Chiphunzitso cha magawo a chikondi
Kodi mumakumbukira momwe maondo anu amathamangira musanafike tsiku lililonse, ndi moto wotani umene unapangitsa kugonana kosayembekezereka komanso kuyembekezera kwa nthawi yaitali, monga momwe angafune kuti asachoke kwa mnzanu kwa mphindi imodzi, koma kuti atseke dzanja lake patsiku? Inde, inde, kumayambiriro kapena mochedwa kulira kwa malingaliro onsewa kumatha, koma osati chifukwa chikondi chadutsa ndipo sichinachepe, mwangomaliza kumapeto kwa gawo loyamba. Iyi inali gawo "symbiosis".
Gawo lotsatira, lomwe ndilo limodzi mwazidziwikiratu zokhuza tsogolo la chiyanjano chanu - ichi ndi gawo la kusokoneza. Amuna amalekanitsa pang'ono, kubwezeretsa ubale wawo wakale ndi abwenzi kapena kuchita zomwe amakonda. Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti anali ndi moyo wake pamaso panu, monga anzanu anali ndi inu. Ndipo sayenera kutaya moyo wake wonse, chifukwa simungathe kukhala malo amtundu wa amuna (ngakhale mutaphunzira zonse zokhudza mpira). Leash, yomwe kale simunayimire pamutu, sayenera kukhala yayifupi - kotero kuti simungakwanitse. Akazi, makamaka, amachita chinthu chomwecho, ndi njira zina chabe - amayamba kukangana ndi mwana wachinyamata kapena kumuchotsa m'thupi, zomwe zimakana kugonana.
Kenaka imayambitsa nkhondo yeniyeni yothetsera mphamvu m'banja (ndipo mwangozi, kukhazikitsidwa kwa malamulo ndi malire). Chikhalidwe chachikulu cha gawoli ndi chikhumbo cha okwatirana awiri kuti azidzilamulira komanso kupanga malo awoawo. Mwamwayi, panthawiyi, mabanja ena amabwera pa chisankho kuti ndi nthawi yomaliza chiyanjano. Ena amakhala pamodzi, koma sasiya kuganiza kuti nthawi iliyonse ali okonzeka kuswa izi, nthawiyi siingabwere, koma amakhala ndi kuyamba , kusonkhanitsidwa mosamala ndi chikumbumtima, sichimasangalatsa. Chachitatu iwo amalingalira kamodzi wokondedwa monga wokondana, yemwe ayenera kuti apambane, atatsimikizira ulamuliro wake ndi kukhazikitsa ulamuliro wake.
Chiyanjano ndi mtunda, kudalira ndi kudzilamulira, ubwenzi ndi mantha, kuthekera kwa kusakhulupirika ndi malingaliro ogwirizana nawo: nsanje ndi manyazi - zonsezi zimagwirizana ndi chilengedwe. Ziribe kanthu momwe ife tinali osiyana, monga lamulo, maubwenzi onse amayenda njira imodzi yokonzedweratu. Ndipo magawo onsewa ndi ofunikira kuti abwenzi azikwaniritsa mgwirizano wotsatira.
Chochita: vuto liri kwa aliyense - musaope kulira ndi kukangana. Maganizo, muyeso, ndi abwino. Chinthu chachikulu, kumbukirani kuti kulira kumangomveka, komabe palibe njira yowonetsera maganizo oipa okhudza mnzanuyo. Musagwiritse ntchito mawu omveka bwino, yesetsani kuchita popanda mutualobeds ndipo musayerekeze kunena kuti "simukundikonda, popeza mumadzikonda nokha", musawopsyeze kuti mutuluke ndipo musaperekeke. Zomwe zanenedwa m'mitima, zimatha kukutsutsani. Mikangano ndi mikangano - izi ndi zachilendo! Spore pa thanzi.
Mzimayi, mayi ndi mkazi wa Africa
Kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, mwamuna ndi mkazi akuphuka, chifukwa amamva kuti amafunidwa ndi okondedwa. Izi sizodabwitsa, chifukwa kulumikizana ndi theka lachiwiri, amalandira mayamiko, monga chitsimikizo cha chikazi chawo kapena chikhalidwe chawo. Ndipo chidwi chanu chimakula sichidziwika ndi wokondedwa, komanso ndi omwe akuzungulirawo, kudzidalira kumakulira mumalumpha ndi malire. Koma nthawi yamakono yosangalatsa kwa wokondedwayo ikucheperapo, chilakolakocho chimasokoneza pang'onopang'ono - pamapeto pake, chimapita ku kudzidalira. Panthawi imeneyi, atsikana ayenera kukhala olimba. Musadzipempherere nokha. Kumbukirani kuti kuvomereza kukongola kwanu kuyenera kuyenera, osati kubwezeretsedwa.
