Modzipereka, mokondwera mokondwera ndi mwayi ndi kupambana kwa bwenzi lapamtima nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuposa kumuthandiza pa nthawi yovuta. Inde, nthawi zambiri timadziuza tokha kuti izi sizili nsanje, koma ndizosatheka kuti tipitirizebe kukhala nawo. Momwe mungakhalire mumkhalidwe umenewu?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomereza kuti palibe wina padziko lapansi amene sanakwiyirepo kamodzi pa moyo wake. Kodi mwakumana ndi anthu oterowo? Nsanje ndi umunthu, kumverera kwathunthu kwabwino, ndipo kunkawonekera kale. Ndi kosavuta kuti tisazindikire kuti timasirira munthu wina, koma nthawi zina kumverera kumatsegula maso athu ndipo kumatipangitsa kuganiza. Mlingo umene munthu amatsegulira ndi okhwima umadalira zomwe adzachite ndi izi.
Kotero, nchiani chomwe chikutuluka, chomwe chimatichitira nsanje zabwino?
Mwachibadwa, monga zochitika zina zonse, nsanje ili ndi ubwino ndi zovuta. Pali milandu pamene mkazi amapita ku cosmetologist chifukwa chakuti woyandikana naye, yemwe ali wamkulu zaka zisanu, amawoneka bwino kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri nsanje zimatipangitsa ife kupeza ntchito yatsopano, yodalirika, kupita kuchipatala, kuphunzira Chingerezi kapena kulembetsa ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, simungatsutsane ndi zomwe ziri zabwino?
N'chifukwa chiyani nsanje imachokera ku dothi losasangalatsa?
Munthu akamachita nsanje, amachepetsa mavuto ake. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Tili ndi nsanje pokhapokha tikadziyerekeza tokha ndi munthu wina, ndipo tili m'mavuto poyerekeza ndi munthu wina. Ngati sitinamvetsere izi ndipo sitinasirire, ndiye kuti tidzakhala ndi nkhawa zodzichepetsa. Ndipo ndizingokhala kuti sizingatheke kutero!
Tifunika kukambirana momasuka ndi ife tokha, kufufuza zochitika zomwe zatsogolera zotsatirazi kapena kupita kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo - chifukwa ichi tikusowa ntchito yambiri payekha, ntchito yeniyeni. Ngati mutasankha kukhala bwino, ndiye kuti palibe amene angakuletse, mutasintha ndondomeko yamtengo wapatali ndi kumanganso umunthu wanu. Inde, kudzigwira nokha ndi ntchito yowopsya, anthu ambiri amafuna kukhala ndi nsanje ndi kukhala ndi manja opindika.
Kumverera kwa kaduka komwe timafunikira kwenikweni ngati mapiritsi a chitonthozo, chomwe chimathandiza kuchepetsa ululu ndi kubwezeretsa mantha. Komabe, nthawi zonse kugwiritsira ntchito nsanje sizingatheke, izi sizikutuluka mu funsolo, mwinamwake mmalo mwa cholinga ndi cholimbikitsana, mudzapeza mphuno yomwe idzakhazikike mu mtima mwanu, kapena sludge yotentha kwambiri, yosasangalatsa.
Ponyani zonse ponena kuti moyo ndi wosalungama ndipo khalani sljazruki - ichi ndi chinthu chotsiriza, kumbukirani kuti dzuwa limawala chimodzimodzi. Mukukhumudwa kuti muzaka za sukulu, mnzanuyo akuphunzira chimodzi mwa zitatuzi, ndikulemba ntchito yanu ya kunyumba, ndipo tsopano ali ndi nyumba yake yabwino komanso yaikulu, amamukonda kwambiri. Mukuganiza kuti chifukwa chiyani adayenera zonsezi, chifukwa mukuganiza kuti zonsezi ziyenera kukhala zanu, kodi mukuziyenera? Ndipotu, izi siziri choncho. Iye sankakhala ndi mikono yokhoma, ndipo iye sanagwere pamutu pake. Iye amayenera izo, chifukwa izo zonse ziri. Moyo ndi gawo labwino, ndipo zochitika zonse sizowopsa. Ngati mupita ku msonkhano ndi mwayi, ndiye kuti zimakulimbikitsani, musaope kulakwitsa, khulupirirani anthu ndipo musamawone kuti ndiwonyenga komanso opanda pake ...
Kotero mbali yachiwiri ya nsanje ndi kunyada?
Nthawi zambiri, inde. Akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amadziwa zambiri kuti anthu omwe amadana ndi abwenzi awo ndi onse omwe amawazungulira amawopa kudalira wina, amaganiza kuti akhoza kudalira okha ndikudzidalira okha, amaopa kukhumudwa. Anthu oterewa sangathe kunena mawu atatu amatsenga: "Chonde ndithandizeni." Nthawi zambiri amakana zomwe akufuna, koma palibe chifukwa choti apemphe thandizo. Ndipotu, anthu omwe azungulira ife adzasangalala kuti atithandize, ndizofunika kufunsa, chifukwa ndi momwe zimakhalira kuti ndizofunikira komanso zothandiza. Ndipotu, mukakonzeka kulandira chithandizo, mwayi umapita m'manja mwanu.
