Pa mawu oti "kusakhulupirika" anthu nthawi zambiri amaganiza za chiwembu m'banja. Ndipo ngakhale kuti ndikunyoza, mabodza, mabodza a chikazi, woyambitsa zopereka nthawi zambiri amakhala munthu. Nkhanza za mwamuna ndi chiyeso chovuta kwa psyche wamkazi. Azimayi ochulukirapo akugwera mmavuto ngati amenewa, ndipo nthawi ino ndi yovuta komanso yovuta kwambiri. Mu mkhalidwe uno, mukufuna kumenyera mbale, panthawi imodzimodzi ndikulira ndi kuseka mosasamala. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina mumamvetsa kuti simungathe kukhala ndi moyo popanda munthu uyu, kuti ndinu amodzi, ndipo simungathe kuganiza kuti kukhala opanda iye, zonse zimakhala gehena. Ndipo ndi iti mwa njirayi yomwe ingakhale yankho? Kodi mungamalize bwanji kunyoza, misonzi ndi kudzimvera chisoni, pamene mukupitiriza kukhala limodzi? Kapena mupite ndi mutu wanu wokwezeka?
Funso lofunika: Kodi mungakhululukire chiwembu? Osati mkazi aliyense akhoza kuchita izi. Yankho la funsoli likudalira kuti mumakonda kukhululukira wokondedwa wanu. Ngati mwamuna wanu sali "wokondweretsa", ndipo uku kunali kusakhulupirika kolakwika, ndiye kuti mungamukhululukire. Aliyense ali ndi "machimo" ena. Ndi vuto lokha: kodi mungaiwale bwanji izi, mungadzikakamize bwanji kusiya maganizo ovutawa ndikuyamba moyo watsopano?
Kawirikawiri zoyamba za mkazi zimayambitsa chisokonezo. Palibe choipa pa izi, chingathandize kuthana ndi mavuto, koma vutoli liyenera kuganiziridwa bwino, kuti lisakhale lopanda nzeru komanso osapatsa mpata wokondedwa wanu kuti aganizire kuti ali bwino, atakupezerani m'malo mwachinyengo ".
Musalowe mkati mwanu, fufuzani chinachake choti muchite. Mukufuna kulira, kufuula? Lembani, yereni, ikani mbale, muwononge zinthu zake zingapo, koma musati muzimva ululu mwa inu nokha, patapita nthawi inayake idzabwera mwa inu ngati mawonekedwe a matenda ena. Koma yesetsani kuonetsetsa kuti mumkhalidwe wanu mulibe ana omwe alipo, komanso, ndi wolakwa.
Mtundu wamakadinali wa kubwezera ndi kubwezera, malinga ndi "ndondomeko yachitsulo". Koma kukhala wokhutira ndi makhalidwe sikungatheke, chifukwa kubwezera sikuli njira yothetsera vutoli. Kodi mwasiya pang'ono? Kutulutsa mkwiyo wonse? Yesani kudziyerekezera kuti izi sizinakuchitikire. Kulankhulana ndi wonyenga kokha pa nthawi yofunikira kwambiri, ndipo sikoyenera kupita kwinakwake kutali. Pita kugula, zogula chinthu chomwe iwe sungakwanitse kwa nthawi yaitali, koma wakhala utalota nthawi yaitali. Dzipangitse nokha kuti moyo wanu ndiwotentha. Pitani kwa abwenzi omwe sanawoneke kwa nthawi yayitali. Ganizirani pa ntchito yanu, musangodutsa, kapena mungathe kuswa. Sankhani zozizwitsa zomwe mumazikonda, mwachitsanzo: saluni yokongola, mafilimu, paulendo wokhala alendo.
Musadzimvere chisoni! Gwiritsani ntchito nokha! Yesetsani kumvetsetsa nokha: kodi munachita chiyani cholakwika, mwinamwake simunaliperekere pang'ono, ndipo munapereka nthawi yochuluka kumoyo? Kapena mwinamwake munasiya kuyang'ana nokha? Pambuyo pake, amafunikira mkazi yemwe poyamba ankakonda makutu, osati wophika komanso wosamalira nyumba. Yesani kumvetsetsa! Samalirani kwambiri mwamuna wanu. N'zotheka kuti ali ndi ubwino wambiri womwe simunathe kuzizindikira patapita nthawi, muziyang'ana ndipo nthawi zina mumamukumbutse kuti popanda iye mulibe moyo m'nyumba mwanu, popanda iye zonse zidzatha, zonse zidzasweka. Ngati mumayamikira ukwati, yesani kumvetsera kwambiri mwamuna wake. Kuzizira kwanu kwa iye tsopano kuli koopsa kuposa kale lonse, chifukwa kungatitsogolere. Mkazi yekha ndi amene wapatsidwa ndi kunyozedwa, ndipo amalemekeze mwamuna wake! Ndipo mkazi angakhoze bwanji kuyankha mokwanira ku chiwembu? Mwina ndi bwino kuchita zomwezo?
Ndi nthawi yoyang'anitsitsa mu moyo wanu ndikuyesera kuona zomwe zili mmenemo - chikondi kapena chidani? Ngati kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna kumachitika nthawi zonse m'moyo wanu, kodi ndibwino kuti mubwererenso mobwerezabwereza kuti muchite manyazi? Koma ngati ili ndilolokhalokha, ndiye kuti muyese kufufuza ubwino ndi chiopsezo. Ngati pali chikondi chochuluka, ndiye kuti mwinamwake. Ndikoyenera kufufuza mkhalidwe wonse - kukhululukira mwamuna wanu ndi kuyamba zonse kuchokera tsamba latsopano. Osati kwambiri chifukwa cha ana, koma chifukwa cha kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndi mgwirizano m'banja mwanu. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe munaliri ovuta, musamukumbutse mwamuna wanu za kuperekedwa kwake. Pambuyo payanjanano ndi iye, musamayendetse mapazi ake, komanso mumudalire. Khalani ndi khalidwe lolemekezeka, nthawi zina osati zosavuta, zochitika, kuti banja lanu lisamavutike. M'mabanja ambiri, kusakhulupirika kwachitika, kumachitika ndipo kudzachitika, ngakhalenso bwino. Tsopano inu mumamvetsa momwe mkazi angayankhire mokwanira chiwembu.
Okondedwa ndi amayi okondedwa, moyo wa banja losangalala, ubale wabwino wa chikondi ndi mwamuna wanu, kumvetsa banja lanu, moyo wautali, chikondi ndi kukondedwa, ziribe kanthu. Ganizilani zonse zomwe zimachitika m'banja lanu nthawi zambiri.