Zomwe mungachite: musasiye kugonana kwanu ndi kukongola kokha kwa wokondedwayo. Dzilimbikitseni kugwiritsa ntchito chilengedwe chimene chakupatsani. Palibe amene amakunyengerera mitala, koma kuwonetserana pang'ono (kupsinjika pamtima "mawu osavuta"), kuwombera ndi maso, kuvala zomwe zimatsindika za kugonana kwanu, ziyenera kukhalapo m'moyo wanu. Kupita kwa anthu, onetsani kuti mudakali masewerawo, koma nthawi yomweyi gulu lanu liri kale ndi mnzanu. Akumbutseni wokondedwa wanu kuti ndinu akadali mkazi, ngakhale mutakhala nawo, komabe mukufanana ndi amuna ena. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti chikhale choposa.
Timaika patsogolo: poyamba, "I", ndiye "Ife"
Ngati mukudziganizira nokha ngati theka la lonse, wotchedwa "Ife", ndiye mu mgwirizano umenewu, gawoli likudalira. Pamene mumaganiza kuti mulibe moyo popanda mnzako, mukakhala ndi nsanje kwambiri, theka lanu lachiwiri limakhala lolimba kuti amangidwa ndi zingwe zolimba ndipo amafuna kutuluka "ndende" ya kunyumba (ndipo nthawi zina maloto onse sali ochepa). Chilichonse chikhoza kukhala ndi kusokoneza mosiyana - mnzanuyo popanda inu sangathe kutenga sitepe, kotero kuti nthawi zonse mukumva kuti muli pamphindi pang'ono.
Zimene mungachite: palibe choipa muyeso "Ine" + "Ine" = "Ife". Izi ndi zosiyanitsa ndi chiganizo cha masamu mu chitsanzo chanu kuchokera ku chilolezo cha malo a mawu, zambiri zingasinthe, komanso kuti zikhale bwino. Ndikhulupirire, mawu akuti "chirichonse chiyenera kuganizidwa ndi munthu" sangathe kutengedwa mwanjira yeniyeni, monga mawu akuti "Ndichita nawo zonse ndekha." "Ife" timamvetsetsa pokhapokha ngati ali anthu awiri, osati mmodzi yemwe akufotokoza maganizo, ndi wina amene amavomereza naye.
Ndizodabwitsa kuti inu ndi mnzanu mwakhazikitsa maubwenzi awo kuti asakhale okonda komanso abwenzi, koma nthawi ndi nthawi muyenera kuthana ndi "ife" ndikupeza chithandizo kumbali, ndiye kuti mumalankhulana .
Mwamuna wanu sali wamisala
Pali maganizo a mkazi wotero "Ngati amandikonda ndiye kuti amandidziwa bwino kuti ndidziwe zomwe ndikufunikira." Zimadziwika kumene mapazi a mau awa amachokera, ndipo kuchokera pamene "vanila" yonse imachokerako - mafilimu achikondi. Atsikana, kumbukirani, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu alibe nzeru zowonjezera, samadziwa kuwerenga maganizo, koma zimakhala zovuta kumvetsa, nthawi zina ngakhale kwa inu nokha, osati ngati amuna anu. Chovuta kwambiri ndi vuto la kusamvetsetsana mu moyo wa kugonana kwa abwenzi. Pamene, kuopa kukhumudwitsa amayi awo samanena kuti chinachake chikuchitika osati momwe iwo akanafunira. Chifukwa chokhala chete, zotsatira zake zimakhala kuti akazi amayamba "kupweteka mutu", ndipo amuna "amatopa kuntchito". Chifukwa chake, gawo lapamtima la chiyanjano lawonongeka.
