Pafupifupi amayi ndi atsikana onse amadandaula za funso - momwe angapezere munthu kuti azikondana naye. Choyamba, kuti mupewe kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi kuvutika, munthu ayenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti "simungathe kukakamiza chikondi" ndi "musati mukonze mtima wanu". Ngati simunamve kukoma kwa mnyamata amene mumamukonda, osati mkazi wake, ndiye kuti simungakonde nanu. Ndipo mwachidziwikire, sikutheka kuti munthu ayambe kukondana nawe pochita chifuniro chake. Koma ngati ndinu mtsikana wa mtundu wake, mukumva kwake, koma pazifukwa zina sakukudziwani kapena amachita zinthu mozizira komanso molekerera, mukhoza kumusonyeza chidwi mwa inu, chomwe chidzasintha kukhala wachifundo, kenako nkukhala m'chikondi. Koma nthawi zonse muyenera kukumbukira kuti kupanga mnyamata kumakondana ndi inu kumafunika kusamala kwambiri, pogwiritsa ntchito njira zonse zachikazi ndi chithumwa, kuti zonse zichitike mwachibadwa.
Mmene mungapangire mnyamata kugonana nanu Mmene mungapangire mnyamata kugwirizana ndi inu? Kuti mukumbukire mnyamatayo, kuti muthamangire m'maso mwake, muyenera kukhala wosiyana ndi imvi, kuchokera kwa anthu. Mutha kulingalira kuti ndi angati omwe adawawonapo atsikanawo mosiyana ndi okongola kwambiri, koma poyankhula nawo, zinawonekeratu kuti onse amaoneka mofanana, ngati madontho awiri a madzi. Anyamata ali atatopa kale ndi atsikana omwewo, kulankhulana komwe kumakhala kosauka ndi kukambirana za moyo wa bwenzi lawo. Kukondana ndi inu mwapamtima kungakhale koyamba kuti simukufanana ndi ena, kuti mumakhala mosiyana, mosadziŵika, mwanjira yoyamba. Zoonadi, sizikutanthauza ntchito zopusa vzbalamoshnye, monga kulira ndi kunyengerera Izi sizinthu zosiyana - ndizofanana ndi khalidwe labwino, ndikukhulupirirani, chibwenzi chako chidawadziŵa kale amatsenga ndipo sanachikonda. Mumpeni ndi malingaliro anu. Mnyamata yemwe wasankhidwa kuti akhale pachibwenzi, amafuna kuona mtsikana wanzeru pafupi naye ndipo poyamba adzayesa nzeru zake. Koma musamathyole ndodo, musadziwonetse nokha ngati "mphunzitsi" ndi kubereka. Pezani nkhani yosangalatsa kwa inu awiri. Kambiranani naye za luso, cinema, filosofi, chipembedzo. Izi ndi nkhani zomwe munthu angathe kusonyeza maphunziro ake, erudition, nzeru. Ndipo ngati sakufuna ndikuyamba kunena za momwe amamwa mowa ndi abwenzi ake mu bar ndipo zokambirana zake zidzangokhalapo, ndiye ganizirani ngati mukufuna munthu woteroyo? Inde, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti amuna amakonda maso poyamba. Ngati mubisa moyo wanu wokongola mu thupi lopanda bwino, sizingatheke kuti palwo ifuna kuphunzira moyo uno. Kwa anyamata, kukongola ndi kofanana komanso kwauzimu. Choncho, nthawi zonse mumafunika kuoneka wokongola, musamamuone ngati mulibe mawonekedwe apamwamba, mumagalimoto akale. Ndipo kawirikawiri, muyenera kudziyesa yekha chizoloŵezi chothandiza - kudzibweretsa mu dongosolo kuyambira m'mawa, mutangochoka pabedi. Nthawi yomweyo muyenera kupita ku osamba, chitani mankhwala okongoletsa nkhope, kupanga maonekedwe ndi tsitsi, ngakhale simukufuna kupita kulikonse. Pankhaniyi, palibe amene adzakudabwe ndikukuwonani bwino.
