Mayi amatha kuchokera ku tsiku limodzi lopambana kuti akule buku lonse ndikuyamikiranso kwa zaka zambiri. Ndipo ndi zabwino, ngati ndikukumbukira chabe: nthawi zambiri timayamba kuvutika, kutilowetsa m'maganizo athu tanthauzo la zomwe zinachitika, kutseka ku maubwenzi enieni, kutumiza mphamvu zonse kuitanidwe, kutumikila pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kapena kubwereza paulendo. Kukondana kumbali ya mkazi wokwatiwa si nthano masiku ano, koma ndi. Posakhalitsa, atasowa mphamvu zambiri ndi mwayi weniweni kuti apange mgwirizano wathanzi, mkaziyo akufika kumapeto kuti iye wanyengedwa, osati kufuna kuzindikira chophweka chakuti iye adzinyenga yekha. Kawirikawiri, mkazi amayamba ndikuyamba kukondana osati ndi munthu weniweni, koma ali ndi zaka zake, zaka zamtengo wapatali ndipo tsopano, potsiriza, anapatsidwa mpata wozindikira maloto. Mwamuna amene ali m'malotowo amalandira zina zambiri, ndipo, moona, wolota nthawi zambiri samakhala ndi nthawi kapena chilakolako chomuyang'ana bwino, mwina kuyesa kudziwa mtundu wa munthu yemwe ali pafupi naye. Matenda achizolowezi a Tatiana Larina: "Moyo unali kuyembekezera wina ... Ndipo anadikirira." Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimapangitsa kupitiriza kuyesezera kumbali ya mkazi wokwatiwa kuti akhumudwe. Koma palinso ena ...
Nchifukwa chiyani timayandikira ku chatsopano?
Chifukwa chiyani ambiri mwa akatswiri - ochokera kwa akatswiri a maganizo ndi openda nyenyezi - amakayikira kwambiri za lingaliro la "mndandanda wachiwiri?".
Chodabwitsa chinthu, chatsopano chimakopa
Ndi munthu uyu, simunakumanepo ndi mavuto azachuma, ndewu ndi kusemphana maganizo. Simunayambe kuzizoloŵera kuti mudziwe zomwe zili ndi maso otsekedwa komanso momwe amachitira chidwi kuti amvetsetse zingati za mowa zomwe amamwa tsiku lomwelo. Zonse ndi zanu - zowululidwa ndi vumbulutso. Tsoka, malinga ndi dongosolo lachilengedwe, zachilendo zilipo kwa ubongo masiku osaposa makumi anai.
Mahomoni amatsuka
Pokhala ndi chinthu chatsopano chogonana, thupi limayendetsa mwanjira inayake: ilo limapanga mahomoni, ma pheromoni ndi maulendo osiyanasiyana a neural omwe, poyamba, amakupangitsani kukhala okongola pamaso pa chinthucho, ndipo kachiwiri, amachititsa chidwi chowonjezereka ku zithumwa. Kutalika kwa kusamba kwa mahomoni ndi masabata asanu ndi limodzi.
Kutsogolo
Kumalo osungiramo malo, timapita kumakhala moyo wabwino kwa milungu iwiri kuposa momwe tingathe kuchita masiku ena 350 pachaka. Malo osungiramo malo ndi mwayi kwa mwamuna (ndi mkazi) kuti akhale chomwe ankafuna kukhalapo kuyambira ali mwana - wopatsa, wochenjera, wolimba, wokonda, koma kwenikweni sizimagwira ntchito: zovuta, zodula, komanso zodetsa nkhaŵa zambiri. Sitinganene kuti ichi ndi chinyengo cholakwika. Inunso mumamasulidwa kutsuka ndi kusamba, mutakhala ndi nthawi yokhala ndi masewera a Balinese ndi okwera pamahatchi, osati monga kunyumba. Ndipo izi sizikunyenga ... Kungokhala chenicheni ndikobwino kusiyana ndi nthawi zonse.
Kuti Ukhale Ufulu!
