Ngati osankhidwa anu samakhala kawirikawiri, komabe amamwa, koma kapena ayi, poyamba mwapereka chidwi pa izi. Yesetsani kuliletsa, kokha khalani osasamala, popanda zochitika zinazake. Kumbukirani, amuna samazikonda akauzidwa momwe angakhalire. Mwachidule, muzochitika izi nkofunikira kuthetsa vutoli mosamala kwambiri. Choyamba, muyenera kudziwa zomwe zimapangitsa moyo wake kapena chilengedwe kukhalapo. Ndipo kotero, tiyeni tibwerere ku psychological yaumunthu yovuta ndi kupeza: ngati munthu amamwa pang'ono, zifukwa za chodabwitsa ichi?
Monga mukudziwira, moyo wamphongo ndi nkhalango yamdima, ndipo kwa ife akazi, sizingatheke kuti timvetse chifukwa chake amachitira izi. Koma, monga mukudziwa, chilichonse chiri ndi chifukwa chake chapadera. Zingakhale zonse mkati ndi kumayendayenda pamoyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwamuna sangangokhalira kukhutira ndi ntchito yake, udindo wake, udindo wake. Dziwani, amuna ndi ovuta kwambiri kupirira zoopsya za moyo ndi chisokonezo mu izi kapena gawo la moyo kapena maubwenzi. Chifukwa cha izi, m'malo momasuka ndi kuyankhula, amasiya tet-a-tet mowa ndi mavuto awo. Amatopa ndi ntchito yomweyo, mwamakhalidwe komanso mwathupi kapena sangathe kumasuka, ndi galasi la mowa, ingomuthandizani pa izi. Komanso, nthawi zambiri, amuna amamwa mowa, ndi chifukwa cha ife, akazi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati iye akufooka kuposa inu, ndiye pa nkhani iyi, kumwa mowa, amadzimvera yekha kuti amatsimikizira ngati munthu. Ndipotu kumwa mowa kumapatsa mwamuna kukhala wolimba mtima komanso kudzidalira. Komanso, mowa, amapereka chilimbikitso osati kwa azimayi okha, komanso ku mbali yathu yotchedwa halves. Atatenga, ndikuwotcha madontho angapo, mwachindunji kuti ndikhale wolimba mtima, mnyamata angamuuze mtsikana kuti sakonda ndi zomwe angafune kuyembekezera. Chothandizira china chofunika ndi chakuti munthu sangakhutire ndi moyo wa banja lake. Nthawi zonse kubwezeretsa ndi kukhumudwa, kudzudzulidwa ndi kusakhutitsidwa, posakhalitsa kapena kumapeto kwake kumangogwedeza iye kuchokera ku chizoloŵezi chokhala ndi moyo wamtendere ndi woyezera. Apa, cholakwa chodziwika kwambiri chimabwera kuchokera kwa mkazi mwiniwake, yemwe, chifukwa cha kukakamizidwa kwa mwamuna wake kapena chibwenzi chake, amamupangitsa iye, ndi kupsinjika mwakhama pambali yake, kuzimitsa zonse mu galasi la "mankhwala" amphamvu. Mwa njira, ndizo mavuto m'moyo wake omwe ndi chifukwa chofunikira kwambiri cha chiyanjano cha munthuyo kuti amayamba kumwa. Pano tikhoza kukhala mosamala ndikuphatikizapo kugonana. Pamene, iye, sadziwa kuti ali ndi mphamvu yamuna kapena amakhulupirira kuti kugonana popanda mabotolo akale omwe amamwa kale sizomwe mukufunikira. Pano, momveka bwino, zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chakuti mowa, mnyamata amangovutika ndi manyazi kapena zinazake zamkati. Izi sizikukhudza kokha moyo wapamtima. Pambuyo pa madontho pang'ono a mowa, amaphunzitsa zovuta zonse, amayamba kukhala womasuka, womasuka komanso wokondweretsa. Kumbukirani zovuta za anthu - izi ndizo vuto lawo laumunthu, ndipo kugonana kolimba kumayesetsa kulimbana ndi njira zonse. Komabe, sikunatulukidwe, mfundo yosatsutsika yakuti wosankhidwa wanu akungotenthedwa ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku, mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku ndi zina zotero kapena amangomva kukhala wosungulumwa komanso wopanda pake. Ndipo pamene iye anapita ku barolo madzulo, iye, mophweka, mwa njira yotere, amachoka pa chirichonse chimene iye angakhoze kunena chiri chokwanira. Zotsatira zake zikhoza kukhala kuti alibe zokondweretsa ndi ntchito zomwe, zomwe, angathe, mwachindunji, kusamalira izi ndikudzipatula yekha.
Musaiwale kuti mwanjira iyi, munthu akhoza kumenyana ndi malingaliro ake osakondweretsa ndi kukhumudwa kwa moyo, zolemetsa ndi machitidwe osiyanasiyana amdziko la mkati. Kapena chifukwa chachikulu cha chirichonse ndi chilengedwe chake, anzake komanso anzake. Ponena za abwenzi, ndizocheza ndi anzanu - apa ndi pamene kukana kumwa mowa ndi chinthu choipa kwa wina aliyense, ngakhale mwamunayo osamwa mowa kapena chibwenzi. Koma, ndithudi, ngati muyang'ana vuto ili kuchokera ku chithandizo cha mankhwala, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuti mutembenukire kumalo ake-pambuyo pake, chilakolako cha galasi lathunthu sichikhoza kukhala koma majini oipa.
Ndipo kufotokozera mndondomeko waukulu pansi pa zonsezi, ndizoyenera kuzizindikira: chifukwa chiyendetseni nokha ku lingaliro lakuti wosankhidwa wanu amamwa pang'ono. Iye samalowa sabata iliyonse, kapena ngakhale mabing'i amwezi uliwonse, samamwa mowa kwambiri tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiko kuti, pa chiwindi choyera. Ngati munthu amamwa pang'ono - zifukwa izi zingakhale zopanda phindu, choncho musafulumire kuganiza ndipo musamuikire chidakwa. Kumutcha chidakwa kungakhale mawu osayenera. Inde, ngati muli wathanzi wathunthu wa moyo wosaganizira bwino ndipo musamwe mowa wokhala ndi mowa pang'ono, ndiye kambiranani ndi mtima wanu wosankha. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuchita popanda kunyozedwa ndi amatsenga. Muuzeni momveka bwino kuti izo sizikugwirizana ndi inu, ndipo mukufuna kuti asiye kumwa mowa. Ngati munthu akukonda ndikukuyamikani, adzamvetsera maganizo anu.