Zovala zapakhomo ziyeneranso kukhala zokongola, kuiwala kamodzi kokha za malaya akale, ovala T-shirt ndi slippers zakutali. Ndipo bwanji ngati iwo mosayembekezereka abwera kwa iwe ndipo iwe uyenera kutsegula chitseko mu mawonekedwe awa? Nthawi zonse khalani okonzeka, ichi ndi chizoloŵezi chothandiza ndipo chimapanga lamulo lokhazikika la moyo - nthawizonse limawoneka lokongola paliponse, zomwe zimakonda kwambiri komanso zimayamikiridwa ndi amuna.
Mnyamata aliyense angakonde kuti mumamukonda kwambiri. Muwonetseni chidwi chochuluka momwe mungathere, funsani za moyo wake, zomwe amakonda kuchita. Ngati ali ndi vuto lililonse, mumupatse thandizo kuti athetse mavutowa. Mnyamata akhoza kukondana nawe mosavuta ngati mutayamba kuchita nawo moyo wake, kumuthandiza kuthana ndi vuto lomwe lachitika mmoyo wake. Nthawi zonse muwonetsere chidwi chake pa umunthu wake, kumbukirani kuti zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa munthu aliyense pamene amamukonda kwenikweni. Chidwi chimenechi chiyenera kukhala chowonadi, mwinamwake sichikuphwanyidwa.
Mnyamata aliyense angakonde kuti mumamukonda kwambiri. Muwonetseni chidwi chochuluka momwe mungathere, funsani za moyo wake, zomwe amakonda kuchita. Ngati ali ndi vuto lililonse, mumupatse thandizo kuti athetse mavutowa.
Mnyamata akhoza kukondana nawe mosavuta ngati mutayamba kuchita nawo moyo wake, kumuthandiza kuthana ndi vuto lomwe lachitika mmoyo wake. Nthawi zonse muwonetsere chidwi chake pa umunthu wake, kumbukirani kuti zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa munthu aliyense pamene amamukonda kwenikweni. Chidwi chimenechi chiyenera kukhala chowonadi, mwinamwake sichikuphwanyidwa. Dzichepetseni nokha. Musayambe kusewera. Kwa nthawi yaitali simudzatha kusewera, ndipo posachedwa mudzapeza umunthu wanu ndi masewera anu osewera. Pambuyo pake, mnyamata akhoza kugwa m'chikondi, panopa, osati mwa inu, koma mtsikana amene mukuyesa kumuwonetsera. Kumbukirani kuti palibe amene adzatha kugwira ntchito ya munthu wina kwa nthawi yaitali. Musaope kukhala nokha. Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndi kuvomereza nokha monga momwe mulili ndikudzipangitsa kukhala ngati choncho. Landirani zofooka zanu zonse ndikusiya kudzidzudzula nokha. Pambuyo pake, zofooka izi zingawoneke ngati zolakwa kwa inu, ndipo munthu wanu wam'tsogolo mosiyana angayamikire kudzichepetsa kwanu ndi kunyada kapena kukula pang'ono kapena kachigawo kakang'ono, monga ulemu. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala Munthu amene ali ndi kalata yaikulu, osati kutsanzira aliyense ndipo nthawi zonse amasonyeza kuti ndinu munthu wapadera komanso wodabwitsa - m'maganizo, m'zochita.
Kukakamiza mnyamata kuti azikondana nanu nthawi zonse ndi kofunika kuti mukhale wosagwirizana, pogwiritsa ntchito chithumwa chanu. Simungamukakamize mnyamata, mumutchule kasanu patsiku, lembani masentimita pa ora. Muyenera kudzikondera nokha, ndikupatseni mwayi woti mudziwe nokha. Anyamata sakonda pamene msungwana ali nyama yosavuta. Kukhala munthu wokondweretsa wokondweretsa kungapangitse anyamata kugonana nanu ndi kumenyera malo mu mtima mwanu.