Mwamuna wokwatiwa, akupuma popanda mkazi, amayesa kuti apange nthawi yowonongeka, koma kumupatsa mkazi zomwe siziri (kapena sangathe) kupereka kwa mkazi wovomerezeka. Komabe, m'mabuku 99 mwa amuna 100, palibe amuna awa omwe akuganiza zachinthu choopsa kuposa masabata awiri mukwati wawo. Komabe, ngakhale zilizonse, mukufuna kuti chilimwe chisathe - ndipo zikuwoneka kuti ndi okonzeka kupita ku zovuta zilizonse, kungosunga anthu ambiri omwe, monga momwe mukuganizira, amabweretsa tchuthi, kuwala kwa dzuwa, chikondi cha moyo wanu. Chabwino, yesetsani kuti musataye mutu wanu ndipo mosamala muyese mwayi wanu. Ngati mukutsatira ndondomekoyi, ndiye kuti muyenera kuyendetsa munthu wina, osati kutali ndi inu m'madera osiyanasiyana. Muyenera kumvetsa kuti kukhala mumzinda umodzi, komanso kukhalabe bwino, kumakhala pafupi ndi gulu limodzi, mutha kupeza mwayi wodalirika kupanga "chinthu choyipa" kusiyana ndi momwe zaka, malo ndi zochitika zanu zimakhudzira maubwenzi anu monga zopinga. Koma malingaliro pa nkhani izi si nthawi zonse malo. Ndiye dzifunseni nokha kuti muli mayi wazaka 40 ochokera mumzinda waukulu: kodi mwakonzeka kuthandiza ndi kulimbikitsa mapulasitiki osakanikizika a zaka 23 kuchokera ku tawuni yaing'ono ya ku Russia ngati akuyankha kuitana kwa chikondi, ndikusiya zonse, kupita ku likulu? Ndipo kodi adzatha kusintha?
Kumbukirani kuti kuyesa kwanu kuti "musiye chirichonse" sikungatheke kuyima nthawi. Ku Jordan Petra, pali nkhani yokhudza alendo oyenda ku Australia amene adakondana kwambiri ndi Bedouin kuti anasiya dziko lake ndi banja lake ndipo anakhala m'phanga kwa zaka zingapo. Komabe, patapita zaka zingapo, adadzazidwa ndi moyo wosakhalitsa ndipo adafuna kubwerera ndi mwana wake kudziko lakwawo lakale, adayenera kuchita zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa zisanachitike zonse: motero, malinga ndi lamulo la Sharia, mwanayo ndi wa banja la bambo ake ... Tsopano ku Petra (osati kokha) mungagule bukhu la Juliet Wopanda chidwi Wachi Australia "Moyo wanga ndi Mabedouins." Tikulimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti muwerenge musanayambe kukonzekera kuti mumve zowawa. Komabe, tiyeni tisaiwale zapadera. Mwachitsanzo, kuchokera ku lamulo losasintha limene limanena kuti kuyambira pazikondwerero za tchuthi simungapeze chilichonse chabwino. Ngati mukuganiza kuti ndizofunika, yesetsani!
Njira zothandizira kudziwa bwino
Kuti mupitirize kukhala wopambana, wobala zipatso komanso mofanana momwe mukufunira, muyenera kuyamba kusamalira nthawi yaitali musanalowe. Kuphika nthaka! Kuti "tipeze mwayi wokumana nafe mutatha kubwerera?" Kuti mukhale ndi chidwi chachikulu "inde!" Gwiritsani ntchito "nangula". Nthawi iliyonse munthu ali bwino ndi inu - amadzimva kuti ndi wodalirika, womasuka, komanso wokondwa - "Konzani" kumverera kotere ndi kugwira bwino pamalo omwewo (mwachitsanzo, ku bendu lakunja kuti "malo obisika" azipezeka kwa inu). Pambuyo masiku 7-10, adzakhala ndi conditioned reflex - ayankhidwe makamaka pamtima. Kenaka funsani funsolo, osaiwala kuti mwangozi mugwire dzanja lake pambali pake ... Koma musaiwale kuti pa 1-2 zotsalira palibe "nangula" yakhazikitsidwa, "kukonzekera pansi" ziyenera kukhala kuyambira tsiku lachidziwitso ...
Gwirani pachabechabe
Mwamuna akufuna kuti azitamandidwa. Chabwino, mvetserani, mvetserani ndi kuyamikira - ndipo, mwinamwake, iye mwini akufuna kukubwezerani ku moyo wake. Kumbukirani njira ya Lily Brik: "Tiyenera kulimbikitsa munthuyo kuti ndi wodabwitsa komanso wodabwitsa, koma ena samvetsa izi ... Chabwino, ena onse apanga nsapato zabwino ndi zovala za silika."
Pangani kupereka zomwe sangakane
Kodi mwakwanitsa kupeza zofuna zake ndikupeza zofanana? Onetsani zokhazokha zokambiranazo ku konsati kapena musakanizirane kuti mutha kubwerako mutabwerera. Chojambulacho n'chosavuta kuphunzira pa intaneti, chomwe chili pa malo alionse opita.
