momwe moyo ndi kukhudzidwa kwa munthu omwe ali mwa iwo zimayikidwa. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ngati mumasankha mphatso kwa okondedwa anu, choyamba dzifunseni nokha ngati mukufuna kuti amvetse mmene mumamvera. Kumbukirani kuti ndizobadwa mwa munthu aliyense kuti awone mu mphatso kuti tsiku lobadwa ndi lofunika bwanji kwa woperekayo. Ngati mphatso ndizofanana, ndipo nthawizina sizikutanthauza, ndiye kuti munthuyo sakuyesera kubweretsa nawo chimwemwe. Iye akuyesera kuti apereke chinachake, chifukwa ndi momwe izo ziliri. Ngati simukufuna chidwi chenicheni ngakhale kuti mukuganiza kuti mwakhumudwa, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kupereka mphatso. Koma ngati mukufuna kumacheza ndi wokondedwayo za momwe amakukonderani, ndiye sankhani zomwe amakonda, zoyamikira komanso zokondweretsa.
Popereka mphatso zoterezi, muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti iwo alibe malipiro. Palibe amene angakulonjezeni kuti zomwe mukufuna kuziganizira zidzafuna kupereka mphatso zomwezo kwa munthu wanu. Choncho, musanagule chinthu chofunika kwa wokondedwa wanu, sankhani ngati mutha kukhala mwamtendere, podziwa kuti iye sangathe kukubwezerani ndalamazo. Ngati simusamala ndipo cholinga chachikulu chogulira ndi chokhumba kuti munthu akhale wosangalala, ndiye kuti mutha kupeza chinachake chomwe chingamupangitse kusangalala ndi mantha. Apo ayi, bwino kusiya lingaliro, ndiye kuti musakwiyire ndikumuimba mlandu chifukwa cha dyera ndi osayamika, chifukwa satipatsa chinachake chonga icho.
Mwa njira, muyenera kukhala osamala ndi mphatso za munthu yemwe samva ndi mphamvu zofanana ngati inu mumamuchitira. Chowonadi n'chakuti pali achinyamata omwe amangogwiritsa ntchito malingaliro a ena ndipo, atalandira mphatso zingapo, ayamba kukhala opricious, kunyalanyaza ndi kuwongolera mobwerezabwereza. Pankhaniyi, chifukwa cha chikondi chanu, zingakhale zovuta kuti inu mukanane ndipo mnyamatayu amayamba kulandira chilichonse chimene akufuna popanda malipiro. Ngati muwona kuti munthu sangagwiritsireni ntchito pazinthu zam'tsogolo, ndipo mphatso idzam'bweretsera chisangalalo chomwe chidzakupindulitsani kuposa momwe mungayankhire, kenaka mutenge zomwe mukuganiza kuti n'zofunikira. Inde, kwa mphatso zamtengo wapatali sizingatheke kugula chikondi. Koma izi ndi mphatso izi zomwe anthu amasankha pogwiritsa ntchito maloto ndi zikhumbo za anthu omwe ali mbali ya chisamaliro chomwe chiri chokoma kwa munthu aliyense wamba, ndipo nthawi zina chimadzutsa chikondi chachikondi. Chinthu chachikulu - musapitirire ndi mphatso zoterozo, kotero kuti kwa anyamata sizitembenuzidwa kukhala chizolowezi chozoloŵera. Kumbukirani kuti chirichonse ndi chabwino chomwe chiri ndi muyeso.
Ndi nkhani ina pamene funsoli likukhudzana ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, yemwe mumakumana naye. Pankhaniyi, mukufunikabe kumvetsera ngati akukupatsani mphatso. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndizofunika kwambiri. Ndipo kupereka chinachake chomwe chikufanana ndi ndalama zomwe waperekedwa ndi iwe, sichikakamizidwa. Ziri ndi china chake: za kuchuluka kwa mnyamata amene akukumvetsera. Mphatso iliyonse, yomwe imaperekedwa ndi wokondedwa, imakufotokozerani zakukhosi kwake. Mfundoyi siyikulingana ndi kuchuluka kwake, koma pokhapokha, momwe ikugwirizanirana ndi zikhumbo zanu. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kupereka mphatso yamtengo wapatali, ganiziraninso zomwe akuchitirani. Ndipo ngati muwona kuti mukuyesera kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu m'banja, mumabwera ndi mphatso zapachiyambi ndikuyesera kumusangalatsa mwanjira iliyonse, ndipo amazitenga mopepuka ndipo samayesa kuchita kenakake, komabe pakufunika kuyesa mkhalidwewo ndi kusankha, Kodi khalidwe lanu limakhudza momwe mumapangidwira mnyamata kuchokera ku gigolo? Akazi ambiri ali okonzeka kutembenukira mkati mwa munthu wokwera mtengo ndikupereka ndalama yomaliza kuti amukondweretse. Kotero inu mukhoza kuchita izo kokha ngati inu mutalandira chinachake pobwezera. Kudzipanda, izi, ndithudi, ndi zabwino kwambiri, komabe muyenera kukhala ndi malire ndipo musapite mopitirira zomwe zingaloledwe. Mnyamata sangathe kuyamikira mphatso ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito bajeti yonse. Komanso, sizowona kuti iye adzakhala wachifundo kwambiri podziwa kuti wagwiritsira ntchito malipiro ako onse ndipo tsopano ali ndi njala ndipo alibe mwayi ngakhale kulipira nyumba ndikudzigulira wekha mkate. Kotero, posankha mphatso kwa wokondedwa, musaiwale za inu nokha.
Inde, ndizosangalatsa kwambiri pamene munthu wokondedwa kwambiri padziko lonse akudalitsidwa ndi chimwemwe, koma, khulupirira ine, simudzakhutira ndi chimwemwe ichi ndipo simungathe kuvala. Choncho, tisanasankhe chinthu chokongola ndi chokhacho kwa wokondedwa wanu, chiwerengetsani bajeti yanu ndi kudziwa momwe mphatsoyi ingagwiritsire ntchito. Ngati chiwonongeko chimawoneka ngati chovuta, taya maganizo anu, ziribe kanthu momwe mungakonde kuzigwiritsira ntchito. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti kubweretsa chisangalalo kwa anthu ndibwino, koma kuchita izo kwa kuvulaza kwanu ndi zopusa, ndipo ngakhale kumvetsa chisoni pang'ono. Choncho, yesetsani kuonetsetsa kuti mphatsoyo imabweretsa chimwemwe kwa aliyense ndipo sizikuwononga aliyense.