Moyo wa banja umakhala ndi phwando lonse la zochitika: apa ndi mgwirizano ukukwera kugwira ntchito, ndi madyerero a madzulo madzulo, ndi mikangano yaying'ono chifukwa cha masokosi omwe amwazikana pamalo olakwika. Koma zokondweretsa zonsezi zimangokhala m'banja lachikhalidwe, zomwe sitinganene za zochitika ngati banja la alendo, momwe sizingatheke kupanga zochitika zoterezo.
Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti popanda tsatanetsatane wafotokozedwa pamwambapa, banja silingathe kukhalapo, choncho banja lachilendo silimatchedwa kuti chenicheni. Anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi chotero, komanso omwe akuyesera kukana choonadi, kunena kuti banja loyenda bwino ndilo ntchito yaikulu, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mungapewe chizoloŵezi, ndikusiya holide yopanda malire m'moyo wanu.
Okwatirana omwe amavomereza poyera kuti ali mu banja lachilendo ali otsimikiza kuti pali malo ogwiritsidwa ntchito mosamalitsa, omwe ndi ofesi, ndipo aliyense ayenera kusangalala, osasandulika kukhala chizoloŵezi ndipo makamaka ngati ntchito. Izi zikugwiranso ntchito pa kugonana, chifukwa chikondi ndi chofunika kokha pamene moyo ukukhumba, osati chifukwa cha kugonana. Kusamalira wothandizana naye kuyenera kubweretsa chisangalalo komanso kusawerama kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi kotero kuti ukalamba zinkasokoneza madzulo.
Miyambo ndi chinthu cholimba
Ndizodabwitsa kumva kuchokera kwa otsutsa a banja lachikhalidwe kuti palibe amene adzamwetsa kwa anthu omwe akukhala m'banja lachilendo atakalamba, omwe ali ndi madzi ambiri. Nanga bwanji ngati simusowa galasi?
Kutsutsana kwotsatira, kumveka pochirikiza miyambo, ndikofunikira kubereka ndikulerera ana omwe sangakhale ovuta kufotokoza chifukwa chake amayi ndi abambo samakhala pamodzi nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zina amachezera bwenzi. Ndipo ndani wakuuzani kuti izi ndi zoona? Inde, m'dziko lathu akazi ambiri amakhala ndi amuna osakondedwa chifukwa chakuti ana ayenera kukhala ndi aliyense, momwe makolo onsewo amadziwika.
Otsatira ambiri a maukwati a chikhalidwe, omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala amuna, amakhulupirira kuti mgwirizano wa alendo sungatchedwa banja. Inde, ndizopindulitsa kuti munthu abwere kamodzi pa sabata kwa yemwe amatchedwa mwamuna wake, athandizidwe ndi kugonana ndi chisangalalo chogonana, mkazi samasuka kuti asatenge banja, samphika nthawi zonse ndikudikirira mwamuna wake kuntchito. Koma ngati mwamuna asankha kukwatira, ayenera kukhala wokonzeka kuzipereka zake zonse.
Pali lingaliro lakuti m'mabanja okhala ndi chikhalidwe, chidziwitso cha kudzipereka chimapachikidwa, ndipo anthu akukwatirana kuti akhale ndi wina amene amakalamba ndi kufa tsiku limodzi. Monga ngati chikwati ndi chitsimikiziro cha kuti mu ukalamba udzakhala ndi gawo lopindulitsa, chidaliro ndi chikondi, zomwe ife tinayenera mu ubwana wathu. Zikuoneka kuti mutakhala ndi ukalamba, mungadalire mzanu. Nanga bwanji anthu ena onse, mwachitsanzo, ana, achibale?
Chidaliro
Ngati tilingalira za chikhalidwe chachikhalidwe pokhapokha ngati tikulimbitsa mtendere, ndiye kuti anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi angasonyeze kuti mgwirizano wawo ndi wosatha, ndipo wokondedwa wawo amakhulupirira kuti adzakhala ndi ife tsiku lonse. Kukhala m'banja lachilendo, abwenzi amadziwa kuti ngati nikruti, ndipo m'moyo uno tiyenera kudalira makamaka wokondedwa wathu ndipo timabwera kudziko lino lokha, ndipo timachoka popanda kupititsa patsogolo. Gwirizanitsani, chifukwa pali zitsanzo zambiri zomwe anthu ambiri sakhala nawo, ngakhale ana omwe samasulidwa kuchoka kuchinyengo, matenda oopsa kapena ngozi.
