Mwachidziwikire, ndi chiyani chomwe chimatanthawuza mkazi wanzeru, munthu wanzeru komanso wochepetsedwa? Chabwino, choyamba tiyeni tione khalidwe la msungwana wanzeru yemwe safuna kuti munthu adutse mzere. Choncho, ngati mayiyo asagone ndi mnyamata, sangamulole kuti amupatse ndi cocktails ndi zakumwa zina kapena chakudya. Chowonadi ndi chakuti aliyense amadziwa lamulo losalembedwera: Ine ndikulira apa, ndiyeno iwe udzandilipira ine. Chitani mlendo, mnyamatayo amapereka chithandizo ndipo akufuna kulandira malipiro. Ngati izi sizichitika, akhoza kukhumudwa kwambiri ndi kukwiya, zomwe zingayambitse kusamvana. Zoona, kukwiyitsa mkazi ndi kochepa, komabe, mochuluka, muzochitika zotere, ndi zoona, ndi kumbali ya amuna. Pambuyo pake, atsikana onse achikulire amadziwa kuti tchizi yaulere imangokhala pamsewu, choncho muyenera kusiya, kapena kumapeto. Amuna osakwatira, akubwera ku gululo, nthawi zambiri amayang'ana atsikana omwe mungagone nawo usiku. Ndipotu, amalipiritsa ma cocktails ndi zinthu zina zamtsogolo zamtsogolo. Ndipo, ngati mtsikanayo ayamba kukana pa nthawi yomaliza, ngakhale kuti asanakadye ndi zosangalatsa ndi kumwa ndikudziwoneka mosadziwika, ndiye kuti, munthuyo angakwiyitse ndipo ndi bwino ngati ali mnyamata wobadwa bwino. Apo ayi, pangakhale mkangano kapena nkhondo.
Ndichifukwa chake, mkazi wanzeru ayenera kukumbukira chinthu china - nthawi yomweyo amaike malire ndi mafelemu omwe sangapite. Ngati mnyamata akukudziwani, yesetsani kumufotokozera zomwe mungathe kuyembekezera ndi zomwe siziri, ndipo kuti "ayi" kwenikweni amatanthauza "ayi", osati "inde, koma kenako". Mnyamata ayenera kudziwa zomwe ayenera kuyembekezera komanso ali ndi ufulu wopuma pantchito, ngati zosankhazo sizigwirizana. Ndipo musakhumudwe ndi kukwiya, chifukwa ndinu onse aufulu omwe simukudziwana ndipo simukulipira ngongole kwa mnzanu. Ndipo, mochulukirapo, simuyenera kukhala ndi zovuta mwa inu nokha, kuti ndinu oipa ndi ena. Ngati mnyamatayo akubwera kwa iwe, ndiye kuti umamukopa. Mwachidule, madzulo ano ali ndi zolinga zina zomwe sizigwirizana ndi zanu, ndizo zonse.
N'chiyani chiri chosavuta kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi? Izi ndi pamene mtsikana mwiniyo sapita mopitirira malire a zomwe zimaloledwa ndipo samalola munthu uyu. Mawu, mawonekedwe, akhudza kuwala, kuvina, mwina kumpsompsonana, koma kenanso. Musadzutse munthu yemwe akukakamiza kwambiri kugonana. Iwe sudzagona naye limodzi, ndiye bwanji kuzunza mnyamata? Komanso, ngati mutoloka mzere, simungathe kudziletsa nokha. Ndipo ngati mukumvetsa kuti mudzawopa mmawa uno, ndiye khalani ndi kukumbukira za izo. Nthawi zina, tikamakhudzidwa ndi maganizo komanso mowa, timalakwitsa, zomwe timadandaula kwa nthawi yaitali. Kotero, ngati iwe upita ku klublub yekha, ndiye dzifunseni nokha zomwe mulola, ndi zomwe sizidzachitika, ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zikuyendera. Ndipo mosakayikira tsatirani dongosolo lanu. Ngakhale mutasokonezeka kwambiri, kumbukirani zomwe munalonjeza nokha ndi zotsatira za inu nokha. Ndipo, koposa zonse, tengani ndi mnzanu wodalirika kapena chibwenzi yemwe amatsatira khalidwe lanu mwachikondi, ndipo ngati chinachake chiti chichitike, iwo adzaima ndi kuchoka ku kampu. Tsekani anthu ndi abwenzi okhulupirika ndizo zowonjezera zolakwitsa ndi zopusa.
Mwa njira, munthu wanzeru amachita bwanji? Chabwino, choyamba, sayenera kubwereza kangapo zomwe mukufuna, ndi zomwe musachite. Mnyamata woteroyo sadzakhala wopanda pake ndi osangalatsa kukukopezani, ngati mbiri yolemala. M'malo mwake, iye amamvera "malamulo" anu ndipo nthawi yomweyo amalankhula chikhululukiro cha chikhalidwe kapena kuyesera kuwatsatira. Kawirikawiri, anyamata omwe amavomereza kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi, bwerani kusangalala ndi kampani yabwino, ndipo musapeze mtsikana usiku umodzi. Inde, amakonda chidwi cha amai, koma cholinga chawo chachikulu ndikutengana ndi chikondi komanso kulankhulana, osati kugonana komweku. Choncho, ndi achinyamata oterewa simungangokhalira kukondana, komanso kulankhula. Kawirikawiri, iwo ndi anzeru ndipo amawadzidzimutsa, amadziwa zambiri ndipo amawathandiza mokondwera kukambirana pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana. Ndi munthu woteroyo amakhala wokondwa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi kumapatula nthawi, chifukwa amadziwa kukonda masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma amachita mobisa komanso mosagwirizana, kotero kuti zimakhala zovuta kuti akazi amutsutse. Anyamatawa samapita kwa wina aliyense mzere, samadzichitira zoipa ndi masaya, ndipo, mochuluka kwambiri, musamamatire. Adzatsogolera zokambirana, kuyang'ana, kumwetulira, ndipo musayambe mwakachetechete kukuikani pamsana. Makhalidwe oterewa ndi omwe adzalowera anthu omwe alibe nzeru kapena kulingalira, ndipo amalingalira kuti akazi onse amakhala ngati chillies omwe ali okonzeka kusamala, ngakhale izi. Ndi anthu oterewa ndibwino kuti musagwirizane nazo ndikukhala kutali ndi momwe mungathere. Anthu awa samamvetsa bwino chinenero cha munthu, kufotokoza ndi kukana. Amangogwedeza mzere wawo, osadziwa chilichonse chozungulira. Choncho, ngati simukufuna mavuto, ndibwino kuti mwamsanga mudziwe kuti sipadzakhalanso kuyankhulana (mwinamwake ngakhale mwakhama) ndikuyesera kuchoka kwa mnyamata uyu.
Ngati mkazi wanzeru ndi mwamuna wanzeru asonkhana pamodzi, kumangokhalira kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumatha nthawi zonse. Adzakuthandizani kuti muzitha kupumula, kufalitsa komanso kusangalala ndi munthu wabwino. Nthawi zina, nkofunikira kwa aliyense wa ife. Kuwonjezera apo, m'moyo muli nkhani zosiyanasiyana ndi zodabwitsa zomwe zikudikirira kuzungulira ponseponse. Amene amadziwa, chifukwa zikhoza kuchitika kuti kukonda zolaula, kumakula kukhala chikondi chachikulu. Ndiyeno, mudzakumbukira mokondwera madzulo amenewo pamene simunadzilole kenaka ndikudziwonetsera nokha ngati mtsikana yemwe ndi woyenera kutanganidwa, koma mwachikondi.