Ngati muyang'ana mbali imodzi, ndiye kuti kusakhulupirika kwafala kwambiri moti pafupifupi aliyense wa ife anakumana ndi chodabwitsa ichi, kamodzi kokha m'moyo, ndipo mobwerezabwereza - mobwerezabwereza, choncho chiwonetsero sichikuwoneka ngati chinthu chosazolowereka. Ndipo kumbali ina - nthawi iliyonse pamakhala ululu wopweteka m'maganizo, simungathe kulingalira momwe mungakhalire ndi izo ndikupanga kuti dziko likukuzungulirani likugwera zidutswa zing'onozing'ono ndipo palibe njira yothetsera chirichonse.
M'dziko lino, ndife okonzeka kuchitapo kanthu. Mudzabwezera, yesetsani kupeza mgwirizano kapena kukonza kusokoneza. Momwemonso, izi ndi zachibadwa, chifukwa munthu aliyense amafuna kuthetsa ululu wamtima mwamsanga ndikusankha momwe angakhalire.
Kawirikawiri chigamulocho chimapangitsa kuti pakhale chibwenzi, ngakhale akatswiri a maganizo akulimbikitsabe kuti asafulumire kuganiza. Nthawi inayake iyenera kudutsa dziko lisanayambe kusokonezeka maganizo, ndipo mukhoza kuyang'anitsitsa bwino zomwe zikuchitika panopa ndikupanga chisankho choyenera.
Kuchokera m'maganizo, pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimachititsa kuti anthu asinthe. Ambiri mwa iwo ndi awa:
1. Kuonekera kwa chisanu mu ubale, pamene chikondi chayamba kale, koma chizolowezicho chatsala. Pankhaniyi, ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti mupeze ubale wanu ndi mnzanuyo momasuka, lekani zonse "i" ndikuyesera kuletsa kugwirizana.
2. Kutuluka kwa mavuto mu ubale wanu. Pachifukwa ichi, chiwembu chimasonyeza kuti mnzanuyo akuchita mantha, ngati kuti chisankho chake sichinapangitse ndipo izi ndi momwe akufunira kubisala.
3. Fufuzani kumvetsetsa. Mwinamwake inu munasiya kusamalira wokondedwa wanu mokwanira ndipo anawona kuti mukufunikira kudziyesa nokha.
4. Kutuluka kwa mavuto ena mkati mwa munthu, kutsutsana, zomwe sangamvetse.
Mavuto a mkati akhoza kukhala osiyana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu sali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi, kapena ngati sangakhale ndi chidaliro mwa iye yekha, mu mphamvu yake. Pali zifukwa zambiri zowonetsera chiwembu, koma mulimonsemo, palibe chifukwa chokhazikitsira mwamsanga ubwenziwu. Ngakhale, makamaka, ndi bwino kuganizira za momwe mumamvera ndikumverera kwanu.
Tiyenera kulingalira mozama za funso: koma kodi mungathe kukhala ndi izi? Kodi iwe, podziwa za kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna wako, umaphunziranso kumudalira osati kutaya mkwiyo wake pa iye.
Kuchitira nkhanza, koposa zonse, ndi chizindikiro choti ndi nthawi yoti muwone bwino ubale wanu, yesetsani kukonza zolakwa zanu ndikupanga kusintha kwa moyo wanu wa banja kotero kuti wokondedwa wanu athandizidwe mwa iye zomwe akufuna mu ubale ndi amayi ena.
Psychoanalysts imapereka akazi omwe atha kugonjetsedwa ndi amuna awo ndipo samadziwa momwe angakhalire nawo, kuganiza choyamba mwa zomwe zilipo mwa munthu amene mwamuna wanu wakunyengererani. Ganizirani, mwinamwake mungathe kusintha nokha pang'ono?
Ngati mutatha kukambirana zomwe zilipo panopa ndi kumvetsetsa zomwe zimapangitsa mwamuna wanu kusintha, m'pofunika kusintha nthawiyi. Ambiri okwatirana omwe amachita motero amanena molimba mtima kuti ubale wawo wapambana kwambiri kuposa kale, ndipo palibe ngakhale mmodzi wa iwo amene adakumbukira kuti asinthe.
Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti ngati mwasunga kusunga ukwati pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika, ndiye kuti muteteze ubale muyenera kusintha zonsezi!
Julia Sobolevskaya , makamaka pa malowa