Kodi chikondi n'chiyani? Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti chikondi ndi kumwamba kopanda mtambo, palibe chokhumudwitsa ndi mwayi wosapempha chikhululuko kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake, ndiye mukulakwitsa kwambiri.
Chikondi ndi kukhululukidwa sizitha kupatukana. Koma, ngati mwamuna wanu kapena mnyamata, mwaiwala, adaiwala kuyamika amayi anu pa tsiku lakubadwa kwake, kapena sanakugulire barolo ya chokoleti, yomwe munapempha tsiku lonse, ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi. Kwa zinthu zoterozo, ndi tchimo losakhululukira.
Koma, momwe mungakhululukire kuperekedwa kwa mnyamata kapena mwamuna? Chinyengo ndi chinyengo. Mwachibadwa, pali malingaliro akuti kudalira mwa munthu uyu sikudzabweranso; kuti kuthekera kwa kubwereza mobwerezabwereza pa gawo lake sikudzatha.
Kuwongolera wina wayekha kuthetsera vutoli sikungakhale kwanzeru. Koma, kuti asunge ubalewo, ndipo, mwinamwake, iwo amatha kusintha, pambuyo pochita chiwembu - mungathe.
Kukhululukira kuperekedwa kwa mnyamata, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake chachitachi.
Ngati mnyamata wanu sali m'gulu la "March amphaka", ndiye kuti chiwonetsero chimasonyeza kuti pali mavuto mu ubalewu. Monga choncho, munthu amene amakukondani komanso amakukondani, sangakuvulazeni.
Ngati mulibe chidwi ndi mnyamata, ndi bwino kuyesa kumvetsetsa zifukwa zowonjezera, pofuna kusunga ubale.
Mufunikanso kukambirana, zomwe mungathe kumvetsa zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi mwamuna wanu. Musamuneneze, musati muwonjezere vutoli. Kumbukirani kuti vuto lake, ndithudi, liri. Koma, inunso, muli ndi mlandu pa izi, chifukwa simunamvetsetse nthawi yomwe chisokonezo chinaonekera pakati panu.
Amuna omwe achita chiwembu, koma atapeza mphamvu yakukhululukira ndi kusunga ubale, nthawi zambiri amavomereza kuti moyo wawo pamodzi wakhala wabwino kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, zimadziwika kuti mavuto ndi mavuto omwe tikukumana nawo palimodzi, kuthandizana wina ndi mzake, ali pafupi kwambiri. Kumakhululukira mnyamata yemwe akuchita chiwembu, koma, powonekeratu kuti chachiwiri chomwecho sichidzapulumuka, adayamba kukuyamikirani kwambiri ndikukonda kudalira kwanu.
Kukhululukira kugulitsidwa kwa mnyamata, kumbukirani nthawi yomwe munali osangalala kwambiri. Fufuzani chirichonse, chifukwa mumamukonda munthu uyu, nthawi zonse ankakukondani kwambiri.
Mungathe kukhululukira chiwembu, koma mudzafunikira mphamvu ndikugwira ntchito pamaganizo anu ndi maganizo anu. Pamene chinyengo chikudziwika kwa inu, chinthu choyamba chomwe mumamva ndi mkwiyo ndi chilakolako chochotsa mkwiyo wonse pa wolakwira. Koma kuti musadandaule, muyenera kudzipereka nokha kuti zisonkhezero mu moyo wanu zizigona.
Mukakhala chete ndipo mwakonzeka kuyankhulana ndi mnyamata, musamaphunzire mwatsatanetsatane za chiwembu, ngakhale mutakhala osangalatsa bwanji. "Simukudziwa, mumagona bwino."
Yesetsani kumuthandiza munthuyo kuti akuuzeni chifukwa chake wasintha iwe.
Pambuyo pa kukambirana ndi kulapa kwa mwamuna wanu, mudzakopeka ndipo musamakhulupirire mnzanuyo. Izi ndi zomveka, koma, kumbukirani kuti analapa ndikuzindikira kulakwa kwake konse. Ndipo, popeza munaganiza zomanga ndi kupanga chiyanjano chanu kuyambira pachiyambi, ndiye kuti mudziwe nokha.
Kukumbutsa nthawi zonse za kuperekedwa kwake ndi kukwiya kwanu kumadzetsa mikangano yaikulu. Zimandivuta kuiwala, koma kukhululukira kugulitsidwa kwa mnyamata, ngati, pakati pa inu, mumamva chikondi, mwina kuti muthandizane.
Nthawi ina yovuta ya maganizo yomwe mkazi amachitikira pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika ndi mavuto a kugonana. Nthawi iliyonse mukagona ndi mwamuna wanu, mukakumbukira kuti mkazi wina. Izi zingachititse kuti mutsekedwe mwa inu nokha, ndipo, omasulidwa ndi otsimikiza, adzatayika.
Koma, ayi, osati mavuto, chithandizo ndi chisamaliro cha mnzanuyo zingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto onse. Ndipo, patapita nthawi, ubale wanu, posachedwa ukuwonekera pamtunda, udzakhala wolimba ndipo udzakubweretsani inu chimwemwe ndi zosangalatsa.