Ngati mungathe kunena zomwe mumakonda munthu ...
Ambiri, akukamba za chikondi, nthawi zambiri amakumbukira mawu a Shakespeare akuti pamene munthu amakondadi, sangathe kufotokozera zomwe akufuna. Ndipotu, mawu awa sali olondola. M'malo mwake, munthu wokonda mwachikondi alibe mawu okwanira ofotokoza wokondedwa wake. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amatha kudziwa bwinobwino chimene chikondi chimayambitsa. Izi zingakhale zabwino, mphamvu, kudzidalira, kukhala otetezeka pafupi ndi mnyamata. Ndipo ichi ndi chikondi chenicheni. Koma chowonadi n'chakuti chikondi chotere sichitha kosatha. M'kupita kwanthawi, timamudziwa bwino munthuyo, malonda ake onse ndi minuses, chidwi chimayamba kutha. Ndipo ngati palibe kanthu pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, chikondi chimatha ndi chidwi kapena chimasandulika kumverera kwina. Chowonadi ndi chakuti munthu sangathe nthawizonse kukhala pafupi ndi munthu yemwe ali wotsutsana kwathunthu ndi zokonda ndi zofuna. Ngati poyamba mumatsutsana pazochitika zonse zimakhala zokondweretsa, ndiye pamapeto pake zimangokhala zokhumudwitsa. Anthu amasiyanitsa wina ndi mzake, chifukwa sakudziwa choti achite. Mtsikana akufuna kupita ku filimu yowopsya, koma mnyamata akusowa kanema chabe. Mnyamatayu akufuna kukhala ndi mpumulo wa chilimwe kumapiri, ndipo msungwanayo sangathe kutulutsa tchuthi kutali ndi nyanja. Vitoga, anthu amangokhalira kukangana, kapena mochulukira nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nthawi yosiyana. Amakhala ndi anzako atsopano ndipo mwina anthu ena amadziwika kuti ndi ndani amene angamvepo maganizo.
Choncho, ngati muwona kuti ndinu anthu osiyana, izi sizikutanthauza kuti palibe chikondi. Chikondi choterocho chingathe kutha kapena kusandulika kukhala kumverera kwina. Popanda zofuna zambiri, munthu akhoza kukonda m'bale, ngakhale bwenzi. Ndi mwamuna yemwe amathandiza kwambiri pa moyo wanu, simukusowa nthawi yochuluka pamodzi. Mumamukonda, chifukwa iye ndi wokondedwa. Koma ngati muli otopa, mukhoza kupita kwa anzanu ena. Mbale kapena mtsikana sangawakhumudwitse ndipo simudzakhala nawo chifukwa abale ndi abwenzi akhoza kukhala ochuluka, ndipo wokondedwa ndi amodzi. Ndipo ngati muwona zosiyana kwambiri ndi mnyamata, mwinamwake muyenera kumasulira ubale wanu mu ndege ina. Mwina mungakhale mabwenzi abwino ndipo mukhoza kukhala mabwenzi kwa zaka zambiri. Pambuyo pake, mkangano uliwonse ndi mnzanu umayambitsa zowawa zambiri. Koma mkangano ndi mnyamata - mkwiyo ndi misonzi. Choncho musaganize kuti simukukondana. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti chikondi chingakhale chosiyana ndipo, mwina, muyenera kusintha mtundu wa chiyanjano.
