Chaka choyamba cha ukwati
Ukwati umachokera pa mfundo yakuti anthu ochokera tsopano amathera nthawi yawo yonse yaulere pamodzi - kugona, kupumula, kuchita chinachake pakhomo. Ndipo ngati chaka choyamba banja lachichepere silikusamala kwambiri za nkhani zogonana, komabe, onse, ali achinyamata, otentha, okondana wina ndi mnzake, amangochita zokondweretsa wina ndi mzake, ndiye pafupi chaka chachitatu cha moyo wawo, mantha awo amatha. Izi zimamveka, pakubwera kuzindikira kuti wophunzirayo akuphunzitsidwa, zochita zake ndi zochita zake ndizodziwika ndi zoyembekezeka, ndipo kugonana kumatha kumbuyo poyerekeza ndi nkhani za tsiku ndi tsiku. Kumapeto kwa zaka zitatu, chiwerengero cha mabanja osudzulana chimalembedwa, ndipo ngati awiriwa sanagwire chilichonse kupatula chilakolako pabedi, ndiye kuti maukwati anai asanu ndi limodzi amapereka mpumulo.
Chaka chachisanu cha ukwati
Pakutha kwa zaka zisanu zaukwati wanu, chizindikiro chabwino koposa cha nkhono yake chidzagonana. Panthawiyi, mwamunayo amachepetsedwa kwambiri ndi kusintha kwa mtundu wake. Izi ndi chikhalidwe cha amuna. Sadzawona zovala zatsopano kapena tsitsi, ndipo ambiri amakhala otanganidwa ndi chirichonse, koma osagonana ndi mkazi wake. Mwamuna m'nthawi ino akufuna chinachake kapena wina watsopano. Ndipo mkaziyo sali wokonzeka kutenga nthawi panyumba. Inde, sangapite "kusiya", chifukwa chofunika kuti chinthu china chiti chichitike. Kunja kwa nyumba, akazi akuyang'ana zatsopano, zochitika. Choncho, m'chaka chachisanu cha moyo wa banja, mwamuna akhoza kutenga zoopsa ndikukhala ndi ambuye, ndipo mkazi amatha kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi amuna omwe amamupatsa chidaliro mu kukongola kwake ndi kugonana.
Choncho, amathetsa mavuto awo. Ndipo nthawi zambiri samapindula kwambiri. Chifukwa vuto liyenera kuthetsedwa osati pabedi, koma kupitirira, pa msinkhu wamaganizo. Achipatala amatilangiza maanja pa nthawi ino ya moyo kukonzekera kukomoka, kutengeka kwatsopano. Pitani ku tchuthi kupita ku maiko ena, yesani kugonana m'malo osiyanasiyana. Chifukwa momwe kugonana kumalo komweko kumatopa ndi munthu woyenera.
Chaka cha khumi chaukwati
Pambuyo pa zaka 10 zakubadwa, anthu ambiri, monga asayansi apeza, pali kusintha kwakukulu: magawo a mfundo zolakwika zimasintha, kuchitapo kanthu pofuna kukhumudwitsa, chilakolako cha chilakolako ndi chiwerengero cha kugonana kusintha. Ndipo ponena za kusintha dziko lapansi ndi chiwerengero cha anthu onse ali chete. Choncho, nthawi ya zaka khumi muukwati iyenera kuonedwa ngati yachiwiri. Ndipo momwe mungapambane mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mwaukatswiri komanso mokoma mtima, kuchuluka kwa kugonana m'moyo kudzadalira.
Ukwati ndi zaka makumi awiri ...
Zomwe zimachitikira m'banja zaka makumi awiri ndizovuta. Monga lamulo, kugonana ndi anthu oterewa kwakhala kwa nthawi yayitali yomwe ingatchedwe dongosolo la khumi. Kusuta kwazimayi, kuchepa kwa testosterone mwa amuna, ndipo kusintha koteroko sikungakhale mpaka kugonana. Koma pali zosiyana ndi malamulo: anthu omwe amakhala ndi moyo wathanzi, osasamala za iwo eni okha, komanso za anzawo, ndipo maganizo awo ndi ofanana kwambiri, ndiye kugonana ndi mabanja oterewa kudzakhalapo.
Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti nthawi sayenera kukhala cholepheretsa kugonana m'banja lanu. Mukhoza kuphunzira nthawi zonse kuti muzitha kupusitsa nthawi ndikuyamba kukondana ndi mnzanuyo. Njira yotere yosiyana moyo wanu imalangizidwa ndi akatswiri ambiri a maganizo. Kusokonezeka kwa nthawi yochepa kumapatsa mphamvu kuti apitirizebe, kupitiliza magawo a chiyanjano.