Pakhoza kukhala njira ziwiri momwe mungapulumutsidwire kusakhulupilira ndi kupatukana. Yoyamba, mwinamwake yovuta kwambiri. Izi ndizokhululukira ndikubwerera. Ndipo mabanja ambiri akutsata njirayi, ngakhale kuti amatsutsidwa komanso akukhumudwa. Zochitika zawo zosiyanasiyana zimabweretsa njira iyi. Iyi ndi zaka zautali (kapena osati nthawi yaitali, koma okondwa), ndi ana, nyumba yamba, yokhazikika ndi kuzindikira kuti popanda munthu uyu palibe tanthauzo liripo. Ndipo woyambitsa kubwezeretsa maubwenzi kawirikawiri ndi "phwando lamlandu", yemwe adachita chiwembu ndikukakamiza kugawanitsa. Ndipo musaganize kuti kamodzi kamodzi kathyola sikhoza kubwezeretsedwa. Koma kuti musankhe njira yotereyi, muyenera kuganizira mozama, kodi mumasowa munthu amene anakuperekani? Ndipo mukusiyana ndi iye kowawa kwambiri kwa inu? Taganizirani, pambuyo pa zonse, anthu ambiri amanena kuti kupandukira komanso kugawikana nthawi zambiri sikuwononga maubwenzi, koma kulimbikitsa! Pambuyo pake, kuti mumvetse ubwino wa munthu yemwe ali pafupi ndi inu, nthawi zina mumatha kumva kusiyana kwake!
Koma, ngati inu mukutsutsana mobwerezabwereza kubwezeretsedwa kwa maubwenzi pambuyo pa kugulitsidwa kwa theka lachiwiri ndipo mwatsimikizika motsimikizika, ndiye mudzayenera kupita njira yachiwiri ... Konzekerani kusokonezeka kwa kanthawi. Izi ndizosapeŵeka. Musangopulumuka kuperekedwa kwa wokondedwa wanu. koma palibe choyenera kuchitidwa ... Poyamba, pamene malingaliro okhumudwitsa ali pamutu mwanu, yesetsani kudzithandizira nokha. Chotsani zinthu zonse zomwe zimafanana ndi ubale wanu wolephera komanso munthu amene mudamphwanya. Yesani kuchita zimene mukufuna. Onetsetsani mafilimu omwe mumawakonda, idyani mbale zomwe mumazikonda, muzikhala ndi nthawi zambiri ndi anzanu, kuti musakhale nokha ndi kukumbukira. Kawirikawiri, chitani chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. Tsopano ndinu mfulu ndipo mungathe kudzipereka nokha nthawi yanu yonse yaulere.
Chifukwa chachiwiri - kudzipangira yekha! Yambani kusintha - kunja ndi mkati! Kwa nthawi yaitali ndinkafuna kusintha tsitsi langa? - Chitani izo! Kusintha fano kudzathandiza kusintha moyo. Kwa nthawi yayitali tifuna kuyesa kujambula (tennis? Kujambula? Mavina akumpoto?) - pitani! Yesani kutenga nthawi yanu yopanda malire. Kuyesera, ndithudi sikukhala koipa ... Kuphatikizanso, muli ndi mwayi wopita kukagwira ntchito. Pambuyo pake, kupambana pomanga ntchito yanu kumabweretsa chimwemwe chochuluka!
Anthu akawona kusakhulupirika ndi kugawidwa kwa iwo ndikofunikira kwambiri ndi malingaliro oyenera ... Ngati sizingatheke, ndipo malingaliro okhumudwa akutsatiridwa pa nthawi iliyonse, tchulani zomwe zingabweretsenso ku maganizo abwino. Munthu aliyense, malingana ndi zomwe amakhulupirira komanso khalidwe lake, ali ndi njira zosiyanasiyana. Wina angathandizidwe ndi kukambirana moona mtima ndi mnzanu amene amamulemekeza ndi kumuyamikira, ndipo ndani angakulimbikitseni kuti ndinu wokongola! Wina akhoza kuthandiza kutchalitchi. Kwa munthu amene mukusowa chitsanzo chovomerezeka, sankhani chiwerengero cha munthu wotchuka yemwe mumamumvera chisoni, ndipo werengani mbiri yake. Mwinamwake inu mudzathandizidwa ndi nkhani yokhudza momwe munthu wotchuka ndi wotchuka amachitira umbanda ndi kupatukana. Ndithudi inu mumamverera kuti izo zidzakuthandizani inu, musati muzikaniza izo, mwinamwake izo zizingowonjezereka. Njira yothetsera vutoli ndikutembenuka, ngati n'kotheka, kupita kukacheza ndi makolo anu, abwenzi, pitani mukamasuke. Ngati njira zonsezi zisanachitike, yesetsani kutchula zomwe anthu nthawi zambiri amabwera pofunafuna mayankho a mafunso awo ... Kwa mabuku! Tsopano pali mabuku, omwe analengedwa kuthandiza munthu kuthetsa mavuto a moyo. Ngati pambuyo podzidalira kugwa ndi kudzidalira kugwa, ndiye werengani buku lomwe lingakuthandizeni kubwezeretsanso ... Chinthu chachikulu - khulupirirani kuti zotsatira zomwe mukuzifuna zidzakwaniritsidwa! Zokwanira, mutsegule mbali zatsopano za moyo, yikani zolinga ndikupita kwa iwo.
Chirichonse chimene iwe uchita, chitani izo! Palibe wabwino kuposa momwe simungathandizire! Ndipo kumbukirani kuti siinu munthu woyamba amene akukumana ndi kusakhulupirika ndikupatukana, ngati ena apirira, ndiye mukhoza kuchita!