___Iye anachititsidwa khungu kuchokera ku chimene chinali, chabwino, ndipo icho chinali, ndiye chinagwera mu chikondi
Chinthu chinanso cha chikondi pakati pa anthu osiyana ndi chikondi mwabwino. Pankhaniyi, anthu amadziwana ndikupanga zithunzi, m'malo mowona anthu enieni. Zifukwa za khalidweli zingakhale zambiri. Mwinamwake mnyamatayo kapena msungwana akhala akuyesa nthawi yayitali ndikulephera kulankhula naye nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse kuganizira za wokondedwayo, kumupatsa makhalidwe ochuluka omwe alibe kwenikweni. Kapena amangofuna kukondweretsa anthu, kotero amakhala ndi zifukwa zina ndikufotokozera zinthu mosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe iwo ali. Pachifukwa ichi, funso lakuti kaya anthu osiyana amakondana kwenikweni zimakhala zogwirizana. Chowonadi ndi chakuti muzochitika zotere n'zovuta kulankhula za chikondi kwa munthu weniweni. M'malo mwake, chikondi ichi sichili chenicheni. Anthu nthawi zonse amadzinyenga okha, omwe amadzisangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, angamvetsetse kuti mnyamata akutsutsa maganizo ake. Ngakhale, ngakhale kuti akutsutsa, iye adanena kuti sakonda.
Chikondi chotero chingathe kukhala nthawi yaitali kwambiri. Mpaka pano, mpaka wina akuvutika kuti adzinyenge yekha. Zoona zake ndizovuta kuti anthu osiyanasiyana akhale pamodzi. Ndipo ngati amadzilola okha kuti aone zomwe zikuchitikadi, ubalewo udzatha msanga. Choncho, ngati mumadzigwira nthawi zonse kuti muli ndi mwamuna wosiyana kwambiri, ganizirani momwe mulili kwa iye. Mwina sangakhale wokoma mtima, wanzeru komanso wachibadwa monga mukufuna kuwona. Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti pangakhale katswiri wotsamba zazitsamba zochepa, zomwe iwe, mkazi wamphamvu ndi wowopsa, sizikugwirizana. Kotero, ngati mumamva mumtima mwanu kuti ndinu osiyana ndi amuna, osati mu kulawa ndi chidwi, komanso mu makhalidwe, khalidwe la moyo ndi anthu, ndi zina zotero, ndiye kuti muyenera kuganizira za munthu amene mumamukonda: munthu kapena chithunzi cholengedwa. Onetsetsani kuti mukatha kufufuza zonse ndikuwona momwe zinthu zilili, chikondi chidzadutsa ndipo kumbukirani zam'mbuyo: simungayambe kukonda ndi chifanizo chimene munapanga, chifukwa posachedwa zidzakukhumudwitsani.
Koma ndimamukonda!
Amayi ambiri amanena kuti amakonda amuna awo, ngakhale kuti alibe chofanana. Ndipo ngati ichi si chikondi cha fanolo, chomwe chinanenedwa pamwambapa, ndiye kuti malingaliro amenewa ali ndi malo oti akhale. Mukhoza kukonda munthu amene samawoneka ngati inu. Mukangogwira ntchito kwambiri, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti mugwirizane. Chikondi cha makhalidwe amtundu wina chimapereka maziko a ubale. Komatu ziyenera kuwonjezeredwa kuti muli ndi chidwi chochita china, penyani chinachake, werengani chinachake, yesetsani chinachake. Ngati sichoncho, chikondi choterocho chidzakhalabe chikondi chofanana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi pokhapokha ngati okwatiranawo ali odekha, ngakhalenso osokoneza. Ndiko kuti, pamene alibe chinthu chofala, koma chawo, nayenso. Iwo samasamala choti achite mu mfundo. Nthawi zina, mukhoza kukonda munthu mpaka misala, koma potsiriza adzayamba kukukwiyitsani ndi mphamvu yomweyo. Ponena za izi kawirikawiri amati: "Ndizoipa, kusowa kwa moyo kuli koipitsitsa." Izi zikutanthauza kuti pali malingaliro, koma kuwonjezera pa malingaliro ameneĊµa, muyenera kumanga maubwenzi anu kwambiri.
Choncho, kufotokozera mzere pansi pa zonsezi, zikhoza kunenedwa kuti anthu osiyanasiyana akhoza kukondana wina ndi mzake, ndipo ngati mutembenuza mgwirizano mu ndege ina, chikondi ichi sichikhoza kutha pambuyo pake. Pambuyo pake, ubale - uwu ndi mawonekedwe achikondi ndipo, mwinamwake, bwino, kuposa chikondi mwa mawonekedwe ake oyera pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi.