Msungwana aliyense mu moyo anali ndi vuto limene mwamuna amamukonda, ndipo amawoneka kuti ali ndi chidwi, koma amachita zinthu zodabwitsa. Chomwe chingakhale chophweka kusiyana ndi kuyandikira, kuyamika ndi kuitanira ku tsiku. Koma ayi, anthu okhwima amafanana ndi ana a sukulu, akukoka anzanu akusukulu kuti azisamalira nkhumba. Lero ife tidzapeza chirichonse ndikuwulula chinsinsi chachikulu: momwe munthu wachikondi amakhalira. Ngati muli ndi chinachake chowonjezera pa nkhaniyi, kenaka lembani ndemanga.
Kodi amuna amasintha bwanji chikondi?
Tikamakonda, kusintha kosapeĊµeka kumachitika pa mankhwala. M'magazi, msinkhu wa adrenaline umayamba kuchoka, zomwe zimabweretsa ku thukuta kochuluka komanso kumverera kouma pakamwa. Nthawi zina munthu amakhala ndi "miyendo yamagwedezeka". Mahomoni ena, dopamine, amapereka chidziwitso chachisangalalo. Kotero, ngati nkhope ya wosankhidwayo akumwetulira mokondwera, ndiye kuti ali ndi chikondi. Serotonin wosayenerera amachititsa munthu kusinthasintha maganizo, mantha komanso mantha.
Yang'anani mosamala khalidwe la munthuyo. Zizindikiro zenizeni za kugwa m'chikondi zitha kukhala:
- Nthawi zonse amayesayesa kukonza chinthu chomwe chili ndi chithunzi chake: kuyendetsa tsitsi, kugwedeza ma motes omwe salipo, kukhumba kutsuka nsapato pamtundu uliwonse
- Zosasangalatsa, zomwe zimasonyeza mantha, mwachitsanzo, kusankha zinthu patebulo
- Wathyoledwa ndi wosasangalatsa. Ngati munthu wagwetsa bukhu kasanu pamaso panu kapena atayika khofi, ndiye kuti sakukukondani.
Kodi mwamuna wachikondi amachita bwanji ndi mtsikana?
Ngati mwamuna agwera m'chikondi, amafuna kuti adziwonetse yekha. Njira ndizosiyana, nthawi zina khalidwe la mnyamata limakhala lopusa kapena lopanda ulemu. Kodi munthu wachikondi amachita bwanji?
- Kuyesa nthawi zonse kukondweretsa inu kapena kukuchititsani kuseka. Iye amakhala moyo wa kampaniyo, amatsanulira nthabwala ndi nthabwala, pa kukambirana kwake nthawi zonse amakuponyera nkhawa ndikukuyang'ana. Kawirikawiri mutu wa zokambirana ndi wopambana pa moyo wake komanso umoyo wake. Mvetserani, ziri ngati kufuula: "Samalani, ndine wabwino, ndine woyenera iwe".
- Ngati pang'onopang'ono pulogalamuyo imangokhala maso, ndiye kuti ali ndi chikondi. Khalidwe laling'ono ndi lopanda ulemu ndilo njira ina yokopa chidwi ndikupeza chifundo. Amuna ambiri amaganiza kuti chikondi chamanyazi sichikhoza kukwaniritsa, ndipo mnyamata wamwano ndi chimene mtsikana aliyense alota. Musaseke poyesera, yesetsani masewera omwe mumapereka.
- Chiwonetsero chabwino kwambiri cha malingaliro ndi chisamaliro ndi chidwi. Mwamuna wachikondi amamvetsera mwatcheru ku chinthu chomwe amachikonda, amayamba kuchita chidwi ndi moyo wake, amayesera kugawana nawo zokondweretsa. Ndikofunika kufunsa ndipo mphunzitsiyo amadzapulumutsa, kuthetsa mavuto anu onse ndipo sadzafunanso chilichonse. Komabe, musati mugwiritse ntchito mopanda manyazi ndikupangitsa fanaku kukhala mtumiki wokhulupirika. Angathe kusintha kwa msungwana womvetsetsa, wokhoza kuzindikira kuyesayesa kwake.
- Munthu wachikondi amatha kupusa komanso kupusa. Winawake amayamba kulemba ndakatulo kapena kutumiza maluwa ambirimbiri a maluwa, wina amalemba pazomwe akudziwika kapena kutsegula mabuloni zana. Kawirikawiri chizindikiro cha kugwera m'chikondi ndi nsanje yowonongeka, zotsatira zake - kumenyana kwa dzanja ndi mtima wa mkazi wokongola. Atsikana ambiri tsopano akutsutsa kuti khalidweli limakumbukira kachitidwe kakang'ono ka makompyuta, koma pansipa aliyense akufuna kuitanidwa kuti akhale duel.
Atsikana, tcherani chidwi ndi anyamata omwe akuzungulirani, ndipo mutha kumvetsetsa mawu awo osalankhula. Sitinanene za zinsinsi zonse za khalidwe la amuna achikondi, kugawana zomwe mukuziwona mu ndemanga.