Vuto la ubale pakati pa apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo, mwinamwake, adawonekera pamene kale anthu achinyamata adayamba kukwatira. Kuyambira pamenepo, kwa zaka mazana ambiri, apongozi aakazi akhala akudandaula za khalidwe la apongozi awo komanso chikhumbo cholowa m'banja la wina. Koma ngati mwamuna womvetsetsa amachitira mkazi wake ndi kumbali yake, ndiye kuti vutoli ndi lovuta kulimbana. Koma kodi mungatani ngati mwamunayo ali kumbali ya apongozi ake?
Choyamba, kuthetsa vutoli, muyenera kumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa khalidwe ili la amayi a wokondedwa. Inde, banja lirilonse liri ndi malamulo ake ndi malemba, kotero zimakhala zovuta kusintha mogwirizana ndi njira ya munthu wina. Mwina, nthawi zina, muyenera kudziyang'ana nokha. Zili choncho kuti mpongozi wake samvera malangizo ndi malingaliro a apongozi ake, ngakhale atanena zoona. Choncho yesetsani kuthetsa kunyada kwanu ndikudzifufuza mozama. Mwinamwake mumangofuna kuti mutenge, kotero kuti mwamuna ndi apongozi ake anali okondwa, ndipo m'banja mwanu mikanganoyo siinayende mosalekeza.
Amayi nthawi zonse amakhala olondola
Koma ngati mukumvetsa kuti mwamuna ndi apongozi ake ali olakwika, ndiye kuti mukuyamba kumenyera ufulu wanu m'banja. Apo ayi, wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse azikhala kumbali ya mayiyo, ndipo muyenera kumvera kapena kuchoka. Kuti mumvetse bwino momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito, muyenera kudziwa chifukwa chake mwamuna nthawi zonse amakhala kumbali ya amayi ake. Kawirikawiri, izi zimachitika pamene wachinyamata amakula m'banja losakwanira kapena m'banja lomwe aliyense amatsogoleredwa ndi amayi, ndipo abambo akhalabe pantchito yachiwiri. Pankhaniyi, mosamala, ndipo mosakayikira mwamuna wanu amakhulupirira kuti amayi anu nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zonse. Pambuyo pake, ndiye amene anamulera, anathandizira mu chirichonse, akusamala. Zikatero, musamenyane ndi apongozi anu poyera. Kawirikawiri, simukusowa kulankhula za zinthu zoipa zokhudza mwamuna wake, kumunyoza, kumunyoza. Kumbukirani kuti ichi ndi choyamba, amayi ake. Ndipo mayiyo ndi munthu wokwera mtengo kwambiri, ndipo ngati wina amanyoza amayi ake, ngakhale mkazi wake, munthu amayamba kumuteteza, mosamalitsa akuwona wozunza mayi wa mdaniyo. Kotero, ngakhale pamene mkwiyo uyamba kumenyedwa pamphepete - chitetezeni nokha. Kupanda kutero mumangowoneka ngati munthu wonyansa. Yesetsani kulankhula mwamtendere ndi mwamuna wanu ndikumuuza kuti mumalemekeza apongozi anu, mumalemekeze nzeru ndi zochitika zanu, komabe muli ndi khalidwe lanu, malingaliro ndi kumvetsetsa zochitika zosiyanasiyana. Choncho mum'pemphe kuti ayang'ane bwinobwino, osati kutsogoleredwa ndi malingaliro akuti "izi zinanenedwa ndi amayi anga," "izi ndizo zomwe mkazi adanena," ndipo amaimira mbali zonse ngati anthu akunja omwe amangolongosola zomwe akuganiza ndikupikisana. Amene amatsutsana kwambiri ndi omveka - ndiko kulondola. Koma apongozi ake, pa nkhaniyi, kukambirana koteroko sikungathe kupereka zotsatira. Zoona zake n'zakuti amayi oterewa amagwiritsidwa ntchito pophunzitsa mwana wawo ngati mwana wamng'ono yemwe angathandizidwe ndi amayi ake. Khalani ndi apongozi anu mwamtendere, musatsutsane, ndipo ngati pali mwayi - chitani njira yanu. Ngati mwamuna akuwona kuti zosankha zanu ziri zolondola komanso zomveka, pang'onopang'ono iye adzakhala kumbali yanu.
Mwana wamayi
Pali amuna omwe amatchedwa "ana aamayi". Achinyamata oterowo amazoloŵera kubisala kumbuyo kwa zovala za amayi ku mavuto onse. Pankhaniyi, zimakhala zovuta kusintha mwamuna. Zoona zake n'zakuti iye sakufuna kutenga mbali yanu, chifukwa mwanjira iyi, ngati kuti amakana kuyang'anira mayi. Kotero tsopano adzayenera kudziyankhira yekha. Pachifukwa ichi, chinthu chokha chomwe chingathandize ndikuwonetsa mwamuna wanu kuti mwakonzeka kubweza amayi ake ndikukumana ndi mavuto ake onse. Komabe, dzifunseni nokha ngati mukusowa mwana mmalo mwa munthu amene adzakalamba, ndipo mudzayenera kumuchitira zonse, ndikumvetsera zotsutsa. Choncho, ngati muwona kuti mwamuna nthawi zonse amathamangira kwa amayi ake, ndi bwino kuganizira izi, ngakhale asanakwatirane, ngati mutha kulekerera chinthu choterocho.
Kawirikawiri, sikutheka kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi apongozi ake kwa apongozi anu onse. Koma amayi omwe amatha kusalowerera ndale, amakhaladi abwino kuposa omwe akulimbana ndi apongozi awo.