N'chifukwa chiyani amasintha? Zifukwa zomwe chikhulupiliro chimatha mwadzidzidzi pamoyo wanu, zingakhale zambiri monga mukufunira. Izi sizingakhale zolakwa za wina, koma ndi awiri okhawo.
Amati amuna ndi amitheka ndipo sangathe kupereka moyo wawo kwa mkazi mmodzi. Izi sizowona, koma nthano chabe, yomwe ili yabwino kwambiri kuti imveketse chiwembu. Pali zitsanzo zomwe amuna omwe alibe mavuto omwe amakhala ndi mkazi mmodzi pa moyo, popanda kusowa kukonda wina. Ndipotu, akazi amasintha osachepera, asayansi ena amaganiza kuti zambiri, koma osazilengeza.
Sizinanso zoona kuti mngelo wamwamuna amadziwika kuti akuzunguliridwa ndi zoipa razluchnitsa, kumukakamiza kuti akhale pachibwenzi ndi ubale wina. Ndikhululukireni, koma kodi uyu ndi wamkulu, wamphamvu ndi wamkulu yemwe akuwoneka ngati mwana wamphongo wopanda pake, yemwe aliyense angathe kuyendetsa galimoto? Ngati munthu atangopandukira chigamulo chake, ndiye kuti adasankha yekha.
Pali lingaliro lomwe amayenda kuchokera kwa akazi oipa, opusa, achisoni ndi okangana. Zoonadi, makhalidwe onsewa alibe kukhulupirika kwambiri, koma nanga bwanji akazi okongola, aluntha, okoma mtima ndi achifundo? Nkhanza zimachitika m'njira zosiyana.
Inde, sikungakhale malingaliro olakwika kuganiza ngati mwaphonya nthawi yomwe ubale wanu unayamba kusintha, pamene mavuto anayamba kuyamba, ndipo vuto lanu ndi lotani. Chinthu chachikulu, kusinkhasinkha moyo wanu pamodzi, musayesere kulemba kuperekedwa kwachidziwitso chakuti kaŵirikaŵiri mchere wa borsch kapena kamodzi simunasunge shati. Mwinamwake, inu simunazindikire kuti zonsezi zinakhazikika kwa wina ndi mzake.
Imodzi mwa nthawi zofunika kwambiri m'moyo uno ndikusankha zomwe muti muchite. Ngati simunakhululukire kukhululukira, yesetsani kubwezeretsa ubale ndi chidziwitso pamodzi, nkhaniyi si yanu.
Chimene sichiyenera kuchita?
Choyamba chokhudza nkhani za kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanuyo, ndithudi, ndi kukwiya ndi mkwiyo. Mkazi wosazolowereka amatha kumulepheretsa kumangokhalira kumukhumudwitsa. Zowopsya zoterezi ndipo zimayambitsa mtunda wochuluka wa okwatirana wina ndi mzake.
Simusowa, ndipo musakhale chete. Osati, tiuzeni mwatchutchutchu zomwe mukumverera, koma osakondwa komanso okhumudwa kwambiri. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ayenera kudziwa kuti zomwe wakuchitirani zimakupweteketsani ndipo muyenera kupirira.
Ndikofunika kuti tisamanyoze, koma kungonena zoona, popeza kunyozedwa kungayambitse kutsutsana komanso kusakondana.
Chikhumbo chachiwiri kaŵirikaŵiri ndi chilakolako chochitira chifundo ndi kubwezera razluchnitsu. Ndi bwino kupeŵa izi. Mudzawonekeratu kuwala kwa wina aliyense komanso kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, chifukwa chakuti mpikisanoyo adzachotsa pepala ndikukhala pamaso pa mwamuna wake. Kuwonjezera apo, kubwezera sikudzachita chirichonse ndipo sikudzasintha kanthu. Ntchito yanu ndi kubwezeretsa mwamuna wake ku banja, bwanji akudandaula, ngati akadali wotayika?
