Pali nthawi pamene mwatsimikiza nokha kuikapo mfundo, koma wokondedwa wanu anaganiza zobwereza zomwezo ndikusintha mfundoyi kukhala fungo lalikulu kapena mafuta kapena ellipsis. Monga lamulo, chikhumbo cha munthu kuti apange mtendere chikhoza "kuwerengera" mosavuta za mayitanidwe ake mwadzidzidzi, mafunso okhudza moyo wake, odziwa atsopano, ophweka komanso nthawi zina mopweteka "makalata" kapena mauthenga pa ukonde. Zonsezi zikuwonetseratu kuti wokonda akufuna kuchotsa chiganizo "ex" ndikuwonetsa kuti mumamuganizira.
Monga lamulo, chifukwa cha ntchito yake chikhonza kukhala chilakolako chakukhumudwitsa, osati kukhala ndi ubale watsopano kapena kuti akufunadi kupanga. Choncho, musanapange chisankho chomaliza, m'pofunikira kudziwa kuti ndi zifukwa ziwiri ziti zomwe zimatsogoleredwa ndi wachikondi wanu wakale.
Kuyanjanitsa ndi zotsatira zonse
Chowonadi chakuti wokondedwa akufuna kuti chiyanjanitso, poyamba, chikhoze kunena kuti iye amatha kuzindikira ndi kuyesera njira iliyonse kuthetsera zolakwitsa zomwe zapangitsa kuti mulekanitse. Komanso pazinthu izi, chinthu chachikulu ndikuti iye sanangosonyeza chidwi, koma nayenso anayesera kukhala othandiza. Ndiko komwe kuli koyenera kufotokoza zoona, osati maziko a ntchito yake ndi lingaliro lachinyengo. Mwa kulankhula kwina, mumamupempha kuti awathandize, yankho lake liri kutali ndi mwayi woyanjanitsa. Chabwino, ngati muwona kuti wachikondi wanu wakale wasintha kwathunthu ndipo amayesera kuchita zonse mwanjira iliyonse kuti muthe kukonda, zosamalidwa bwino, zosangalatsa zodabwitsa, mungakhale otsimikiza kuti mwamunayo adazindikira kuti ndinu wokondedwa kwa iye.
Ngati muli otsimikiza kuti wokondedwa akufuna kubwezeretsa chiyanjano, pozindikira kuti sanali wolondola, muyenera kupanga chisankho. Ganizirani ngati mwakonzeka kumukhululukira ndi kubwereranso mumtima mwanu, kukonzanso ubwenzi wanu. Ngati inde, musatenge nthawi yaitali. Lankhulani naye mozama, kuti osati kungopatsa munthuyo mwayi, komanso kukuthandizani kuti muone kuopsa kwa zolinga zake. Ngati munthu akufuna kuti akuwoneni nokha pa zolinga zake zamtsogolo, ndiye kuti maganizo ake ndi oona mtima. Inde, mwachindunji sadzalongosola zomwe akumva. Mungofunika kutsatira zotsatira zake ndi kusungirako.
Kubwezeredwa kwa nthaŵi yaitali
Kumbukirani kuti wina sayenera kuthamangira kwa munthu ndi mawu akuti: "Ndingakhale bwanji popanda iwe choipa!". Wokondedwa athandizane palimodzi - kambiranani naye ndi ulemu! Misozi siiyenera kuwonetsedwa pamsonkhano, ndipo maonekedwe akuyenera kukwaniritsa miyezo yonse. Atengereni kukongola sabata lathunthu, kudabwa ndi yemwe kale anali wokondedwa chifukwa chakuti mulibe vuto lililonse. Pogwiritsa ntchito njirayi, pewani chikumbumtima chokhudzidwa pakapita nthawi, ndipo ndi manja amodzi pamsonkhano, gwirani phewa lake. Onetsani munthuyo kuti adzalinso woyenera malo anu!
Ngati msonkhano wokhudzana ndi "chiyanjano" ukuchitika m'dera lanu (mumzinda mwanu), muuzeni munthuyo kuti akhale pansi pamalo omwe nthawi zonse amamverera bwino. Kotero inu mukhoza kufanana pakati pa chenicheni cha zinthu ndi malingaliro anu. Onetsani wokondedwa wanu kuti malo ake akadali omasuka, onse mnyumba komanso mu mtima.
Mpata wachiwiri wopereka wokondedwa ndi pamene mtima wanu uli mfulu ndipo mu moyo wanu palibe munthu wina yemwe amamva bwino, akuyesera kukukondweretsa. Komanso, muyenera kumvetsa ngati mukufuna kubwereranso ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera. Ndipotu, kupanga mtendere ndi munthu ndi chinthu chimodzi, ndipo kudziona kuti uli pafupi ndi iye m'tsogolomu ndi chinthu china. Sikoyenera kubwerera kwa yemwe amadyetsa ndi malonjezano, pakuti ngati akadakhala kamodzi, ndiye kuti sizowonjezera. Kulimbitsa zoyambazo sizothandiza. Kumbukirani kuti kukhumudwa kopweteka sikungachoke pamtima.
Mwamuna yemwe akufuna kuti apitirize kukhala pachibwenzi sangalankhule za ubale wake wamakono ndi mabuku ena. Adzayesa kuzungulira mbali iyi ndi mbali. Ndipo potsirizira pake, ganizirani ngati wokondedwa wanu akutsogoleredwa ndi mfundo yakuti, pokhala ndi inu, mudzakhala "malo osungirako mwayi." Choncho, musanayambe "kupita ku mphepo yamkuntho ndi mutu wanu," ganizirani kasanu, yesani phindu lonse ndizopweteka, ndipo pokhapo pangani chisankho chomaliza.