Mfundo yofunikira - palibe chifukwa chake muyenera kudzitengera nokha chifukwa cha nsanje ndi chibwenzi chanu. Ife timadziimba tokha tokha, ndipo kumverera uku kumawoneka kuti kumagwira miyendo ndi manja athu palimodzi - sipangakhale kusuntha nkomwe. Dzifunseni nokha: palibe anthu abwino, ndipo kotero maganizo sangakhoze kukhala abwino. Siinu nokha, anthu onse amamva malingaliro ena, kuphatikizapo kaduka, ngakhale atakhala opambana kwambiri. Nsanje idzakhala ikukutsatirani nthawi zonse, kufikira mutadzikhululukira. Tikuthokozani chikhalidwe chakuti pali phokoso la kaduka, chifukwa mudaphunzira kuti chibwenzi chanu chinalimbikitsidwa kuntchito ndikuyesa kupeza ntchito yabwino, nsanje zimatipangitsa ife kukhala bwino, amatithandiza kusintha ndikusintha miyoyo yathu kuti ikhale yabwino.
Momwe mungapulumutsidwire bwino ndi bwenzi lanu, momwe mungatsogolere kaduka mu njira yoyenera?
Choyamba, siyani kudziyerekeza nokha ndi bwenzi lanu, choncho palibe chifukwa. Mungadzifanizire nokha nokha, koma pafupi zaka zisanu zapitazo Kumbukirani, munali munthu wanji, munkafuna chiyani? Lero, zedi, muli ndi zambiri zomwe mukufuna, chifukwa ndizo zomwe mukuzichita. Inu mumafuna ndi kulandira!
Ndiye musayese kukhala ndi zomwe bwenzi lanu ali nazo. Kwa munthu mmodzi wokondwa ndi banja lamphamvu lamphamvu, ndipo wina - tsiku lililonse kuti afotokoze ndalama zambiri. Simungasangalale ngati mutakwaniritsa zolinga za anthu ena, yesani nokha ndikuzikwaniritsa. Palibenso njira imodzi yopambana ndi chimwemwe, chifukwa tonsefe ndife enieni. Kuyesera kukhala ndi zomwe ena ali nazo ndizolakwika, ndizosatheka kuti mupeze mnzanu. Mukungoyang'ana galimoto ndalama, ndipo mnzanuyo angagule kanyumba, ndipo mungatani ndiye? Tsatirani njira yanu ndipo mvetserani zomwe zikuchitika mmoyo mwanu, ngati simungathe kusangalala ndi mphindi ya chisangalalo mukakalamba mudzazindikira kuti moyo wanu wonse unasewera "zibwenzi" ndi bwenzi lanu.
Mvetserani kwa mtima wanu, zidzakuuzani njira yoyenera, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti mupambane, koma palibe chikhumbo chokhala ngati bwenzi.
Bwanji ngati akukuchitirani nsanje? Kodi mumakondwera pamene wina amasirira katunduyo?
Mungayambe kudandaula za kuchoka kwanu kungathe kuwononga zonse zomwe munapindula: banja losangalala, maloto ozindikira, ntchito yabwino ndi zina zotero.
Mwinamwake mudzakwiya, ndipo mudzaganiza kuti ichi ndi chisalungamo, chifukwa simunadalire aliyense, sankayembekezera mana kuchokera kumwamba, ndipo tsiku lililonse mumapindula nawo phindu ndi zakuthupi zauzimu ndi ntchito yaikulu tsiku ndi tsiku. Simungathe kufotokozera abwenzi anu, mwachitsanzo, kuti zinthu zonse zokongola zomwe mwasintha kuchokera kumayendedwe ka kale, usiku kapena kwa nthawi yaitali ntchito yogula. Palibe yemwe akudziwa momwe madalitso omwe wapatsidwa kwa inu aperekedwa. Mwina, anthu omwe mumawachitira nsanje, adapeza zonse zomwe zikuvuta.
Pewani kuganizira kwambiri za izo, musagwirizane nazo. Mwina chibwenzi chomwecho chimakukwiyitsani, chifukwa ali ndi ndalama, koma palibe munthu wachikondi ndi wachikondi woterewa, chifukwa chikondi ndikumveka bwino komwe sikuti aliyense amadziwa, koma chuma chimatha kuperekedwa pokwatirana, kuchokera ku nyumba yotsegulidwa kupita kunyumba. Pali nthano yotereyi, yomwe munthu wamkuluyo adakumana ndi zoipa, koma sangathe kumugonjetsa, ndipo adadziwa kuti mumangobwerera kumbuyo. Anasiya kusaka mfiti ndi ntchentche, ndipo anangoyamba kukhala ndi moyo ndi kusangalala ndi moyo. Chifukwa cha ubwino, zochuluka zakhala kuti thupi silingathe kulimbana ndi zovutazo ndizokha zinachoka. Momwemonso: lekani kuwerengera anthu ena, kuwerengera ndalama zawo ndi kuyang'ana pa iwo mu moyo, kukhala moyo wanu, ndiyeno simungamve nsanje, inu nokha mutenga nthawi yochuluka kwa inu nokha ndi okondedwa anu. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti moyo wanu usangalale inu, ndipo mubweretse zabwino zokhazokha komanso zabwino.