Koma moyo umatipatsa ife zodabwitsa zake, ndipo, tsoka, osadalira ife ndi inu. Zikuwoneka kuti anali mwamuna mwamuna aliyense maloto, pafupi ndi ife ndipo izo sizikusokoneza chimwemwe chathu. Koma panthawi ina chirichonse chinalumikizidwa mofulumira komanso mofulumira. Dziko limene tinalimbikitsana mwachikondi ndi kutetezedwa ndi dziko lakunja likusowa. Timakhala ofooka komanso osatetezeka. Chirichonse chomwe chinkakondweretsa ndi kubweretsa chisangalalo, tsopano, chikuwoneka, chiri imvi ndi chokhumudwitsa. Nanga bwanji ngati mwamunayo ataya chibwenzi?
Pamene munthu achoka kwa ife, zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti kukhazikika ndi chidaliro m'tsogolomu zapita naye. Timadzifunsa tokha mafunso omwe sitingapeze yankho. Timadzikumba tokha, kufufuza mkhalidwewo. Nchifukwa chiani ichi chinachitika? Kodi ndi chifukwa chotani chimene mwamunayo amene tinasankha mwadzidzidzi anathetsa chibwenzi?
Pakhoza kukhala mayankho ambiri kwa mafunso omwe akufunsidwa. Mwamuna wina anasiya kukonda mkazi, koma kuti azikhala mwamtundu wotere kuti sangathe kukhala wovuta kwambiri. Si anthu onse omwe angakhale oona mtima mu ubale. Ndipo sikuti munthu aliyense angathe kupeza mphamvu kuti avomereze kuti alibe maganizo. Ambiri amakonda "kutaya." Ndizophweka kwambiri. Ndipotu, kuvomereza kuti simukumvanso kanthu ndipo mukufuna kugawanitsa, kumatanthauza mosamvetsetseka kuvomereza kuti ndinu wolakwa, ndiko kuti sikulondola, ndiko kuti ndinu oipa. Izi ndizovuta kwa anthu ambiri, makamaka amuna. Choncho, abambo amasintha udindo wawo kwa amai mu chiyembekezo kuti potsiriza iwo adzamvetsa zonse iwo eni.
Chifukwa china chimene mwamuna amaletsera mwachangu chibwenzi ndi ichi: Munthu akamangokwaniritsa zomwe akufuna kwa mkazi, amakhala wosasangalatsa. Mwachibadwa amakonda kupikisana, kugonjetsa wina, kutsimikizira kuti apambana. Ndipo, ngati zonsezi zikusowa mu ubale wanu, khalani otsimikiza kuti mwamuna wanu adzataya chidwi mwamsanga ndi inu ndikupita kukafufuza chinthu chatsopano chogonjetsa. Ndipo musati mudandaule ngati mwamuna atasweka ndi inu.
Chifukwa cholekanitsa chiyanjano chingathenso kukhala mantha a maudindo mu chiyanjano. Sikuti munthu aliyense ali wokonzeka "kuumirizidwa" ndi mkazi, chifukwa simukufuna kutaya mwayi wokomana ndi ena, monga anzanu atsopano ndi njira yabwino yodziwonetsera nokha ndi ena kuti chithumwa cha munthu si malire.
Hysteria, mattimatum sizimuthandiza mwamuna kuti azikhala pafupi ndi mkazi, koma m'malo moopsya ndikupuntha mnzanuyo. Kuonjezera apo, izi zingawonekere kwa munthu kuyesa kuthetsa vutoli.
Koma, kuti musati muchitike ndi chiyanjano chanu, zilizonse zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati kusweka muukwati wanu, kumbukirani kuti ndinu nokha ndi mkazi wapadera. Musati mutseke nokha, mukukumana ndi vuto mobwerezabwereza. Nthawi zonse sitidzakhala ndi nthawi yokha. Mwinamwake ndi nthawi yoti mudzipatse chidwi chenicheni kuposa momwe timachitira tsiku ndi tsiku. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwamunayo amachepetsa chibwenzi?
Choyamba, kuphunzitsidwa kochepa tsiku ndi tsiku kudzakuthandizani kuchotsa malingaliro oipa ndikupangitsa thupi kukhala losagonjetsedwa ndi nkhawa, momwe mulili.
Chachiwiri, musadwale nkhawa, dziloleni nthawi zina kulira ndi kulira. Pambuyo pa zonse, monga akatswiri a maganizo amatsimikizira, maganizo osagwirizana nawo amakakamiza moyo wathu. Koma, mutengedwe, komanso osapindulitsa. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kuti anthu azitha kulankhulana ndi azinthu zabwino, m'malo mosiyana.
Chachitatu, musatenge maola oyenera kuti mugone. Akatswiri amalimbikitsa kugona maola 7-8 pa tsiku. Ngati mukuvutika ndi kugona, musanagone, muziyenda kapena mukamwe mkaka wa mkaka wofunda.
Chachinayi, muyenera kuphunzira kuganiza moyenera. Ganizirani za zinthu kapena zochitika zomwe zimakupatsani chisangalalo chachikulu. Tengani nthawi yanu, zofuna zanu ndi zokondweretsa. Pali kukongola kwakukulu ndi zodabwitsa mdziko.
Ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, ngati mukufuna kuiwala munthu mmodzi, pezani wina.