Ndipo izi ndi izi: Ndiwe mtsikana, iye ndi mnyamata, iye ndi bwenzi lanu, ndipo nonsenu, palimodzi mupange chomwe chimatchedwa "chikondi cha katatu". Momwe "tchimo" lonse likubisika kwa anthu awiri - inu ndi iye, bwenzi lake lokonda kwambiri. Ngati mupita mwanjira yodalirika, ndiye mnzanuyo ndi "wozunzidwa" pazochitikazo, mukutanthauza kwathunthu. Koma, zirizonse zomwe zinali, ndi malingaliro aliwonse omwe akulirira mkhalidwewo, tiyenera kukhala ndi moyo, osati kukhala moyo, komanso (mwinamwake ngakhale kamodzi) kuyang'anitsitsa pamaso pa bwenzi lathu. Kodi ndinganene chiyani mukakhala naye, mwinamwake ngakhale abwenzi abwino. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuchita chinachake. Kotero, inu mukuzunzidwa ndi chikumbumtima, chabwino, mwinamwake osati konse. Zoonadi, ndizovuta kwambiri ngati muli ndi maganizo komanso mukufuna kukhala ndi munthu uyu. Zirizonse zomwe ziri, inu mukhalabe mukukambirana funso lomwelo, limene, monga, "wopunduka", anakhala pansi (ndi mwinamwake mu mtima mwanu) ndipo sakufuna kuchoka pamenepo: "Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati nditagona ndi bwenzi la chibwenzi? ".
Kudzikonda.
Choyamba, muyenera kudziwa nokha ndikudziyankha nokha mafunso otsatirawa: "Chifukwa ninji mudagona naye? "" Kodi ukufuna kutsimikizira kapena kunena nokha? "," Kodi mumakonda munthu uyu ndipo mukufuna kuti mupitirize kuthana naye (ndipo ndi zofunika kuti mudziwe)? ". Ndipo funso lofunika kwambiri komanso lofunika kwambiri kwa inu ndiloti mumayamikira ubwenzi wanu ndi munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi. Yankho la funso lotsiriza lidzakhala mtsutso waukulu muzochita zanu zina. Ndipotu, ngati chibwenzi chimazindikira zomwe mwachita, muli ndi mwayi wokhalabe mabwenzi. Ndipo ngati mutapita kuntchito yotereyi, kodi munaganizira ubale wanu ndi ubale wake?
Zoonadi, muzochitikazi palinso "mbali ina ya ndalama". Inu, pamodzi ndi iye, mungathe kusunga zonse mumseri, kuti mupindule nawo ubwenzi weniweniwo (mumatanthauza, anu ndi iwo). Koma apa pali minuses. Mfundo yakuti mudagona ndi bwenzi la chibwenzi, posakhalitsa, ayamba kukutsutsani ndi kupsinjika maganizo pamatope anu. Dziwani nokha, nchifukwa chiyani bwenzi lanu liri ndi mnyamata yemwe angathe kugona ndi wina aliyense, osanyalanyaza mfundo za umunthu monga "ubwenzi", "kukhulupirika," "chikondi"? Mwa mawu, mwathyola nkhuni. Choncho, ngati simunakonzekere kukhala ndi "mwala uwu pa moyo wanu," njira yabwino kwambiri kwa inu (komanso kwa inu nonse), ndithudi, idzakhala kuvomereza. Ngakhale kuli koyenera kukumbukira kuti m'moyo muli zosiyana ndi zina ndipo nthawi zina mungathe kubwezeretsa zokambiranazi ndi chibwenzi nthawi yabwino. Mwachitsanzo, bwenzi lanulo adagawana ndi munthu uyu.
Chochita?