Zimene mungachite: N'zosavuta kulankhula pano. Koma kuti musalankhule za zomwe simukuzikonda, koma zomwe mukufuna. Perekani zosankha zanu, mvetserani zomwe mnzanuyo akunena. Mmodzi wa inu akangoyamba kutseguka ndipo wachiwiri adzathandizanso mtundu womwewo. Chifukwa chiyani sitiyenera kuyamba poyamba? Mulimonsemo musati mutembenuzire zokambiranazi kukhala ndemanga ya zomwe akunenazo, lolani kuti zizichitika osati mwa "Bukhu la Makolo", koma muzolemba "Malingaliro ndi zokhumba".
Ikani mzere mu ngodya
Pambuyo pofufuza kukangana komwe kuli ndi mwamuna wanu, muwona kuti onse akukula mogwirizana ndi zomwezo. Pamene anthu okwatirana amanyansidwa, machitidwe a okwatirana ali ofanana. Nthawi zambiri, kuyamba, mwachitsanzo, ndi mbale zosasamba, mu njirayi ndi njira zoletsedwa, monga: "Mukukumbukira chilimwe chilimwe ...". Inu mumayamba kulemba zolakwa za mnzanuyo, zomwe zakhala zifukwa zotsutsana, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti vutoli linali litakonzedwa kale, koma ayi, munabwereranso. Palibe wina yemwe angayese "mawu" monga wokondedwa, ndi onse chifukwa amadziwa kugunda. Kupititsa patsogolo kwa mkangano koteroko sikungathekeke - ndife "kuphwanya", ndikudzikwiyira nokha kuti tadzilola tokha pakusokonezeka.
Zomwe mungachite: mobwerezabwereza, kukangana ndi chabe chifukwa chokopa chidwi cha mnzanu, njira yokwaniritsira chikondi chake. Mu mkhalidwe uno, muyenera kutembenukira ku filosofi ya kummawa, yomwe imati nkhondo yabwino ndi yomwe sinayambe. Kumbukirani kuti pakamakangana, wamphamvuyo siyo amene akufuula, koma amene adatha kukhala chete. Pewani zochitika zomwe zimachitika nthawi zonse - musamenyane. Musayesere kutsimikizira kuti ndinu woyenera pa nthawi yomwe zanenedwa kale zambiri, chifukwa mawu anu atayika pamtendere. Mvetserani zomwe munthu wanu akufuna kukuuzani, ndiye kuti mumumvere iye kuti amvereni.
Malingaliro kutali, kutembenuzira malingaliro
Tsoka kuchokera ku Wit. Timakonda kufufuza nthawi zonse ndikuganiza za izi mwazinthu zina - kudziwombera tokha. Izi ndi zabwino, koma pokhapokha ngati nkhaniyo ikupita kumoyo waumwini. Pachifukwa chimodzi, palibe cholakwika ndi mfundo yakuti m'moyo wanu zinthu zonse zimakhala zokonzeka bwino ndipo zimayikidwa pa masamulo, koma pambali, ndikuiwala kusinthana ndi maganizo, pamene mukukhala ngati makina.
Chochita: kulingalira mwalingaliro kukhoza kupha chikondi chonse mu chiyanjano, choncho nthawi zina, pamene mfundo zomvekazo zikukankhira ku yankho linalake, imani. Pumirani mwakuya, lolani maganizo anu akhale omasuka, lolani ubongo ukhale wosangalala. Ndipo tsopano ganizirani kachiwiri, ndi thupi lina - mtima. Ngati "chikondi" chanu, "kuyamikira", "kumvetsa" chikhoza kuthetsa zifukwa zonse zomveka, ndiye ichi ndi chokha choyenera.
Izi ndizo kusankha kwanu ndipo mudzakhala nawo
Nthawi zina, mukakumana ndi zovuta za banja, mumayang'ana mnzanu ndikuganiza kuti: "Ndipo maso anga ndasankha liti pamene ndasankha." Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe zinthu zonse zodabwitsa komanso zowala kwambiri zomwe zinkakhala pakati panu zimakhala zowonongeka. Nthawi zambiri, amzanga amayamba kuwonjezera moto, kubwereza mawu amodzi "pamene tanena."
Zomwe mungachite: maganizo anu akhale mu "makina nthawi" ndipo mubwerere panthawi yomwe mudakondana ndi munthu amene tsopano akuseketsa pamene akugona pabedi. Kumbukirani, kuposa momwe iye amachitira. Sungani malingaliro awa ndikubwezerani nawo tsopano!