Malangizo kwa akatswiri a maganizo: zomwe mungachite ngati mwamuna wanu akupusitsani

Mawu owopsyawa ndi chiwonetsero. Kwa amayi ambiri, ndizofanana ndi chiganizo: kusakhulupilira wokondedwa, chiyembekezo chophwanyidwa, kugwa kwa banja ... Choyamba chimachititsa mantha ndi kuwonongeka. Ndiye pakubwera mkwiyo, mkwiyo ndi ... chisokonezo. Momwe mungakhalirebe ndipo mukuchita chiyani mutaphunzira kuti mwamuna wanu wasintha inu? Akatswiri a zamaganizo pankhaniyi akulimbikitsanso kuti asamapangitse kufotokoza mofulumira kwa maubwenzi ndi kupeŵa kunyozedwa, chifukwa amathandiza kuti anthu asokonezeke. Musati muiwale za malingaliro aakazi olemera: mwinamwake palibe chopadera chomwe chachitika. Mwamuna wabwerera kuchokera ku bizinesi ndipo mwawona kuti pali chinachake cholakwika naye? Koma kusintha kumachitika mwa ife tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndizoti timakhala mbali ndi mbali, kusintha kumakhala kosawerengeka ndipo sikunali kotheka kwa ife. Pankhaniyi, m'pofunika kufunsa mobwerezabwereza kuti: "Kodi pali chifukwa chenicheni chokumana nacho?" Kuwonjezera apo, ngati pali chinachake, taganizirani: pambuyo pa zonse, ife sitiri Angelo. Pakhoza kukhala zovuta zotsutsa, zotsatiridwa ndi kukangana kwaposachedwa m'banja. Wina ankafuna kutsimikizira kuti ali ndi mphamvu zowonongeka kapena adasintha kusinthasintha, poyera.

Tiyerekeze kuti panopa pali chikhumbo chimodzi chokha: kubweretsa mwamunayo kuyeretsa madzi. Koma kodi pali amayi ambiri omwe amavomereza okha kuti amatha kupirira, popanda kukhumudwa kwamantha, nkhani yowona mtima ndi yomveka ya wokondedwa wake za "amorous adventures"? Kodi zidzakhala zophweka kwa inu nonse?

Musanayambe kukambirana momasuka, mwatsatanetsatane, ganizirani mosamala zomwe mungachite poyankhula ndi mwamuna wake. Utsenga ukhoza kuchitira umboni kuti banja lanu likukumana ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri yomwe ikukula.

Ganizirani za zomwe mungachite mukamvekedwa ndi mwamuna wanu za inu nokha, akunena kuti mwina mwapeza kwa zaka zambiri. Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupilira ndi moyo mu malo osokonezeka maganizo. Mwina mwamuna wanu alibe nzeru zokwanira. Kodi mwakonzeka kukumana ndi choonadi ichi?

Sikoyenera kulankhula ndi mwamuna wanu za mkazi wina, ngakhale mutadziwa kuti alipo. Yankhulani za inu nokha, za banja lanu, za tsogolo la moyo wokhudzana.

Khalani okonzekera kuti ngati mwamuna avomereza kuti akuchita chiwembu, mpumulo wofunawo sungabwere. Pachifukwa ichi zochita zanu zingakhale zambiri. Amayi ambiri amabwera ku "kudzipha" kusankha kukana amuna awo chiyanjano, kupitilira kukhala naye pakhomo limodzi. Iwo sangakhoze kudutsa pa kunyada kwawo ndi kusintha moyo kukhala gehena, osati kwa iwo okha, koma kwa onse omwe akuwakhudza nawo.

Mutha kuimba mlandu mwamuna wanu moyo wanu wonse, koma ganizirani, mungathe kukhala osangalala kapena osasangalala nawo? Kudzakhala kotembenukira kwa iwe mwini, ndipo "kunyada" kotero sikukukweza iwe, koma m'malo mwake kumanyozetsa. "Kudana ndi mndandanda wovuta kwambiri komanso wonyansa kwambiri umene munthu mmodzi amatha kudzidzimvera, chifukwa mphetezi zimaphatikizapo mkwiyo ndi mantha," analemba motero Nicolo Hugo Foscolo, wolemba mabuku wa ku Italy.

Ngati mukuona kuti mwakhumudwa kwambiri chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwa mwamuna wanu kuti ndi kovuta kuganiza za chinthu china, muyenera kuti mutembenuzire kwa akatswiri a maganizo ndi opatsirana maganizo.

Koma mulimonsemo, muli ndi kusankha komwe mkazi angadzipange yekha. Yesani kukhululukira mwamuna wanu ndipo musamamukumbutsenso zomwe zinachitika kapena popanda chifukwa. Koma musangosewera nokha, khalani okonzeka kukhululukidwa kwanu. Pamapeto pake, zomwe sizikuchitika m'moyo, ndi zolakwa ziti zomwe sitimapanga. Anthu m'mbiri yonse yawo akulimbana kuthetsa vutoli: kumene ufulu wa munthu mmodzi umatha ndipo ufulu wa wina umayamba. Ndithudi mu moyo wanu mungapeze "machimo" osiyanasiyana. Ganizirani za makhalidwe anu omwe amalepheretsa kukhazikitsidwa kwa chikhulupiliro, chotseguka m'banja. Mwinamwake zidzakhala zosavuta kuti muwone zochitika kuchokera kumbali inayo.

Zambiri mwazinthuzi zimatanthauzanso kuchitika kwachidule. Zili zosiyana ndizo pamene chiwonongeko chimatenga nthawi yaitali ndikusanduka moyo wapawiri. Ngati izi zichitika, ndiye kuti inuyo ndi mwamuna wanu mumatha kusankha momwe mungapititsire patsogolo banja lanu. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukumbukira kuti moyo ukhoza kupereka njira zambiri zochotsera zochitika, poyamba, osaganizira. Ngati mukumva kuti simungathe kukhululukira ndi kuyang'ana njira yabwino yolumikizira maubwenzi, mukhoza kuyesa njira zatsopano zolankhulana ndi mwamuna wanu. Mwinamwake, iye samakhala ndi chikondi kapena iwe umafunikira kuyankhulana momasuka.

Mulimonsemo, ngakhale padzafika nthawi yopuma, nkofunika kumvetsetsa kuti nthawi zonse muli ndi mwayi wodziwonetsera nokha m'moyo, ngakhale popanda kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi mwamuna wosakhulupirika.