Poyamba, mwamuna ali wamphamvu mwathupi, ndipo nthawi zina amakhalidwe athu, omwe amaimira otchedwa kugonana kofooka. Choncho, malamulo a khalidwe labwino ndi kuika maudindo okwanira pa mapewa amphamvu a amuna athu. Kawirikawiri sizimangokhalira kukakamiza maziko okhazikika, komanso aife, atsikana osatetezeka. Zimakhala zovuta kuti nthawi zonse uzikhala wekha, ndikutsutsa zomwe munthu amakonda. Zonsezi ndi zina zambiri zingakhalenso chifukwa cha kutsutsa.
Ichi ndi njira yophweka, yopanda nzeru komanso yopanda nzeru pavutoli. Mwamuna amadzudzula, kutulutsa zolakwika zake kwa mnzake. Ndipo nthawi zambiri samaganizira za zotsatira za mawu ake owoneka ngati osalakwa. Mwamuna wanu akhoza kuyamba kutsutsa maonekedwe anu. Inde, ngakhale zachilendo zingamveke, nthawi zambiri atsikana amatsutsidwa ndi mnyamata wawo. Ndikuganiza kuti ichi ndi funso lofunikira kwambiri pa chitukuko cha umunthu wa msungwana komanso kumanga ubale wawo wonse. Funso loyenera: Kodi bwanji ngati mnyamata akutsutsa maonekedwe anu? Choyamba, ndikuganiza za munthu wina aliyense ndi "dzino kwa dzino," ndiko kuti, kutsutsa kutsutsa.
Zonsezi zimadzetsa kuyanjana, kumvetsetsa kwakukuru, ndipo, motero, kuwonongeka kwa maubwenzi omwe alipo kale. Atsikana, ngati amatha kusinthasintha komanso ochita zinthu mosamala, amatha kuwatsogolera. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kumvetsa ndi kuthetsa chifukwa chomwe chimachititsa mnzanuyo kukhala ndi chikhumbo chodzudzula. Ndikofunika kumvetsa chifukwa chake munthu amatsutsa? Sungani vuto ili pokha pomvetsa mnzanuyo. Ndikhoza kupereka zinthu zingapo zomwe zimayambitsa wokondedwa wanu kutsutsa. Tangoganizani kuti mnyamata wanu akadali wolondola ndipo maonekedwe anu ali kutali ndi malingaliro ake pankhani yabwino. Palibe njira ina yowonekera, kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza chisamaliro chake pa maonekedwe anu.
Zoona, njira yoyamba idzakhala yosakayikiratu, popeza tikukhala m'zaka za zana la makumi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndipo kudziyang'anira tokha kwa atsikana amakono kwasanduka mwambo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Kudzudzulidwa kwa mnyamatayo kungangolongosola kokha ndi kufooka kwa thupi. Koma palibe chomwe chiyenera kuchitika pa izi: kaya mnyamatayo amakonda komanso amavomereza zomwe iye ali, kapena ayi ... Tiye tinene kuti ndiwe wa magulu osalongosoka, ndithudi muli ndi kalembedwe kosagwirizana. Pali zotheka kuti mnyamata wanu amanyazidwe ndi kusamala kwambiri kwa munthu wanu pamsewu ndi m'malo ena. Ine ndikuganiza, apa inu mukhoza kumvetsa chifukwa chomwe pali chikhumbo chodzudzula? Mukhoza kuyesa pang'ono kusintha mawonekedwe anu, kuchotsa zambiri zamtunduwu.
Zimakhala zachilendo kwambiri pamene mnyamata akutsutsa maonekedwe anu, osadziwa kuti zifukwa zenizeni sizili chifukwa cha mawonekedwe anu, koma kuti adadzipeputsa. Tsopano ndiyesera kufotokoza. Ndikuganiza kuti si chinsinsi kuti chitetezo chabwino ndi chiwonongeko. Izi nthawi zambiri zimapezeka kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi, makamaka ngati mnyamatayu sakudzidalira yekha. Poyesa kutsutsa maonekedwe, poyamba amakukayikira luso lanu, ndipo, mwachibadwa, mawonekedwe anu akhoza kukhala abwino. Apa, ndithudi, mungathe kumufunsa mnyamatayo kuti asanyoze maonekedwe anu, akufotokozera kuti inu ndi malo anu simukuganiza choncho. Mulimonsemo, muyenera kuphunzira kukambirana ndi mnzanu, kukambilana ndi kuthetsa mavuto anu. Nthawi zamakangano zingakhale zazikulu. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, kugonana kwathunthu kuli kofunika kumenyera. Ndi zofunika, ndithudi, kuti onse awiri amayesetsa kuwasunga.
Ndipo ndikudzudzula, ndikukhulupirira, pachigawo choyambirira chiripo pakati pa mabanja onse, izi ndizofunika kwa ubale wosasokonezekabe. Patapita nthawi, kugwada, kusintha ndi kumvetsa bwino mnzanu wa wotsutsayo amatha. Sizipereka chilichonse chothandiza kuti ubale wawo ukhale wathanzi, ngakhale kuti pa nthawi yoyamba nthawi zina zingakhale zothandiza. Ndimangonena zokhazo zomwe abwenzi asanakudziwe momwe angalankhulirane, ndipo sangathe kulankhulana momveka bwino. Ndi panthawiyi kuti izi zidziwike bwino, ndipo ngati n'kotheka, chinachake chiyenera kusintha paokha kapena pachibale chake ndi mnzanuyo. Ngati anyamata amakukondani, adzakakomana nanu. Ndikutsimikiza kuti ubale uwu umapindula. Ndikukhumba aliyense mwayi, ndikuphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito mozama.