Sikoyenera kuyanjana ndi achibale, abwenzi, ogwira nawo ntchito kuthetsa vutoli. Ndipotu, mudzadzipereka kwambiri ku mavuto anu, koma musawafunse kuti aphunzitse mwamuna wawo kuti akhale woona, kuyankhula naye kapena kumukhumudwitsa - mumangowonjezera zinthu. Musatenge nsalu zodetsedwa m'nyumba.
Kodi ndifunika kuchita chiyani?
M'dziko lamakono, ndalama zambiri, kuti tithe kuchoka ku zovuta zilizonse ndi zoperewera. Zingakhale zachilendo kuti musagwiritse ntchito.
Kudza kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo - pa nthawi yovutayi, thandizo loyenerera ndi lofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Mutha kumvetsa nokha, kupanga zosankha zabwino ndikupewa zolakwa zambiri.
Musamangokwanira ndi vuto ili. Ndithudi, moyo wanu sunali wokhazikika kwa mwamuna wake ndi zofuna zake. Tsopano muli ndi mwayi waukulu wodzipereka nokha nthawi yina, chifukwa sipadzakhalanso wosakhulupirika kuti mupitirize kukhala kumbali yanu nthawi zonse. Kambiranani ndi abwenzi, lembani kuvina, muholo yamanja, zilizonse, koma yesetsani kutenga nthawi yanu yocheza ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe mumakonda.
Nthaŵi imene mavuto amabwera m'banja angathe kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuti agwiritse ntchito mphamvu zowonjezera. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kulimbikira kwambiri kugwira ntchito ndikukwaniritsa zinthu zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala odzikuza.
Chitani chinthu china chosangalatsa kwa inu nokha. Pitani ku salon, musinthe tsitsi lanu, musinthe zovala. Amanena kuti kupandukira ndi nthawi ya kusintha kosiyana, ndipo ndi zoona. Sintha, osayang'ana mmbuyo.
Yesetsani kulimbana ndi kudziona kuti ndinu wolakwa, ndi mkwiyo komanso chilakolako chobwezera. Maganizo amenewa ndi owopsa, amachititsa kuti muvutike. Pamapeto pake, simunachokepo: ntchito, mwinamwake, ana, amphongo, zokondweretsa. Moyo sunakhale wopanda kanthu, ziribe kanthu momwe iwe umawonekera.
Chifukwa chiyani adzabwerera?
Amuna nthawi zambiri amasiya banja chifukwa cha okondedwa, ziribe kanthu momwe zikuwonekera kwa ife. Chifukwa choletsera izi ndi kukana kutaya ndalama zomwe zidaperekedwa kwa zaka zambiri komanso kutaya chitonthozo chodziwika bwino.
Mwamuna amatha kubwerera ku banja, chifukwa mbuye wake samudziwa komanso inu. Adzatha kulakwitsa, zomwe mwakhala mukukhululukidwa kale, koma zomwe zimakhala zovuta kukhululukira mlendo.
Pomwepo mbuyeyo adzafunanso kuti azigwirizana, ndipo anthu sangalekerere zomwe zilipo. Polimbana ndi inu - kukhala wodekha, wodalirika, wokonzeka kupita kulankhulana, mbuyeyo akhoza kuyang'ana zopindula.
Kuonjezera apo, chikondi ndi chilakolako chakudutsa, ndi zakale komanso zolimba zomwe zili zovuta kuiwala. Inu muli ndi mwayi wabwino wobwezeretsa chiyanjano komanso kubwereranso kumverera, amuna ambiri amasangalala kukhala okonzekera izi.
Poyesera kubwezeretsa mwamuna wake m'banja, nkofunika kudziyang'ana nokha ndi chiyanjano chanu kuchokera kunja - zidzakuthandizani kupeŵa kupambanitsa pakupanga kupanga. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kudalira zomwe mukufuna komanso kuti mwakhululukira wokhululukira mnzanuyo. Ngati kunyada sikukulolani kukhululuka, ndipo kusudzulana kukuwoneka kuti ndiko njira yabwino kwambiri, musayese kulimbikitsa banja lanu - mwinamwake, palibe chomwe chidzabwere.