Pangani masewero achikondi
Pasanapite nthawi, yambitsani chidwi cha amuna ku njira zodalirika monga SMS-kulankhulana. Kuzoloŵera kuti achoke kwa inu ma sms achidule, achikondi kapena oseketsa, iye amawadikirira mwachinsinsi ndipo pamene mbali yanu yamoyoyo imatha. Kuphatikizanso apo, iyi ndi mwayi wapadera wosinthanitsa nambala za foni pasadakhale ... Iye ndi wantchito wa hotelo yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito tchuthi lanu. Kwa ogwira ntchito malonda a zokopa alendo amadziona kuti ndi achinyengo kwa alendo. Buku lomwe lakhala kwa inu chochitika, kwa iye - zosangalatsa chabe pakati pa hotelo imvi tsiku ndi tsiku. Iye ndi aborigine ku dziko lakumwera kumene mwakhala. Kwa Agiriki, Turkey ndi Aigupto, kusamalira alendo oyenda khungu ndi nkhani yolemekezeka. Code yosayenera imafuna kuti apereke mwamsanga manja ndi mtima, koma musatenge malingaliro otentha. Kodi mwapeza kuti adanyengani? Ankatchedwa Edward Ivanov, koma munawona tikiti yopita kwa Robert Vasin? Anati iye analibe mwana, ndipo chithunzi cha mapasawo chinatuluka m'thumba? Ngakhale chinyengo chili chosalakwa, chimasonyeza kuti simukuyankhula ndi munthu weniweni, koma ndi mask. Amayesetsa kupeza komwe mukukhala, momwe mumapezera ndalama zambiri, nthawi zambiri mumakhala pakhomo, ndalama zomwe mwatenga ... Musaiwale kuti alipo anthu ochita zachiwerewere omwe amagwiritsa ntchito chikondi cha akazi pochita zinthu zosafunikira. Musatsegule nokha kwa munthu amene mumam'dziwa kwa masiku atatu. Zindikirani kwa inu, amayamba kusonyeza kokha mowa mwauchidakwa, koma pamutu wong'onong'ono umasungidwa. Musadzitsimikizire nokha kuti izi zikufuna kusunga mbiri yanu. Mwinamwake, ndi chiyanjano chovuta ndi mowa.
Chodabwitsa cha chikondi chokhazikitsidwa chikufotokozedwanso ndi topological mbali. Mphamvu ya malo, kuyanjana ndi mphamvu zathu, zimakhudza tsogolo lathu. Zikuchitika kuti malo omwe mumasankha (ndipo kusankha sikunali mwangozi, ngakhale ngati zikuwoneka kuti mutangotenga tikiti yoyaka moto), zimakhala zowonjezera kuwonetseredwa kwanu kosavomerezeka ndipo ndizovomerezeka kwambiri m'mabuku kuposa malo okhala. Tsoka, zimachitika kuti mutachoka "malo anu achikondi", mumataya mphamvu za chikondi. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa za kuchepa kwa chikondi cha tchuthi. Ngakhale, pali nthawi zomwe timapita ku nyanja, kuti tidzakomane ndi chikondi cha moyo wonse. Kumverera uku "kumabwera" ndi ife kunyumba ndipo kumayambira mwangwiro pa nthaka yozolowereka. Mwachidziwitso, tingathe kunena mosapita m'mbali kuti ma horoscope a munthu amasintha kwambiri pambuyo pochoka, ndipo kusintha kumeneku kungakhale kosiyana kwambiri. Munthu akhoza kukhala wopambana kwambiri mu bizinesi, chikondi, ubale ndi anthu - mulimonse ... Koma mwina, m'malo mwake, amakhala osauka. Zonse zimadalira malangizo omwe mukufuna kuti mupite, komanso malo omwe mapulaneti ali nawo pa nthawi ya kubadwa kwako. Koma mothandizidwa ndi nyenyezi, ndizotheka kusankha malo otere pa dziko lapansi, pamene mutasunthira komwe mudzakhale achimwemwe mu chikondi. Mwa njirayi, mutasamalira chiyembekezo cha bukhu la malo opatulika komanso ngakhale kupitiliza kwake, mukhoza kutembenukira ku astrology ya horary, chifukwa ndi nyenyezi yeniyeni. Akulankhula ngati padzakhala chochitika (inde kapena ayi), komanso akhoza kunena za zomwe zikugwirizana ndi zomwe zinachitikazo. Komabe, pofuna kusankha malo, kuyenda nyenyezi kungathandizenso.