Kodi mungachotse bwanji chikondi chopanda pake kwa mwamuna ?
Poyambirira, muli ndi chikhumbo chochotsani chikondi kwamuyaya, musalole kuti mumvetsetse bwino mtima wanu. Koma simungathe kuchita izi. Ntchito yaikulu pa nthawi ino ndi kusiya kukonda wina amene sanabwezeretse, kuti athetse chikondi chimene chimayaka mtima. Koma ngati mutachita izi, muyenera kukhala ndi mwayi kuti muwonenso kumverera koyera komanso koyera.
Choyamba, choyamba, nkofunikira kuletsa telefoni "uchigawenga". Poyambirira inu mumamuyitana ndipo mumakhala chete, kumangomva mawu a okondedwa anu, kenako mumapachikidwa. Ndi ichi pozavonachivat. Chowonadi ndi chakuti poyesa chiwerengero cha munthu yemwe samakumverani, mumatenganso chilonda chanu. Panthawi yomwe mumatenga foni kuti imve mawu ake, imbani, ngati simukufuna, nambala, mwachitsanzo, mnzanu. Dziwonetseni nokha nkhani zopanda pake zokhudzana ndi zomangamanga, za anzanu wamba, ndi zina zotero. Komanso, kulankhulana kwaubwenzi ndi chinthu chovutikira, ngati pali chomwecho, ndibwino kuti musalekerere kwa kanthawi.
Chachiwiri, yesetsani kuchita popanda zochitika zodabwitsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati simubwera, ndiye kuti ndidzaika manja anga pa ine, ndi zina zoterezi sizingayambitse zabwino. Sikunatheke kuti munthu aliyense adziphangire yekha kwa wina ndi mnzake mothandizidwa ndi kuumirizidwa ndi kusokonezeka. Sipanganso kulangizidwa kuyitanira munthu kuti amve udindo. Chowonadi chiri chakuti mu lingaliro la chikondi palibe amene ali ndi chirichonse chomwe ali nacho. Kupatulapo ndi udindo kwa mkazi wake ndi ana ake. Ndikofunika kuti mkaziyo azikhala odzidalira komanso opirira. Koma pamene muli nokha - molimba mtima mulole mtima wanu ndi misonzi ikuyenda, musadzikundikire nokha.
Chinthu chachitatu chimene muyenera kuchita kuti muchotse chikondi ndicho chakuti muyenera kuchotsa chilichonse chomwe chikukugwirizanitsani ndi munthu (zithunzi, zinthu, mphatso) popanda kudandaula. Kwa kanthawi, mwinamwake kwanthawizonse, mwatsoka, muyenera kusiya amzanu omwe mumacheza nawo, kuti mukhale ndi mtendere wa mumtima. Komanso, lekani kuyankhulana ndi anthu omwe mwadzikonda nthawi zonse amakukumbutsani. Izi zidzakuthandizani kupewa nkhawa ndi zopweteka zosafunikira.
Chinthu chachinayi choti muchite ndicho kukhala ndi zosangalatsa mwakuti simungakhale ndi nthawi yokhala ndi zovuta. Pambuyo pake, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, njira zatsopano zothetsera chikondi chikondi. Musagwirizane ndi ntchito yodalirika, chifukwa imathandizira kulingalira za chinthu chovutikira. Choncho, pewani zochita zanu mochuluka momwe mungathere. Pezani zokondweretsa zomwe mumaganizira kwambiri, pangani anzanu atsopano ndi anzanu. Mukhoza kuchita kuvina, phunzirani kusewera zida zoimbira, kuyamba kujambula, kulemba, ndi zina zotero. Ngati chinachake sichikugwira ntchito, ndiye kulembera maphunziro, mwachitsanzo, kuvina, kujambula, kuchita, etc. Kugonjetsa mphamvu ya chikondi, mudzaphunzira kupanga chinachake chokongola. Koma chofunika koposa, chikondi chidzatha, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi talente, yomwe, mwinamwake, idzakhala maziko a ubale watsopano.
Chachisanu, muyenera kuyamba kudziyika nokha. Loweruka ndi Lamlungu, musatuluke pabedi musadye chakudya, penyani kanema yosangalatsa, gulani mtolo, pitani ku kanema ya gulu lanu lokonda, pemphani anzanu ndikukonzekere phwando. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti mafilimu omwe mumasankha kuwayang'ana samakuletsani kwa munthu mwanjira iliyonse. Kwa munthu yemwe mukufuna kumukhalira, sankakondweretsa gulu lomwe mukupita. Potsiriza, ndi nthawi yosintha fano lanu. Pitani ku salon, dzigulireni nokha zinthu zatsopano, sintha tsitsi lanu, mugulitseni zonunkhira zatsopano, zomwe munalota. Muyenera kukhala munthu wosiyana, ndipo kukumana ndi chikondi chosagonjetseka chiyenera kuchoka ku chithunzi chakale.
Chachisanu ndi chimodzi, kuchotsa chikondi chosadziwika, yesetsani kuchita chotsatira. Pezani pepala ndipo yesetsani kufotokoza makhalidwe abwino omwe amuna omwe mumakonda. Mfundo zenizeni ziyenera kulembedwa. Kodi chinthu chabwino chotani pa kupembedza kwanu, chomwe chinakukozani chidwi chanu? Nchifukwa chiyani mwamuna uyu woyenera chikondi chako? Kodi akuchita chiyani ndi zomwe wapindula nazo? Ngati muli ndi mfundo yachitatu padzakhala zovuta, ndi bwino kulingalira ngati mumadziwa bwino munthu mwachikondi. Mwinamwake, munangomupatsa munthu makhalidwe abwino ndikuyamba kuwakonda. Yesetsani kufotokoza mmene mumamvera pamapepala, kenako muwafufuze. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kumverera, kutuluka pamapepala, kumataya mphamvu.
Chachisanu ndi chiwiri, musati musokoneze malingaliro anu. Simusowa kuti munthu aganize kuti ndiwe wosangalala pamene mukungofuna kukhala nokha ndikufuula mokweza. Lolerani kuti mutuluke kwathunthu zovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo, pokhapokha mutseguka kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino. Komanso, simungathe kukhumudwa, ndikupereka chisangalalo chotere. Ngati mumagwirizanitsa mkati mwa inu nokha, mukhoza kudzikweza wina ndi manja anu, okondwa ndi oona mtima.
Mukayerekezera malangizi onsewa, ndiye kuti mumachotsa chikondi cha munthu yemwe sakusangalatsani. Pakapita nthawi, mudzadabwa ndi zomwe mwakumana nazo pokhudza izi. Kumbukirani kuti ndiwe nokha m'moyo wanu, zomwe zimakhala zambiri pamoyo wanu zingakhale zochepa. Chinthu chachikulu sichikutseka nokha ndipo musalowe mukuvutika maganizo, koma phunzirani momwe mungaphunzire kuchokera ku zochitika zosiyanasiyana za moyo.