Kupempha kwa okondedwa kapena momwe mungapezere theka lachiwiri?

Tikamvetsetsa funsoli: "Ndipo mukupempha chiyani kwa wokondedwayo?", Nthawi yomweyo timayerekezera munthu wokongola amene akuthamangira kwa kavalo woyera, amamugwira m'chiuno ndikumufikitsa kutali ndi nyumba yake yokongola ... nyimbo. Mu moyo, chirichonse chiri chosiyana kwambiri, ndipo akalonga samapezeka kawirikawiri, makamaka akalonga aufulu. Atsikana onse, monga amuna, amafuna kupeza miyoyo yawo. Nthawi zina zimatenga zaka, ndipo nthawi zina maminiti angapo. Ola lililonse pozungulira ife pali chiwerengero chachikulu cha anthu, omwe angakhale okondedwa, omwe nthawi zambiri sitimadziŵa pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Ndiye kodi tikupempha chiyani kwa okondedwa kapena momwe tingapezere theka lachiwiri? Pezani munthu wokwatirana naye, yemwe ndimamufuna kukhala moyo wanga wonse si kosavuta, koma ndikufuna kuti munthu amene atikonda atikhala pafupi ndi ife, wokonzeka kuthandizira ndi kuthandizira. Kodi mungamupeze bwanji? Anthu ena amatha kuchita izo popanda khama, mwinamwake okha. Mwachitsanzo, iwo anakulira palimodzi, kupanga mabwenzi, kuphunzira, ndipo potsiriza anayamba kukhala ogwirizana ndipo anakhala banja limodzi lochezeka.

Ndipo ena amathera miyoyo yawo yonse kufunafuna bwenzi lomanga nalo banja ... Nthawi zina amazipeza mofulumira, ndipo nthawi zina amasintha anzawo monga magolovesi. Ndipo ena onse, osayesetsa, amakhala pakhomo pakhomo ndikudikirira kuti nyengo ibwere kuchokera kunyanja. Ndipo pali zovuta zedi zomwe zimagwira ntchito ku ntchito zawo ndipo zimathamanga mofulumira. Ndipo panthawi yomweyo amakhutira ndi chilichonse, ndipo safuna kusintha chilichonse. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti munthu yekha ndi amene amacheza naye, amakhala wodekha komanso wokondana polankhulana, pokhapokha ngati ali ndi moyo wokhazikika. Pano mungakumbukire zochitika ziwiri za moyo zomwe zinachitikadi. Kumeneko kunakhalapo yekha mtsikana wabwino kwambiri ndi wokondweretsa. Koma sindinadzipeze ndekha. Chaka chomwe chatha kale kukafunafuna bwenzi lomanga nalo banja, ndipo mudapeza macheza amodzi a m'deralo. O, ndi angati omwe anali osiyana ndi osiyana ... Sindikufuna kukumbukira, koma tsiku lina anayamba kukambirana ndi mnyamata mmodzi. Ndipo pa nthawi imeneyo anali kale chaka chake choyamba ku yunivesite. Tangoganizani kudabwa kwake pamene mnyamata uyu adachokera ku sukulu, kuchokera ku kalasi yofanana.

Kuganiza, iwo adaphunzira pamodzi kwa zaka 11, ndipo adawona kokha pambuyo pa 13. Koma iwo analidi mizimu iwiri, kumvetsetsana wina ndi mzake ndi theka-mawu. Kuchokera pazimenezi zikuwonetseratu kuti mtsikana wadzipangira yekha zopempha zake kwa wosankhidwayo. Ndipo ine ndinazipeza izo. Kotero msungwana aliyense ayenera kudziwa kwenikweni mtundu wa mnyamata yemwe akufuna kumuwona. Simukusowa kuyang'ana maso, sikuti nthawi zonse munthu amene ali wokonzeka kukhala nanu mpaka ukalamba. Msungwana uyu adapeza munthu wamba mwachiwonekere, koma akusamba komanso ali ndi khalidwe, sadziŵika bwino ndipo amakondana kwambiri. Ichi ndi chitsanzo cha kuti simusowa kuyang'ana zabwino kuchokera kunja, kuyang'ana mkati mwa munthu. Tanena kale za anthu omwe amakonzedwa kuntchito. Ndipo pali zitsanzo zambiri. Mtsikana wina wokongola, koma wodzichepetsa amakhala ndi makolo ake. Iye ankagwira ntchito mwakhama, koma ndi mnyamata yekhayo amene sanalipo.

Atakhala pakhomo, sanapite ku discos ndi kumachita nawo maphwando. Koma tsiku lina adaganiza zopita kukachezera. Anamuitanira ku msonkhano umodzi, kumene anakumana ndi munthu wokondweretsa. Iye anali wamkulu kuposa iye kwa zaka zisanu, koma chinachake chinawakopa iwo kwa wina ndi mzake. Ndi kovuta kunena chomwecho, koma chinali ntchentche. Ndipo ndithudi sanawonekere, ndipo patapita ola limodzi, kale zinali zovuta kuti azikhala popanda wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo zochitika zoterozo nthawi zambiri. Onse ndi osiyana ndipo sitingadziwe kumene tidzakumana ndi mnyamata kapena mtsikana wa maloto athu, koma chofunikira kwambiri, sitiyenera kusiya. Zopempha kwa okondedwa zimatha mwamsanga, ngati munakumana ndi maso ndi mnyamata kapena mtsikana, wopanda yemwe kapena moyo wanu unali wofiira ndi wosasangalatsa. Mukhoza kuyang'ana munthu wolemera, koma mudzapeza munthu wophweka amene amatenga ndalama 400 pamwezi, koma adzakunyamula m'manja mwake. Kapena mungakumane ndi munthu wamalonda, koma amatha maola angapo ndi inu kuti mugone ... Kodi mungasankhe chiyani? Mukuchita chiyani? Kaya mumasankha zopempha zanu kapena chikondi chenicheni: kodi ndi funsoli?