Banja lokongola, ndi kupandukira mwadzidzidzi kwa mwamuna

Banja loyenera, ndipo mwadzidzidzi kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna wake kumawononga chirichonse. Inde, nthawizina zimachitika. Kodi "banja lolondola" ndi liti yemwe sangathe kunena motsimikiza. Koma banja lanu linkawoneka ngati inu monga choncho. Aliyense ali ndi zolinga zake zokha, zolondola? Inu ndi mwamuna wanu mwakhalapo kwa nthawi yaitali, penapake zaka zoposa khumi. Koma inu nthawizonse mumaganiza kuti izi, kuvomereza, msinkhu wolimba, sizinachititse kusintha kulikonse kosasinthika mu ubale wanu. Anasungidwa mwa iwo ndi chidwi, ndi chikondi, komanso kugwirizanitsa pazochitika ndi mavuto wina ndi mzake. Ndipo panalipo wokondedwa, nthawi zonse wosokonezeka, wosasamala, wodzaza malingaliro ena oseketsa - mwana! Zoonadi, kwa zaka zambiri mwakhala mukukumana ndi zambiri: wophunzira wosadziŵa kusowa ndalama ndi kusowa pokhala, kubadwa kwa mwana, kukhala mu nyumba yaing'ono ndi apongozi ake, omwe ubalewo sunayambe nawo kuyambira pachiyambi. Ndiye kugula nyumba pa ngongole, ngongole zopanda malire, chizolowezi chozikika chodzikana nokha chirichonse, "popanda chimene mungathe kukhala nacho." Ndipo mungathe kuchita zambiri popanda izi: opanda nsapato zatsopano, zonunkhira, zodzikongoletsera, zodzoladzola.

Mungathe. Ndipo inu munakhalapo. Sindinganene kuti ndakhala ndikuzoloweretsa, koma ndikudzipatulira ndekha. Anabisala ndikudikirira, ndipo anagwira ntchito, ndipo anakokera mwanayo kumapeto kwa tauni kupita ku sukulu yabwino. Ndiyeno ... Nthawi izi zatha: ngongole zagawidwa, pafupi ndi nyumba yatsopano inali sukulu yabwino, pantchito zonse zinangopita mwangwiro, ngakhale apongozi ake a maganizowo anasintha. Munali wokondwa ndi banja lanu loyenera, ndipo kugulitsa kwa mwamuna wanu ndi "kusanunkhiza."

Kodi ndi ndani amene belu likulipira? Kusintha mwamuna wake, monga momwe zinalili, "sikunamve fungo," koma chinachake chinachitika. Simungakhoze kukumbukira ngakhale pamene izo zinayambira. Koma panali "mabelu", ndithudi, sakanakhoza kukhala. Mwamuna wanga nthawi zambiri ankapita ku bizinesi. Simungathe kuzizoloŵera. Ndipo sikuti iwe sunamudalire iye, amangoziphonya iye. Simunawonane nthawi zambiri: m'mawa pa kadzutsa, madzulo maola angapo musanagone - ndizo zonse. Kumapeto kwa sabata, nthawi zonse mumakhala pamodzi, mukukonzekera. Koma kumapeto kwa sabata mwamsanga. Ndipo kubweranso tsiku la sabata, kutacha m'mawa, kutopa madzulo - inu nonse munakonda ntchito yanu, munapatsa mphamvu zambiri ndi nthawi. Banja labwino kwambiri. Mwachidule, simunamufune iye pokhapokha atachoka. Ndiyeno maulendo a bizinesi akuwonjezeka, inu, ndithudi, simunakondwere. Mwamuna adalimbikitsidwa, adanena kuti ndizokhalitsa, kuti iye mwini sakonda ndege izi, miyambo, mahotela. Munasintha ma SMS, imelo, koma simunayitanidwe. Nthawi zina zinkawoneka kuti misonkhano yanu, yomwe nthawi zonse imakhala yolandiridwa, musamangokhalira kuchita zinthu mogometsa kale, koma mumadziwa kuti zonse sizingakhale zofanana nthawi zonse - kutopa, mavuto, ndipo mwana wamwamuna akufuna posachedwa - kuchokera iye anayamba nthawi yachindunji. Kawirikawiri, simunamvere, munadziwonetsa nokha ndipo munaganiza "kuganizira za mawa mawa."

Mukadakhala banja labwino, ndipo mwadzidzidzi kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna wake kunali ngati buluu wochokera ku buluu. Mwamuna modzichepetsa, momveka bwino komanso mopanda malire adanena kuti ali pachibwenzi ndi mkazi wina. Ndipo, mwinamwake, izi sizinthu zochepa, koma ndi chibwenzi cholimba. Atafunsidwa chifukwa chake akukuuzani izi, mwamunayo adakukondani, nayenso, komanso kuti chikumbumtima chake chikuzunza. Koma pano kale "sikununkhiza" banja loyenera, limene mudali ndi chidaliro. Mwamunayo adakhala mwakachetechete, wolakwa ndi wotayika. Amalemba kuti bastard ndi wosayenera kwa inu. Akafunsidwa kuti apite kwa mkazi uja, adanena kuti zonse zimadalira inu. Mukuyenera kusankha, koma adzayanjanitsa ndi chisankho chanu. Ndipo mukukhala bwanji, momwe mungayanjanitsire ndi kugulitsa kwa mwamuna wake? Kodi mungaiwale bwanji, mukhululukire, mukhulupirire?

Chiwonongeko chimasintha - mikangano. Ngati chikumbumtima cha munthu chiri maso, wina ayenera kumupatsa mwayi. Ndibwino kuti musapange kayendedwe kadzidzidzi. Musiyeni amve kuti mwayesa kumumvetsa, amuna amaona kuti ndifunikira kwambiri - kuti amvetse. Ndizodabwitsa kuti panthawi yomweyi nthawi zambiri samayesa kumvetsetsa, izi ndizolemba. Mwinamwake mwamuna wanu anangopunthwa. Ndinadzipeza ndekha pa nthawi yosafunikira. Ndiyeno-anapita-anapita. Chikondi ndikumverera bwino kusiyana ndi kukonda chikondi. Yesani kumukhululukira, mwana wanu amafunikira bambo, ndipo mukusowa banja. Ngakhale simutchula kuti banja loyenera.

Kodi mungapulumuke bwanji mukaperekedwa kwa mwamuna wake komanso momwe mungapitirizire? Monga matenda. Matendawa amayamba mosayembekezereka, koma nthawi zonse amatha. Poyamba, mkhalidwe wa thanzi umafalikira, ndiye vuto ndi kubwezeretsa kunadza. Chinthu chachikulu sikumakangana. Sikudzakhala mankhwala, sipadzakhala mavuto. Ndingakhululukire bwanji? Kuyenera kukumbukira choonadi chosavuta: sitinabwere padziko lapansi kuti tikwaniritse zoyembekeza za anthu ena. Ndipo palibe yemwe amatikongoletsa ife. Ndipo ngati zili choncho, ndiye kuti palibe chilichonse chokhululukira mwamuna wake. Kodi mungaiwale bwanji? Ndizosamveka kusiya zomwe mwalandirazo, chifukwa zidzalola kuunika kosavuta kwa tsiku ndi tsiku mtsogolo. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Lolani mwamuna wake kuti asankhe yekha payekha. Amuna osakayikira, monga lamulo, ali oyenera, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti muli ndi mwayi pamwamba pa mdani wanu.