Iye anasintha. Mfundo. Chochita - mutu ukupita mozungulira. Ine sindingakhoze kukhululukira chikunja - momwe mungakhalire moyo? Chabwino, momwe mungachitire (kubwezera, gawo kapena kukhululukira), ziri kwa inu. M'nkhaniyi, mitundu yambiri ya chitukuko cha zochitika imalingaliridwa, ndipo akatswiri a zamaganizo a banja adayankha pa nkhani za amayi atatu wamba.
Ndipo tebulo la pambali pakati pa mabedi.
Katya, yemwe ali ndi zaka 32, anati: "Ndinaganiza zopempha kuti ndisudzulane, ndikazindikira kuti Volodya anandisintha kachiwiri ." - Winawake adandiwuza ine kuti: munthu akhoza kupereka mwayi wachiwiri, koma osati - lachitatu. Ziribe kanthu kuti izi zingamveke bwanji, koma pamene izi zinachitika kwa nthawi yoyamba, tinakambirana kwambiri. Koma zonse zinachitika kachiwiri. Ndi bwino kukhala ndekha kusiyana ndi munthu wosakhulupirika! "
"Kusudzulana ndi chimodzi mwa mavuto aakulu," anatero Anna Kashina, katswiri wa zamaganizo. - Ndipo mungathe kusankha pachitetezo choterechi, pokhapokha mutayesa zonse zabwino ndizoipa. Monga momwe tikuonera m'nkhaniyi, Catherine anafikira pomwe panalibe kulankhula za kupitiriza kwa ubalewu. Chabwino, uwu ndi ufulu wake ndi kusankha kwake. Chinthu choyamba chimene ndikulangizira makasitomala anga ndikutulutsidwa. Ziri zosavuta kupulumuka chizunzo ndi kusudzulana. Kwa ichi, pali maphunziro ophweka - taganizirani za inu nokha. Pachilendo china. Izi ndi zoona. Kotero bwanji. Iwe-chinachake chokongola kwambiri, ndi abwenzi ako, ntchito ndi zofuna - anakhalabe chimodzimodzi! Kumbukirani izi ndipo pokhapokha mubwerere ku zochitikazo, fufuzani zolinga za mwamuna wanu, malingaliro anu ndi chiyembekezo. Musawope kuganiza kuti n'zotheka. Chitani momwe mumakhalira omasuka, ophweka komanso opindulitsa kwambiri. Musamaganize nthawi zonse zomwe ena anganene. "
Zotsatira zammbuyo.
"Ndinakhala ndi pakati povuta, ndipo ndinagona m'chipatala kwa nthawi yaitali. Mwamuna nthawi zonse amabweretsa mphatso, koma nthawi zonse kwinakwake mofulumira. Ndiye sindinagwirizanepo ndi izi, koma ndikafika kunyumba ndi mwana, ndinapeza kusintha kwakukulu m'nyumbayi , - magawo a Larisa wazaka 35. - Zakudya zimakonzedwanso, thumba langa lodzikongoletsera liribe kanthu, komanso mu shampo lachakudya ndi chamomile ya tsitsi lowala. Izi zisanachitike, mwamuna wanga adanena kuti ndilibe, iye amatsogolera atsikana osiyanasiyana. Ndinakwiya kwambiri ndipo ndinaika chithunzi chake pa webusaitiyi kuti azitha kukwatirana. Ndiye zinali zosangalatsa, koma tsopano zochita zanga zimawoneka ngati zazing'ono kwa ine . "
"Panthawi yoyamba, aliyense akufuna kuchita chinthu chobwezera. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo! - akuti Anna Kashina. "Ndikunyoza kuti umamva ululu ndi kuyamba kuganiza zokhumudwitsa mwamuna wako kapena mdani wako, kapena kuyamba kuipa kwambiri." Koma, monga momwe nkhani ya Larisa ikusonyezera, izi sizitsogolera ku zabwino. Kuti mupange chisankho chofunikira, gwiritsani ntchito malangizo a amuna anzeru akummawa ndipo mvetserani kupuma kwanu. Pakadutsa mphindi zisanu mvetserani kupuma kwanu - kubwerezabwereza kudzabwera kwa inu. Kubwezera ndi njira yodziyimira yowonongeka, koma kukhutira kwa zomwe zachitidwa kumangotengeka ndi kudzidzimva. Kodi ndizoyenera kudzipeputsa nokha? "
Ndi slate yoyera.