Zoona, sitiyenera kubisala kuti maukwati a alendo amathandizidwa ndi anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro apadera ndi moyo: iwo sakhala odziimira okha, amadziimira okha popanda kudalira munthu wina kupatulapo iwo okha, iwo ndi oona mtima okha, kuvomereza kuti sangathe kukhala moyo wawo wonse ndi wokondedwa wawo. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti ndi anthu omwe ali m'magulu awa omwe amathandiza maganizo ndi banja la alendo. Ena onse, osakhala ndi ubale wolimba komanso osakayikira m'tsogolomu, adzavutika ndi zochitikazi.
Yankhulani motsutsana ndi banja la alendo komanso omwe adagwa mu vutoli. Izi zikuphatikizana ndi maanja, omwe apeza, adalandira malo osangalatsa mumzinda wina ndipo amatha kuwona theka lawo lachiwiri pa masiku osawerengeka a maholide. Osakhutitsidwa ndi zochitika ndi banja la alendo komanso omwe sangagule kapena kubwereka nyumba, momwe banja lingakhaliremo.
Koma wina sangaganize kuti anthu onse okhala m'banja lachilendo kuyambira pachiyambi adagwirizana pazochitika zoterezi. Nthawi zambiri izi zimakakamizidwa. Chitsanzo choonekera, chomwe tatchula pamwambapa. Ndizoti wina wa okwatirana ayenera kugwira ntchito kapena kuphunzira mumzinda wina.
Pazifukwa zina, ukwati wotero uli ndi ufulu wopanda malire, koma nthawi zina amai amafuna kuti azikakamiza mwamuna wawo ndi chinachake chokoma, akunyamulira pabedi lozizira, kukonzekera kadzutsa ndi kusuta pamaso pa ntchito. Amuna amavutika, chifukwa kutali ndi amayi, alibe chikondi chokwanira komanso chithandizo.
Ganizirani
Anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi kukhalapo kwa magawo awiri omwe ali pafupi, omwe ali okonzeka kugawana nawo chimwemwe ndi chisoni, omwe akufuna kulumikizana ndi ana awo wokondedwa, sangagwirizane kuti akakhale m'banja la alendo. Chokhacho ndizokakamizidwa, chifukwa zimakhala zosangalatsa kuti azitha kugwira ntchito zawo zapakhomo, kapena wokondedwa, pokhapokha atabwerera kuchokera kuntchito, kuchokera kwa amayi kapena ku masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Ngati mulibe ana pano ndipo mwakonzekera kuyesayesa mwamphamvu, zingakhale kuti banja la alendo ndilofunika. Zonsezi mudzakhala ndi ukwati wachikale ndi chovala choyera, sitampu mu pasipoti komanso kuzindikira kuti muli ndi mwamuna.
Ali ndi banja la alendo komanso zosiyana siyana. Choncho, mwamuna kapena mkazi ali ndi nthawi yochuluka, yomwe amadzipangira yekha: ngati mukufuna kuchita ntchito, mukufuna kukonza masewera kapena ma motocross. Mphindi wina wokondweretsa umene umakhalapo pazochitikazi ndi chikondi chokhazikika, chomwe chimasungidwa panthawi yolumikizana ndi okwatirana.
Chosavuta chachikulu cha banja lachilendo chikhoza kuganiziridwa, monga nistranno, malingaliro olakwika a ena, ambiri a iwo amaona kuti anthuwa sangakhale opotoka, omwe maukwati awo adzatha posachedwa.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti banja la alendo likhoza kuonedwa kuti ndilo kusintha kwa kanthawi kochepa komanso kuyesa maubwenzi kuti akhale amphamvu. Kuwonjezera apo, ndizovuta kwambiri kuti ana akule muzochitika zotere ndipo abambo omwe amasankha kukhala ndi mwana amabadwanso posakhalitsa, ndipo abambo awo amabwerera ku njira yachikhalidwe yambiri.