Mkhalidwe wa wokondedwa yemwe anasinthidwa.
Pambuyo pa chigololo, munthu amakhala ndi chisokonezo champhamvu komanso akuvutika maganizo. Mdziko lino, akhoza kuchita zinthu zosiyana: akhoza kuyamba kubwezera, yesetsani kumvetsetsa mkhalidwewo, fufuzani mgwirizano. Ndipo izi ndi zachilengedwe: tonsefe tikufuna kuthetsa ululu mwamsanga, mwa kupanga chisankho cha momwe tingakhalire. Kawirikawiri osati, chisankho chotero ndi kuswa maubwenzi. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amakumana ndi nkhani za psychology zachinyengo, amalangizani mu chikhalidwe chokhudzidwa kuti asamapange kayendedwe kabwino. Kuti mupange chisankho cha momwe mungapitirire, ziyenera kutenga nthawi yaitali mpaka nthawi ino. Munthu panthawi ino adzatha kudziletsa ndikupanga chisankho choyenera.
Kuchokera pa izi sizingakhale zovuta kuti pakhale maulendo ochuluka komanso kusokoneza maubwenzi - osati njira yokhayo yotulukira. Pofuna kupanga chisankho choyenera kumvetsetsa zomwe zochitikazo, choyamba, muyenera kudzibweretsa pamtendere wa maganizo, zomwe ziri zovuta kwambiri.
Kwa ichi, kukambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe amamvetsa nkhani za psychology za chigololo, ntchito, maulendo, masewera angathandize. Mutatha kupeza chiyero chamkati, yesetsani kuyang'ana mwachidwi komanso mosamala pazochitikazo.
Pali zifukwa zosiyanasiyana za kusintha. Tikulemba ena mwa iwo.
Zifukwa za kusintha.
1. Nkhanza ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi chosatha. Mu psychology, chigamulo ndi chifukwa choyamba. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kufotokoza ndi mnzako chiyanjano chanu ndikukhala olimba mtima kuti mutuluke mumtendere. Mwinamwake mnzanuyo alibe mtima wakuuzani zoona, koma mumangomudzudzula chifukwa cha izi, osati chifukwa choti alibe chikondi.
2. Nkhanza ndi chizindikiro cha vuto m'maubwenzi. Mu chikhalidwe cha psychology ya kusakhulupirika, ichi ndi chifukwa chachiwiri. Ngati muli ndi mavuto m'banja - izi sizikutanthauza kuti chikondi chapita. M'malo mwake, izi zimasonyeza kuti mnzanuyo akufuna njira yothetsera vuto ndikubwezeretsa chikondi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamunayo akuona kuti mkazi wake wamusiyanitsa, iye angakope mlembi mwadzidzidzi. Koma maziko a zokopazi si chikondi kwa mlembi, koma kuyesa kulimbana ndikumverera kwachisoni. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mmalo mwa kumuuza mkazi wake, mwamunayo mwamunayo amayesa kuthetsa vutoli kudzera mu chiwembu. Akatswiri a zamaganizo nthawi zambiri amanena kuti chiwombankhanga nthawi zina chingakhale chokhazikika mu ubale. Kawirikawiri anthu amene adutsa chigololo amatha kukumbukira ngati phunziro labwino, amawaphunzitsa kuti azitha kumvetsera bwino kwambiri mnzawo, kumvetsetsa, kumvetsetsa, kuphunzitsidwa kukhala wowolowa manja, oleza mtima, kuthandizira.
3. Nkhanza ndi chizindikiro chakuti munthu ali ndi mavuto ena. Mu chikhalidwe cha psychology ya chiwembu, ichi ndi chifukwa chodziwika bwino. Pangakhale mavuto ambiri. Mwachitsanzo, munthu sali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi. Kamodzi pamene munthu amvetsetsa kuti ubale ndi mnzanuyo wayamba kale kusuntha kupita kumtunda wosiyana, mantha amkati akum'pangitsa kumupereka. Pankhaniyi, munthu mwiniwakeyo ali wovutika kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, gawo lina la iye likufuna ubale weniweni, koma mantha ena ndikumusuntha munthuyo kuchokera pansi.
Vuto lina la mkati ndilo kukayikira. Munthu nthawi zambiri amadzidalira kwambiri ndi chibwenzi chochuluka. Kotero iye akufuna kuti adziwonetsere yekha ndi dziko lonse kuti iye ndi wamwamuna wapamwamba kapena wamkulu, kuti iye ali mbuye wa matupi ndi miyoyo ndi wopambana. Ndipo popeza kuti chitetezo chenichenicho ndi vuto lalikulu la mkati lomwe silingathetsedwe motere, munthuyo amakhalabe, monga kale, ndi kusakhutira kwake ndi kusatsimikizika kwake.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasiyanitsa vuto limodzi. Amalongosola vutoli ku zosiyana siyana, monga, zotsatirazi ndi kusowa kudzidalira pakutsata izi. Mwachitsanzo, izi ndizofala, kuti mwamuna weniweni ayenera kukhala ndi mkazi komanso mbuye. Kapena, mwachitsanzo, kawirikawiri zimatchulidwa kuti kudalira kumayambitsa kukhulupilika kwa mnzanu wina, komanso pofuna kupeĊµa kudalira kumeneku munthu amadza ndi njira zosiyanasiyana.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Palinso zifukwa zina, mulimonsemo, osati muzochitika zonse zomwe zingakhale zomveka kuchitapo kanthu ndi kugonana kwathunthu. Ndipotu, ngati munthu akugulitsa, mavuto ake akum'kati amamuyendetsa, ndiye kuti kuthetsa mavutowa ndikuyenera kuthandizira kubwezeretsa maubwenzi, komanso kuti ubalewu ukhale wolimba komanso wolimba kwambiri, umene sungatheke chifukwa cha mavuto a maganizo. Zoonadi, izi zikhoza kuchitika ngati mgwirizano ndi wokwera mtengo.
Mwinamwake munthu wachikondi yemwe wakhala akutsutsidwa, mmalo mokhala mmbuyo ndi kuzunzidwa ndi mkwiyo, kuchoka ku malingaliro okhumudwitsa, kudzimvera chisoni, ayenera kuyesa kuyang'ana mkhalidwe mosiyana? Mwachitsanzo, onetsetsani kuti mumkhalidwe umenewu, awiriwo akuvutika. Kuwona kuti moyo ndi chinthu chovuta. Kuzindikira kuti chifukwa china nthawi zonse chimatha kusanthula, ndipo chifukwa chake sichidziwike kwa ife kapena timachimvetsa molakwika. Kumbukirani kuti chiwonetsero ndi chizindikiro chabe, koma ngati mumvetsetsa bwino chizindikiro ichi, simungathe kuwononga, koma kusintha ndikusintha mgwirizano.
Ndipo potsirizira, pokamba za chiwembu, ziyenera kunenedwa kuti kusakhulupirika kungakhale chiyambi ndi mapeto, ndi momwe ubale umathera, chokha tiyenera kusankha.