"Petya atayamba kufulumira, ndinkaganiza kuti chinachake chinali cholakwika ndipo ankachita uzondi ," omwe ali ndi zaka 25 za Xenia. - Choyamba ndinakwera ku foni yake ndipo mwamsanga ndinapeza SMS yodabwitsa . Volodya wina anamulembera kuti: "Ndikupsompsonani." Ndiye ine ndinatenga neno lachinsinsi la makalata ake ndipo ... Choonadi chinali chowonekera. Pofuna kuti ndisakhumudwe, ndinaganiza zopuma ndikupita kukagona ndi chibwenzi changa. Mu masabata awiri ndinaganiza kuti ndikhoza kumukhululukira Petya chifukwa cha chiwembu. Kwa zaka zitatu tsopano ife takhala tikukhala moyo mu solo, ndipo ine sindikukumbukira kalikonse za izo . "
"Ngati akonda - adzakhululukira! Mu mawu awa mulidi zoona, - anati Anna Kashina. - Ngati mukumva kuti mungathe komanso muyenera kuchita izo, lolani kuti zikhale choncho. Chinthu chachikulu - kuiwala za chiwembu ndikuyamba chirichonse kuyambira pachiyambi! Chomwe chimatchedwa kayendedwe ka chikhululukiro chiri ndi magawo angapo. Choyamba, pali kukana kupandukira ("izi sizingakhale"), kenako mkwiyo ("Ndimadana naye!"), Pambuyo pa kutaya ("Sindikukumbukira chilichonse") ndipo pokhapokha kuzindikira ("Inde, izo zinachitika") ndi kukhululukira. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kusaleka panthawi iliyonse, koma kuti mupite patsogolo. Apo ayi, ngati simungathe kukhululukira chiwembu - momwe mungapitirire? Mkwiyo sudzakupatsani mpumulo (ndi mwamuna wanu, mmodzi kapena watsopano). Akazi omwe amabwera kwa ine ali ndi mavuto ofanana, ndikupangira zochitika ziwiri zosavuta. Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kudziwa ndicho kunena nokha "imani." Mukangoyamba kudzichitira nokha chisoni - yesani chinthu china. Pomaliza, kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mtima wanu kumathandiza kwambiri. Chabwino, chinthu chachiwiri choti muchite ndi kukhululukira miniti. Mwachidziwikire, mutha kukonda kwambiri ufulu kuti nthawiyo idzakhalapo kwamuyaya. "
Typology ya "osalungama".
Hunter
Chombo chake n'chosavuta: akazi ambiri ndi abwino komanso osiyana! Msaka si wokwanira kwa mkazi mmodzi, amafuna kusiyanasiyana ndipo samakhala wokhulupirika ngakhale atakonda mwamuna wake. Ndi zopanda phindu kukakamiza chikumbumtima chake ndikuyesera kukhumudwitsa. Mwina muzilandira monga momwe ziliri, kapena kuthawa.
Mnyamata wosauka
"Izo zinachitika monga choncho_ine sindimadziwa, ine sindimadziwa ^ ine sindikukumbukira kalikonse nkomwe. Chabwino, ndakhala, ndamwa, sindingathe kuthandizira "- izi ndi zifukwa zomveka za munthu woteroyo. "Chabwino, ndimakukondani, wokondedwa wanga!" Adzakulankhulani ndikupitanso "kusiya." Pitirizani kukhala ndi munthu wotere, musaiwale kuti padzakhala kumwa mowa kwambiri m'moyo wake. Kodi adzatha "kubwerera" nthawi yotsatira?
Mwamuna wachifundo
Iye ali wokwatira kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo motero ali wotopa ndi chiyanjano ndi mkazi wake. Chiwonongeko chidzakhala ndi chikhalidwe cha nthawi imodzi, koma zosatheka ndizotheka. Pachifukwa ichi, ndibwino kuti mutope, dzipange nokha, mugulitse lingaliro lachiwerewere ndikugonjetsani mnzanuyo. Koma ndifunikanso kuti musapitirize. Ndipotu, okhulupirika anu angasankhe kuti mwapeza m'malo mwake. Ndiyeno adzayamba zovuta zonse.
Mnyamata wamkulu
Ali ndi banja, ntchito yabwino, nyumba yaikulu ndi galimoto. Koma izi si zokwanira. Monga bwana wamalonda wopambana, ambuye amamuika iye. Kodi mumavomereza kutero? Kodi n'chiyani chingathetsere mavuto anu? Mulimonsemo, yesani kuika maganizo anu pa moyo wanu. Pangani izo kukhala zowala ndi zodzaza.
Malangizo a katswiri.
Chiwonongeko ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zowonongeka za mavuto. Komabe, amayi ambiri amaima pamalo akuti "anthu onse amasintha," ndipo yesetsani kuthetsa kusungira chakukhosi, kupweteka, kukhumudwa. Maganizo amenewa kwa wokondedwa - ndi zofunikira - zimasonyeza kusowa ulemu. Khululukirani kapena osakhululukira chiwembu? Sipangakhale zidziwitso zosadziwika. Koma pali mfundo zingapo zomwe mungazindikire:
1. Ndibwino kuyamba pazifukwa zodzikonda. Kodi mungatani kuti musamawonongeke - ngati mutagawanika kapena mutasunga ubale wanu?
2. Musamatsogoleredwe ndi zifukwa zotsatirazi: "Sindingapeze wina wabwinoko kuposa iye", "Amene akufuna ine 20, 25, 30+", "Ndipanso kuti ndipeza olemera kwambiri."
3. Musadzitsutse nokha chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwake.
4. Musasunthire mlandu wa wokondedwa wanu kwa mkazi wina: iwo amati, ndi iye yemwe adanyengerera, akugogoda wowona, wokakamizidwa.
5. Simukusowa kupulumutsa banja lanu chifukwa cha ana. Ana safunikira banja limene abambo ndi amayi amawatambasula, osalankhulana ndi kuyesa nthawi zosiyanasiyana.
6. Musasinthe kubwezera, "kotero kuti amvetsetsa momwe ndinamvera."
7. Mukudandaula za kusakhulupirika, dzipatseni nokha: Ndibwino kuti izo zinachitika tsopano, osati patapita nthawi. Ubale wa nthawi yayitali ndi gulu la ana, nyumba ndi magalimoto zimakhala zovuta kuti zithetse.
8. Ndipo musaiwale kukhulupirira m'chikondi! Iwe sunakwatirane molingana ndi kuwerengera?