Kuvulaza yemwe ali wolondola, ndi yemwe ali wodzudzula, sikungapangitse chabwino chirichonse. Inu mumakhala malo, ndipo onse awiri akhala akuimba mlandu zomwe zinachitika. Tsiku ndi tsiku mu moyo wa banja chinthu chomwecho chimachitika, kukhudzirana wina ndi mzake kumayamba kuzizira. Mkaziyo, nthawi zonse amakhala m'nyumba yosamalira ndi ana, amachoka kutali ndi mwamuna wake. Iye, osawona komanso osadzimva yekha, akuyamba kufunafuna "chinthu" pambali. Atatero, amuna amasintha onse abwino ndi oipa akazi. Zonsezi ndi za ubale wanu, chifukwa panyumba muli malo omwe sangathe kupumula.
Mwamunayo amayamba kuyang'ana yemwe amamumvetsa komanso kumuthandiza, zomwe amamverera ngati munthu weniweni. Palinso gulu lapadera la amuna, awa ndi amuna azimayi. Pamene iwe sunali wokwatirana, iwe sungakhoze kumuthandizira iye kumuwona mu thunzi ili. Koma, ngati "mutatsegula maso" kuzinthu zake, dziwani kuti simungasinthe munthu! Muukwati, iye sakhala pansi, iye mwiniwake ali wotero, ndipo kaya atenge wokondedwa pambuyo pa chiwembu - ziri kwa inu.
Koposa zonse, maubwenzi otere amathera pakulekanitsa, ndipo uwu ndiwo njira yabwino koposa kupirira, kukhala wamanjenje ndikuvutika. Ngati mwasunga kusunga ukwati, ganizirani mosamala, mungakhale bwanji ndi munthu uyu pambuyo pa chiwombankhanga? Mwinamwake izi ndi zofooka zazing'ono, mwatopa chabe, ndipo iye anaganiza kuti achite zimenezo. Zikatero, kawirikawiri, munthu amabisa kugwirizana kwake, chifukwa iwe ndi banja muli ofunika kwambiri kwa iye. Mwinamwake izi zinachitika kwa nthawi yoyamba, iye walapa ndikuyesera kusintha. Chifukwa cha ana, inunso mungathe kukhululukira, chifukwa amakula bwino m'banja lonse, koma ngati izi zimachitika nthawi zonse, kodi ndizofunikira? Sikoyenera kuwononga zonse mwakamodzi, kuganiza pamodzi momwe mungatulukemo, mungafunike kumakhala mosiyana kwa kanthawi. Koma ngati sakusamala, tsatirani molimba mtima ubalewu ndikuyamba moyo wosangalala popanda iye komanso popanda kugulitsidwa. Izi n'zosavuta kuchita, chofunika kwambiri, musamamve ngati wodwala!
Chinyengo ndi kusakhulupilira malingaliro anu, amangowadutsa. Landirani wokondedwa mnzanu wina kupandukira kapena kukhala moyo, kusangalala ndi moyo, ngakhale yekha, ziri kwa inu. Podziwa nokha zokhudzana nokha, mtsogolomu simudzalola munthu woteroyo kukhala ndi moyo wanu. Ngakhale mutasintha munthu kamodzi, mumamva kuti simukumukhulupirira, ndipo zimasokoneza moyo wanu, musapumula. Musayese kupeza kuchokera kwa iye chifukwa chake amachita izo. Zambiri zimangowonjezera kuzunzika ndikukuwonjezera maofesi.
Mukhoza kuyesa kupulumutsidwa kwa amuna, koma funso lidzauka: "Kodi mungagone bwanji ndi mwamuna wina pambuyo pa mkazi wina?" Pambuyo pokhala wokondedwa wanu mutatha kusakhulupilira, musayese kutsimikizira chirichonse pa bedi kwa iye mwanjira iliyonse! Musathamangire kukondweretsa zomwe akuwombera, angathe kutenga kachilombo ka HIV, ndipo ngati satenga kachilombo, akhoza kutenga chithandizo cha matenda aakazi. Monga lamulo, mkazi ndi mbuye wake amakhala ndi mavuto omwewo azimayi ndipo chifukwa chake-mwamuna mmodzi kwa awiri. Kukhalapo kwa "gawo lachitatu" kwa kanthaŵi sikungakupatseni mpumulo, koma ngati mutasankha kumenyana "mpaka kumapeto", lankhulani za izi ndi mwamuna wanu, koma palibe chomwe mungachite kuti musamangokhalapo. Yesani kuyamba «kukhala watsopano», kupumula pamodzi, kukonzekera maholide aing'ono a banja, kungolankhula! Moyo wothandizana si chinthu chovuta kwambiri. Kuchokera pazochitika zilizonse mungathe kupeza njira yotulukira, ngati mumakonda ndi kudzilemekeza nokha!