Pankhaniyi, pali njira zambiri zothetsera vutoli, mwachitsanzo, mmodzi wa iwo, apange buku kumbali, ndi kupeza mwachinyengo zomwe zikusowa m'banja lanu. M'nkhani ino, tikambirana ngati kuli koyenera kusintha kwa mwamuna wake.
Choyamba, zidzakhala zofunikira kukambirana zochepa zoletsa, sitidzakhudza mbali yokhudzana ndi makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino. Komanso, sitiganizira za nthawi imodzi, kusintha kosasinthasintha (pambuyo pa maphwando ochepa pa phwando kapena kupandukira kubwezera, monga n'kovuta kuwatcha iwo mwachangu), tidzakambirana chiyanjano ndi wokondedwa amene tikumuzindikira komanso osagwirizana ndi chimodzi kapena ziwiri nthawi.
Choncho, musanayankhe funsolo, kaya ndilofunika kusintha kapena ayi, m'pofunika kumvetsa chomwe chimayambitsa kusakhulupirika, monga, monga momwe zinalembedwera pamwambapa, tikulingalira osakhulupirira omwe mukupita mozindikira. Kawirikawiri, chifukwa chimene chimayendetsera chiwembu, ndizo zotsatirazi: chilakolako chokopa mitsempha yanu, kusowa kwa kugonana m'banja lanu ndi mwamuna wanu, kusowa chidwi ndi kutentha kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake. Tiyeni tiyang'ane pa zifukwa izi mwatsatanetsatane ndikuyesera kuti tiwone ngati ziyenera kusintha.
Chikhumbo chokopa mitsempha yanu.
Monga timvetsetsa, chipatso choletsedwa ndi chokoma. Ndipo pa nthawi ya kusakhulupirika, makamaka, ziribe kanthu momwe zinalinganizidwira ndi kukonzekera, nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta, palibe wina woposa. Zolankhula zonse zachinsinsi, kuyitana, misonkhano, malo obisika, ndi zina zotero, zonsezi zingathe kukhumudwitsa mitsempha yanu, ndi amayi ambiri monga awa. Osangokhalira kukondweretsa, koma komanso gawo la adrenaline, chifukwa cha kuzindikira kuti mukuchita choletsedwa, ndipo izi ndizoledzeretsa. Koma funso ndilo, kaya ndi chifukwa cha kusowa kwachisangalalo mu moyo kusintha mwamuna, mwa lingaliro langa, yankho liri lodziwika - sili loyenera. Pambuyo pake, adrenaline yomweyo ingapezedwe m'njira zina (masewero olimbitsa thupi, mwachitsanzo) ndipo simukuyenera kumunamiza mwamuna wanu ndikumusintha. Pa nthawi yomweyo sizidzatenganso, ndipo zoopsya ku banja lanu zidzakhala zochepa.
Kupanda kuyandikira kwapafupi.
Tsoka, ah, sizinthu zonse mu moyo uno ndizamuyaya, ndipo mphamvu zakuthupi za mwamuna wako, nayenso, zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni, chifukwa, monga zimadziwika, kugwirizana kwathunthu, palibe kugwirizana pabedi. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Mwina amavutika ndi kusowa kwa kugonana m'moyo wanu, kapena yesani kuzidzaza. Mu mkhalidwe uno, osakhala pafupi kwambiri, odziwa bwino, mwamuna wosakwatiwa ndi nyumba yapadera komanso yabwino kwambiri ndi yabwino. Mu chigololochi palibe kanthu koma chiyanjano chenicheni, misonkhano ingakhale yabwino kwambiri, kangapo pamwezi, kenanso. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu udzasungidwa, ndipo kusowa kwa chisokonezo kumapindula. Kotero pa chitsanzo ichi ndilololedwa kupereka mwamuna wako.
Koma apa tikuyenera kutsindika kuti mukhoza kupita ku sitepe iyi ngati simungabwerere fomu yanu yomenyana ndi mwamuna wanu, kapena mukufuna kupaleshoni yaitali (ndiye nthawi ya chithandizo, mukhoza kukhala ndi buku kumbali).
Kusakhala koyanjana ndi uzimu.
Monga tikudziwira, zonse zimachitika mmoyo, ndipo ngati mwakwatirana, mwamuna wanu anali mtsogoleri wamba ndipo akhoza kukupatsani nthawi yambiri, ndiye pamene adakwera pamsinkhu wa ntchito, zinakhala zovuta kwambiri. Ndipo pakadali pano, amayi ambiri akuyang'ana kukondana, kawirikawiri sizinthu zolakalaka kwambiri, koma zimakupatsani chikondi chimene simulandira m'banja. Nkhanza pa chifukwa ichi, mwa lingaliro langa, ndilololedwa, koma maubwenzi amenewa sayenera kukhala motalika kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, ngati kachitidwe kakang'ono ka malo osambira.
Poganizira mwachidule zonsezi, tikhoza kunena kuti nthawi zina kusintha kumaloledwa, koma musagwiritse ntchito molakwa izi.