Tanthauzo limeneli limaperekedwa ndi maganizo, komanso mu lingaliro la chikhalidwe - kutengera, kumveka ngati lingaliro losiyana ndi kudzikonda. Ndikufuna kufotokozera kuti kudzikonda mu lingaliro la chikhalidwe ndi khalidwe, malinga ndi zomwe chidwi chenicheni chimayesedwa ngati chinthu chapamwamba. Motero, kudzikonda ndi kudzikonda kumakhala ndi tanthawuzo zosiyana, monga umboni wopezeka pamwambapa. Koma nthawi zina pakati pa ziganizo ziwirizi zikhoza kutchulidwa kukhala ubale wapamtima. Ndi mgwirizano wotani uwu, womwe umawoneka kuti ukugwirizanitsa mfundo ziwiri zosiyana. Koma m'moyo muli zochitika pamene zolinga zaumulungu zikuwoneka ngati wodzikonda. Chinthu chofanana chikhoza kuwonedwa muzofunikira za mwambi wotchuka - kuchokera ku chikondi kudana ndi sitepe imodzi. Pamene anthu okhala ndi khalidwe lodzikonda kwa anansi awo amasonyeza chikondi chachikulu, ichi ndi chikondi.
Kotero, mu mikangano ina ya chidziwitso, khalidwe lodzikonda kwambiri limakhala ngati chitetezo. Ndipo pansi pa njira za chitetezo mu maganizo a maganizo amamveka zinthu zosadziwika zomwe zimateteza motsutsana ndi zowonongeka kuchokera ku chenicheni ndi mtendere wamkati wa munthuyo. Mukutanthauzira uku, lingaliro la kuukirira limatanthauza, mwachitsanzo, nsanje, nsanje, malingaliro, maloto, kusakhutira ndi zina zotero. Kotero, ndi zifukwa zotani zomwe zingapangitse kudzikonda? Altruism adzakhala wodzikonda pakakhala vuto, kudzipereka kwachangu, kudziletsa, kudziletsa ndi chikondi chaukali. Ndikufuna kufotokozera mwachindunji. Lingaliro la kulingalira liri ndi tanthauzo lotsatirali: ndizofotokozera za umunthu za zochita ndi malingaliro omwe amamulola iye kutsimikizira ndi kubisa zolinga zawo zenizeni. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, mwachangu munthu amasankha mfundo zina zomveka zomwe zimabisa maganizo ake mosiyana.
Lingaliro lotsatirali la kupangidwira mwakhama amatanthawuza kusamuka kwa malingaliro osokoneza kapena kuwakhazikitsa iwo ndi zina zambiri zowonjezera moyo. Mwachitsanzo, ana omwe, pofika zaka zaunyamata, amachitira nkhanza amayi awo, amakonda kumakonda. Anthu awa amadziwika ndi kukhumudwa, khalidwe lawo liri ngati chionetsero. Kugonjera kwachinyengo kumagwirizana ndi ena kuti azisintha.
Chitsanzo cha khalidwe lotero ndi amayi omwe sanakhalepo ndi ana awo, amachizidwa ndi hyperopeak kwa ana achibale, anzawo. Kugonjera kwachinyengo ndi chosiyana kwambiri ndi kukana kudziletsa. Makhalidwe amenewa ndi achilendo kwambiri ku katatu wachikondi, pamene okondana amakhala, amadzipereka kwambiri. Ndipo lingaliro lomalizira ndi chikondi chenicheni, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti khalidwe laumunthu liri lopanda malire ndipo nthawi zonse limapereka chikondi kwa anthu ena, potengera momwe likufunira kulandira mtima womwewo. Anthu omwe amadziwika ndi khalidweli amafunikira chikondi, amakhala okhutira pamoyo wa ena. Choncho, ndikufuna kulemba mzere pansi pa zonse zomwe zanenedwa ndikupanga zogwirizana. Kujambula ziganizo zapamwambazi, kumabwera mwachindunji lingaliro loti kwenikweni pakati pa kudzikonda ndi kudzikonda kumodzi. Chitsanzo ichi cha khalidwe chikhoza kupezeka pa moyo weniweni tsiku lililonse, kuphatikizapo achibale athu. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zidzakuthandizani kupeŵa kusamvetsetsana komwe kungachitike.