Poyamba, fufuzani kumene olamulira ankhanza abwera. Mavuto athu onse ndi zovuta zathu zimabwera kuyambira ubwana. Mwamuna akhoza kubadwa kale ndi chikhalidwe chokhwima ndi njira zomwe zimapezeka kwa mwanayo (amatsenga, ziwombankhanga) kuti apeze makolo ofooka kuti akwaniritse zokhumba zawo. Mu moyo wake wachikulire, iye, atasunga khalidwe lopanda khalidwe, adzalandira ulamuliro wake m'njira zina, akukulimbikitsani kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino kapena kuchitira nkhanza. Chinthu chachiwiri cha chitukuko mwa amuna omwe amachititsa chiopsezo, ngati amakulira m'banja losauka, sadziwa khalidwe linalake la khalidwe ndipo amachita njira yokhayo yodziwika yekha.
Kotero, ife tinapeza zifukwa, asiye iwo pa chikumbumtima cha makolo. Kodi mkazi angaphunzire bwanji kuzindikira olamulira enieni mwa amuna? Samalani osankhidwa anu. Akuyesa kukakamiza cholinga chake pa inu, amatsimikiza kuti maganizo ake ndi osalephera, amayang'anira zomwe mumagula, nthawi ndi ndani kuti mupite kukacheza, ndipo mumapanga chiyani, amangofuna kuti apite ku tchuthi, momwe angagwiritsire ntchito sabata - maganizo anu si amalingaliridwa.
Pambuyo panu muli mtundu wachikulire wa woopsa. Koma simungamuone bwanji makhalidwe amenewa? Mwinamwake munali wachikondi kwambiri, mumasankha wosankhidwa wanu, sankafuna kuzindikira zolakwika zomwe anali nazo, kapena kuti sanasinthe maganizo ake. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta pamene chizoloŵezi chofuna kuchita zinthu zosokonezeka chimawonetsedwa mwa amuna pokhapokha poyankhula ndi inu, koma pagulu ndi zabwino, aulemu komanso ololera.
Mumauza mnzanu za chiwopsezo kunyumba, ndipo akudabwa kuti: "Chabwino, iwe ndiwe wokongola, uli ndi mwayi!" Musayamikire chinyengo kuti mutha kumudziwitsanso - umunthu wake wapangidwa kale, kotero ngati mulibe masochism mu maonekedwe ake osiyana, gawani nawo. Musaganize kuti olamulira enieni okha ndiwo omwe angakuthandizeni ndi kuthandizira pamoyo wanu. Musachite mantha kuti mukhale nokha - ndinu munthu wodziimira payekha, kodi mumasowa mtsogoleri wa zochitika zanu zonse ndi mtsogoleri wa malingaliro?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo a banja amalimbikitsa njira zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kudziwa munthu woopsa mwa mwamuna: musafulumire kupita ku ofesi yolembera nthawi yomweyo, monga mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi chilakolako cha mkazi wovomerezeka. Khalani limodzi, phunzirani wina ndi mnzake. Chotsani magalasi owala mwamsanga ndipo yesetsani kufufuza bwinobwino zomwe anthu amachita. Samalani (ngati n'kotheka pang'onopang'ono) kumalo antchito: masitolo, galimoto imatsuka, okonza tsitsi.
Akufuula antchito, amawapeza mlandu pa nkhani yochepa chabe? Taganizirani izi, koma mwadzidzidzi mutha kukhala chinthu chotsatira cha nkhanza zake. Tiyeni tikambirane zochitika zina. Mutha kukhala pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri, mwamuna wanu wakwanitsa kukwezedwa muutumiki, ndipo mwadzidzidzi anayamba kumanga makwerero apanyumba, kuti akutsogolereni. Kwa amuna, nthawi zina kudzudzula kumatha, ndizotheka kuti amangosewera bwana, kulikonza mwachidule, kumufotokozera kuti simukusowa kusokoneza bwenzi lanu. Nyumba yanu ndi banja lanu ndi chipatso cha zaka zambiri za ntchito, zomwe siziyenera kuyesedwa kuti zisamayesedwe bwino.