Mkazi wachikondi amatsimikiza kuti maganizo ake sadzatha. Kuti iye alidi pachikondi kwenikweni ndi munthu wokongola kwambiri.
Koma, zomvetsa chisoni monga momwe zingakhalire, chikondi sichikhoza kukhala kwamuyaya. Chikondi chachikazi chimakhalanso ndi masiku osiyana.
Kodi chikondi cha akazi ndi chotani? Chikondi chikhoza kukhala chikondi chenicheni. Izi zimachitika pamene anthu awiri achikondi amamvetserana kwambiri ndipo amakhala osagwirizana kwambiri. Koma, monga lamulo, kugwa m'chikondi kumathera ndi kuthera kwathunthu kwa malingaliro onse okongola.
Asayansi asonyeza kuti nthawi yonse ya chikondi ndi pafupifupi zaka ziwiri. Pazimenezi, chikondi cha munthuyo chimapita mofulumira. Akazi ali m'chikondi ndipo amamva kumverera kwa nthawi yaitali.
Chikondi chachikazi ndi nthawi yake chimadalira maonekedwe osiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, ngati msungwana ali pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna sangathe kukwaniritsa, mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wokwatira. Kuti malingaliro ake amatha nthawi yayitali kwambiri, mpaka magalasi obiriwira akugwera pansi, ndipo salowerera muzowona, kapena mpaka chikondi chake chimakhala ndi kumverera kwadalira mwamuna uyu.
Chikondi chachikazi sichikuyesa kusanthula ndi kuyesera. Munthu akhoza kudalira ndime imodzi yokha: "Cholengedwa chodabwitsa kwambiri cha Mulungu ndi mkazi". Izi zikutsatila kuti chikondi chathu ndi nthawi yake ndizosamvetsetseka. Msungwana amatha kukondana tsiku lonse, atadzuka m'mawa ndikuganiza kuti malingaliro ake amangomulota. Ndipo, akhoza kukhala ndikumverera kokondana ndi moyo wonse. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika pamene chinthu chopembedzedwa sichipezeka kwa mtsikanayo. Iye ali mu chikondi ndi chithunzi chomwe iye anapanga.
Chikondi chachikazi chikadutsa. Ndipo zimachitika ngati kuti mwalumphira pamutu ndipo, kwa inu, mutha kuyang'ana dziko lapansi ndi munthu wanu ndi maso enieni obwereranso. Inu mwamsanga mukuyamba kuona zolephera zonse za munthu wanu, nthawizina, mumayamba kumuda ndi mtima wanu wonse ndi moyo wanu wonse. Ndipo ndani ali wolakwa pa izi? Zolakwa zonse ziri pa msungwana chabe. M'kupita kwanthaŵi, sindinachotse magalasi obiriwira, ndipo tsopano ndikuyenera kuganiza ndikusankha momwe ndingakhalire. Izi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pa nthawi yomwe msungwana yemwe ali pachikondi amakwatira ndipo amabereka mwana kuchokera kwa munthu amene samukonda kwenikweni.
Chikondi chodutsa chimabweretsa chisoni. Okonda, pamene anthu ali mwa wina ndi mnzake, amadana.
Ngati pakali pano mukondana, musaganize kuti posakhalitsa maganizo anu adzatha ngati nyumba yamchenga. Mwina, muli ndi mwayi wokomana ndi chikondi chenicheni. Chikondi chimapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino, simuyenera kudziletsa nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu pasadakhale.
Kodi chikondi cha akazi ndi chotani? Palibe yemwe angamupatse iye mawu enieni. Chikondi ndi masewera a chinyengo, pamene simukukonda munthu weniweni, koma chithunzi chomwe chasintha mu malingaliro anu. Pamene mphindi ikubwera yomwe maso anu adzatseguka, ndipo mutayang'ana munthu wanu ndikumulowetsa kuti ali ndani, palibe amene angakuuzeni. Koma, musataye mtima ndipo musajambula zithunzi za tsogolo loopsa. Ndimabwereza, zikhoza kuchitika poyang'ana munthu yemwe alibe chikhomo cha chikondi m'maso mwake, mudzamukonda mwanjira imeneyo. Chimene chiri chenicheni.