Kotero, kuchokera mu zochitika izi, malo osachepera awiri ndipo, pamene sarcastically sankamveketsa, chimodzimodzi. Ndipo amveka ngati izi: nenani momwe zilili, ndipo yesetsani kufotokozera chifukwa chake mudagona ndi iye, sungani chinsinsi ichi "kumbuyo kwa zikopa zisanu ndi ziwiri." Kapena dikirani kuti bwenzi lanu lizikhala ndi mnyamata uyu ndipo mwina mwinamwake mungamuthandize nazo. Sankhani, ndithudi, momwe mungachitire, ndi inu nokha. Chinthu chokhacho chimakumbukira kuti bodza lililonse litha kukhala loona. Kotero nthawi zina ndi bwino kunena zoona nthawi yomweyo, ziribe kanthu momwe zimakhalira zowawa. Ndipo ndibwino kuti muchite nokha kuposa pamene chibwenzi chimapeza kuchokera kwa wina.
Ndipo ngati chikondi?
Koma zonse zimakhala zoipa kwambiri, ngati mutagona ndi bwenzi la mnzanu chifukwa chakumverera kwanu. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Choyamba, muyenera kumayankhula ndi mnyamata ndikupeza zolinga zomwe akuyesera kuti achite kwa inu ndi zochita zake zotsatira. Pambuyo pake muyenera kupitiriza kukambirana, kokha ndi bwenzi lanu. Zivomerezani kumverera kwanu, ndipo ngati ali bwenzi lanu lenileni, ndipo mwalumikizana kwambiri kuposa ubwenzi, iye, mwinamwake, adzakumvetsa ndi kukukhululukirani. Zirizonse zomwe zinali, koma kwa wonyenga iye ndi kumabisirana mwachinsinsi kumbuyo kwake - izi ndizokwiyitsa kwambiri ndi zolakwika ndi iye. Mwa njira, musamupatse munthuyo kuti alankhule ndi mtsikanayo. Payenera kukhala ndi zokambirana zanu zapadera, popanda "zina zitatu zowonjezera" apo. Komanso, ngati bwenzi lanu ndi mnyamata uyu sakhala nthawi yayitali, ndipo alibe cholinga chokhala ndi tsogolo losangalatsa, kukambirana kumeneku kumayamba kosavuta. Komanso, ngati mutatsimikiziranso, mungapeze bwenzi lanu labwino m'malo mwa bwana uyu. Mukudziwa kukoma kwake, kotero kudzakhala kosavuta kumusangalatsa iye ndi mnyamata. Koma muyenera kungochita izi ngati mutsimikiza kuti zidzakuthandizani kukhalabe ndi anzanu, ndipo mwamsanga muiwale mnzanu wakale.
Ngati chirichonse sichiri cholemba kwambiri ...
Chabwino, ngati mnyamatayo mwiniyekha, adagona nanu popanda chizoloŵezi chilichonse, koma kungokhala wokondwa kapena kukweza mwamuna wake "Ine", mudzakhala ndi zovuta kwambiri. Kodi mungachite chiyani ndi munthu uyu? Pambuyo pake, apa si mphatso, ndipo ubwenzi ukhoza kutayika. Malangizo athu ndi kunena zoona kachiwiri. Chofunika kwambiri cha zokambirana ndikuyenera kumanga pa ndodo yotchedwa: "Chibwenzi chako sichili chabwino kwa iwe ...". Fotokozerani kuti mmalo mwanu mukhoza kukhala mtsikana winanso osati kuti muli nokha mndandanda wake. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe zinalili zovuta, ndi chirichonse chomwe chimawonongeka, mutsegule abwenzi anu maso kwa wokondedwa wake. Mwinamwake iye sangakumvetseni nthawi yomweyo, koma n'zotheka kuti adzakuthokozani kanthawi. Ndipo chifukwa cha tiyi, mudzangoseka ndi vutoli. Ndipotu, anthu akunena zoona kuti ubwenzi weniweni umayesedwa ndi mayesero ndi nthawi.
Ndipo chinthu chotsiriza, kumbukirani kuti anthu amaphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa. Choncho, m'tsogolomu, peŵani zochitika zoterozo ndikudzipangira nokha anyamata osuntha ndipo ndithudi osakhala anzanu apamtima apamtima. Kumbukirani, anyamata amabwera ndikupita, koma ubwenzi ndi wosatha! Musapangitse abwenzi anu pangozi, ndipo ngati mupunthwa, funsani chikhululuko. Ichi ndi chinthu chokha chomwe chingakutsutseni ndi kusungunula mtima wokhumudwitsa wa mnzanu. Bwino!